Post # 1
I know this is a question I can only answer for myself, but I’d like to hear opinions from some Bees.
I called off my wedding to my fiance a month ago. I have friends who think it would benefit me to let them set me up on a casual date or two, but I’m not sure what kind of timeline is appropriate or what I’d be comfortable with. I am broken hearted and not sure whether having more time to myself would feel better, or if going on a date or two to realize there are still decent men out there would be a welcome distraction 🙁
Post # 3
Just don’t jump into another relationship. If you don’t think you can just casually date, then wait. If you are a serial monogamist give yourself some time. I was engaged and called of my wedding. It was a difficult period of time for me even though it was my decision. I stayed single for about 6 months or so and it really changed my life. I had jumped into one relationship from another since the time I was about 15 and it was nice to take some time to figure out what was really important to me in a relationship. I ended up going on a few casual dates at the end of the 6 months and then ended up finding my soon to be husband shortly after that (5 days left eeks!)
Post # 5
I don’t know if you’re like me, but I hated being alone. Really stinking hated it.
I was living by myself for the first time. Which was an adjustment to start and I was lonely at night when I was alone by myself. So I signed up for free dating sites and web chatted with guys in order to keep myself entertained and not fall right back into dating. I still got attention and could have conversation all while sitting in pj’s, eating ice cream, and not moving too fast 🙂
I don’t know you’re situation and calling off a wedding usually means something terrible happened, it did to me anyway. I had a really hard time in the beginning cutting the old Fiance out completley. He really wanted me back and at times it was hard to escape from him out of comfort, feeling lonely, and some weird way I wanted to hurt him and make him pay. DONT DO THIS! It just makes it harder to turn the page and grow as an individual.
Post # 6
My ex-husband left me on April 18, 2007. I was devastated and didn’t know how my life would be after that, but I resolved to pick myself up. He left me during midterm week of my last quarter of my undergrad studies. So I pushed through my depression to finish as strongly as possible. (And I did. I landed on the Dean’s List and etc.)
I went about life as happily as I could. I realized that I should be proud of myself and never settle for less. It was definitely hard to realize that when my pending divorce made me feel otherwise.
I met current Boyfriend or Best Friend around the beginning of May. I didn’t want to jump into another relationship, but I suppose it just came out naturally when I finally felt compelled to be selfish for once. When I watched my ex-husband rush out our door (to which I later found…he was meeting another woman at that time) I promised myself that my happiness will take precedence over everything else.
My relationship with my Boyfriend or Best Friend officially began on May 25, 2007. We did break up several times over the year because if my problems, and he also had a whole set of his own. But I never really thought twice “jumping” into another relationship. I did what made me happy, and it’s impossible to regret that.
Post # 7
I’ve been on a few dates now, and I’m starting to feel a little more like a normal person 🙂 Nothing serious… giving myself a few months to just, well, give myself a few months.
Post # 8
glad things are getting better-