(Closed) How long is your engagement?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: how long from when he proposed till you said "I do"?
    < 6 months : (12 votes)
    8 %
    6 months - 1 year : (39 votes)
    27 %
    1 year - 18 months : (53 votes)
    37 %
    18 months - 2 years : (25 votes)
    18 %
    2 - 3 years : (9 votes)
    6 %
    > 3 years : (4 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 17
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    2829 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We will be getting married 2 months shy of the 4 year mark of being engaged. we’ll have been together for 7 years by the date of the wedding.

    so yeah no, 28 months is not insane. nowhere near it.

    Post # 18
    Member
    591 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Ugh.  I get the snarky comments too.  Our engagement will be 22 months when all is said and done.  We are opening a business this summer and we want to pay for a good portion of the wedding ourselves and don’t want to go into debt. Therefore we are saving so we can pay mostly cash for the wedding.

    My one coworker in particular is busting my balls about it.  I tell him if he wants to fund the wedding he is more than welcome. 

    I also get the “opinions” from people…’I would go nuts if I had such a long engagement!’ or ‘what’s taking so long?’.

    People are jackasses and need to keep their mouth’s shut.  If I could I’d get married tomorrow but I know the type of wedding my Fiance and I want and we can’t come up with the money overnight.

    Post # 19
    Member
    14966 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I feel like the typical engagement will be a year – 1.5 yrs just based on the fact that most people want to get married around summer time.  So if you get engaged in the beginning of the year (New Years, Valentines day, graduation seems popular), its next to impossible to plan a wedding for that same year and you’re forced to have a year + long engagement.  Mine will be a 14 month engagement for that reason.

    Post # 20
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    1086 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Your engagement is longer than normal. BUT only you know how much time you need etc. so don’t let anyone tell you otherwiseor give you a hard time about it. My engagement was a little over a year. Personally, after planning it, I wish I had a shorter engagement. After a few months, everything was planned and I wa so ready for it to just happen and be done. I think a lot of brides put too much pressure on themselves to have everything perfect so they don’t want a short engagement. But it depends on what you want and how big your wedding is and where you are in life etc etc. No one can tell you what YOU should do.

    Post # 21
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    6997 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    7 months and 2 days! for us…but i think it really depends on the couple and your life situations…we would have had a longer engagement but my brother left for afghanistan this morning ๐Ÿ™ and it was really important to me to have him at our wedding – so my choice was february or whenever he got back and i didnt want to wait that long (he may do 2 tours back to back) we were both ready to get married, had our own places and secure jobs, we made decent money so there was just no reason to wait the extra months for my bro to get home.

    Post # 22
    Member
    674 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    By the time we get married, it’ll be 20 months (18 since setting the date).

    Post # 23
    Member
    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We were together 2 years before he proposed. We were engaged 2 years before we picked a date. And on our wedding day it will be 2 1/2 years since he proposed. Well worth the wait because we were able to save up and have everything we ever wanted on our wedding day. Also gave us more time to get to know eachother. We both agreed 2 years of dating wasn’t long enough to get married that soon but, we felt good about being engaged and waiting.

    Post # 24
    Member
    2192 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We have an 18 month long engagement.  We did not start planning until the New Year and there was 16 months left.  I am enjoying myself and the planning.  We get to see all of what’s out there and not settle for poo poo.  I knew I wanted a May wedding too so 7 months to plan while possible is not what I wanted. 

    Enjoy this time.  The time will fly by faster than you think!  I can’t believe its already March.  Don’t take what others are saying to heart.  They don’t know you or your Fiance.

    Post # 25
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    2392 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Ours will be about 20 months, but there was no specific point where he proposed and we suddenly became engaged.  We actually knew for a few years that we would be getting married late summer / early fall 2011 (I think since late 2008 maybe), but we weren’t really engaged (no one else knew we had decided that already).  Sometime in 2009 he asked me if I wanted him to propose and I told him I didn’t, and towards the end of that year we decided we were engaged and should start planning / telling people.

    We get a few questions about why we’re taking so long, but nothing snarky or rude.  Most couples we know have had fairly long engagements – 12-18 months is pretty normal.

    Post # 26
    Member
    2191 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Ours will be 18months and 5 days! We got engaged Dec 14th 2010 and will Marry on May 19th 2012.

    Post # 27
    Member
    511 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    We have been dating since 2004 so a long engagement was out of the question for me. I’m just ready to marry my man!

    That being said, engaged Sept. 24th, 2010, and we will be married August 28th, 2011. So a little under a year. Perfect. ๐Ÿ™‚

    All brides need to do what is best for them and thier fiances.

    Post # 28
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    2161 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    8 months.  We were only dating for 5 months when we got engaged.

    Post # 29
    Member
    4038 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    3 months. We wanted a very small, intimate wedding. We got engaged in July, and wanted to get married in October, and really didn’t want to wait another year. We were very eager to start a family, and it was important to us that we be married before we did. 

    I got a *ton* of comments about it being a shotgun wedding (it wasn’t). It was a super-stressful 3 months, but I’m really awful about making decisions. I stress out when I have a lot of options available to me (silly, I know). I think I would have been a crazy wreck stressing and going back and forth on every little decision if I’d have had 15 months to plan. Instead I had to make quick choices and not second-(or third or fourth)guess them. I didn’t have time to do otherwise. 

     

    Post # 30
    Member
    3048 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    We’ll be engaged for 6 months! I’m not sure that I could wait any longer. I hate planning for the wedding, and I’ve basically been done for months now. Plus we have a long distance relationship, so I’m really tired of being away from him for long periods of time. I know of a few people that have 28 month engagements (maybe not that much exactly but ballpark). I don’t think it’s insane. They have various reasons why and it all seems fine with me ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 31
    Member
    5 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    My Fiance and I have been together for about 5 and half years. We were enganged May 2010 and will be getting married Sept. 2011. I think it is totally up to you and what is going on in your life. Everyone has a way that works for them. My Friend was engaged probably 6 months before me and she isn’t having her wedding until 2012. I figure my Fiance and I plan on being together forever and for me being married is nice and im super excited about it but im gonna be with him either way! So NO, 28 month engagement is not insane at all! ๐Ÿ™‚

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