(Closed) How Long is Your Wait to Have Kids?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

I got married at 26, and we’re holding off until I’m 30 to even begin a kids discussion. So, at least 4 years. Mr. Peng and I were together for 7 years before we got married, so it wasn’t a matter of being able to spend time together as a couple… but we’re just not ready. If I were ready though, I wouldn’t have minded only waiting a year after marriage to start trying! 2 years is a nice round number 🙂

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

My Darling Husband and I are newlyweds now (7 mths) and we will be trying in March. I am scared at times knowing things will change however I also dont have time on my side. We have been togethor 3 yrs when we married and lived togethor all that time except 4 mths, so we are past the getting to know each other phase and are settled in our careers and life. I am 30, not old, but I had surgery for my Endometriosis and lost an ovary and fallopian tube. I still have the same chance if I had 2 but, I am also risking my condition to flare up being off bc for an extended period and she thinks by 35 I may not be able to at all. I go through the excited scared phase daily and today is scared, but mostly we are excited. We have weighed it out and we are ready, if it happens it happens!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think we will start trying on our honeymoon. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We are also trying in March!  I am 31, and we want two…so we are running out of time simply because I would prefer to have them when I am under 35.  We are ready, even though we are still really newlyweds.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We are waiting 2 years.

We have been married almost 6 months. I am 30 and he is 33. I wish that we could start trying now,  We are wating for 2 main reasons: money and school

Like most people who paid for thier own wedding….we are broke now. We really need to have a savings and be a little better established before have start a family

I have 2 years until I get my degree….to that is the timeline we are working around

Post # 8
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1288 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

I want to start discussing the possibility in 4 years. We probably won’t “try” until I’m 30 though.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

Boyfriend or Best Friend and I agreed that serious kid-talk doesn’t come until we’re 30.  First I was against, and he was for.  I think we’re both on the fence now, but agree that we want to be married and 30 before we start considering having kids, and done by 35.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Well we have been married almost a month, lol!  And won’t be trying for 5-7 years.  I don’t want to have kids until I am 28 or 30.  I want to spend some time with my husband, traveling, establishing ourselves financially, and just having fun!  We hope by that time, we will have enough money to buy a house in the ‘burbs and keep our condo as a rental unit. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@otb, good! everyone I know thinks I’m crazy for wanting to wait so long! I’m waiting at least 7 years too. I’m only 20, and it’s so important to me to finish school and have a job. Kids aren’t a priority in my life right now. 

He is fine with waiting… he’s older than me though by nearly 5 years so I do feel kinda bad making him wait so long… idk, maybe it will turn out to be more like 5 years…but still, then I’m only 25. that’s so young to me!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We are planning on waiting another 3-4 years and will start trying when I am 29/30 and he is 31/32. We are waiting for him to finish his Ph.d. and to have our finances more secure (I am only 8 months out of grad school) but it is hard when we both want a little one!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I’m 29, and we’ve talked about waiting at least a year, but no more than 2. 

Post # 15
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532 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m 24 and we have talked about trying to get pregnant when I am 28. I only want 2 kids and would like to have them sooner than later. In all honesty, I am starting to feel ready now. The last time I got my period, I felt this little pang of saddness which really suprised me!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Likely a year or two.

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