(Closed) How long should I wait for a proposal?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

I would give him the benefit of the doubt and ask him what is going on. some men don’t like disappointing so they keep quiet about things when they are unable to produce. Maybe he thought if he didn’t say anything, you wouldn’t remember. Speak up, ask him and have a clear conversation. Let him know he disappointed you more by avoiding than by keeping you abreast of the situation.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Yes this just seems like you need to clarify things again.  He may have chickened out at the last minute and thought you’d forget or something.  So bring it up and ask.  Men dont like timelines though so dont expect him to concede to your wishes.  1 year is fast, but i undestand your desire to start a family now. 

So all i can adivce is to talk to him and claify things again. 

Post # 6
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115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Well I wouldn’t freak out too much. My Fiance had the ring in his pocket for days and just couldn’t find the right time to pop the question. He even took me to Sea World one day and the zoo the next weekend. He took me on a ton of romantic walks too. This lasted for about a month and one day we were walking the dog and he just did it right there in the middle of the side walk. Maybe he’s just waiting for the time to be right.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@SpringNYC: I’m sure he doesn’t want to break up just because he didn’t propose over the holiday. He probably thought you were expecting it and wants to have the element of surprise.    I wouldn’t talk to him about it until after you come back from your trip.. but that’s just me. If you come home and he proposes, it will be so much better than if you mentioned it THEn he did it! Speaking from someone who took a huge part in the proposal process. I would talk about it with my Fiance all the time and I helped pick out the ring. I totally knew when he was going to do it lol. He didn’t tell me but it was easy to see!! A divorce isn’t something that can be rushed so I’m sure it’s in the process. Good luck! Be patient! πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Helper bee

He’s probably trying to throw you off. It definitely sounds like he has the ring though, so I wouldn’t worry too much! Back in October, before Fiance proposed, he started asking me about rings and how much a wedding would cost. All the things he would NEVER bring up before. I kind of thought something was up, but we had made plans to go ring shopping on a Monday in December, and the Friday before was my B-day. We were in Key Largo for the day, and I didn’t really think anything of it, until he asked me how mad I would be if we didn’t go ring shopping and then he reached in his pocket πŸ˜‰

Men are sneaky, and if he’s a traditional type of guy, he will want to catch you off guard. Try not to stress about it (trust me, I know how hard it is to not think about it!). 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

@SpringNYC: Good luck! It’s a shame he didn’t tell you in advance of NYE but maybe he thought you’d forget and ignorance is, as they say, bliss. Things are looking up for you – keep us posted!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would definitely be dropping some major hints if I were you… Maybe he’s just waiting until you least expect it! It was about a month after I stopped dropping hints that it happened for us

Post # 15
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Busy bee

awesome! it sounds like the proposal is coming SOON!

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