(Closed) How long should I wait to follow up non-responding RSVPs?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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659 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i’m bitter about this stuff. lol mine was due the 15th. so far i have gotten 2 late ones yesterday. i am only waiting a week.if they don’t respond, and show up… then they can sit in a corner by themself because i reminded everyone the week it was due to send them in wether they r coming or not. they had a month and a half to respond!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I started my calls 2 weeks after our “due date”… and still didn’t have the “final” count till 10 days before the wedding.

I saw a suggestion to have ya’lls parents make the calls b/c a guest was more likely to be honest in their not coming than with ya’ll.. b/c they wouldn’t want to tell you “no”

I found that we had quite a few people tell us “yes” that ultimately didn’t show, so I might go with the parentals callling… might get a more accurate count 😉

Post # 6
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566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m planning to wait a week to start the calls.  However, I will probably grow impatient and start making calls about 3 days after the due date…

Post # 7
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113 posts
Blushing bee

i wont be messing around its plain and simple. i dont feel its rude to call them whenever you think is the absolute latest you need to know give or take a couple days of leaving messages.  ill be leavig messages and i will make it clear if i dont hear back from you via email/phone/text then i will assume you have further engagements. you will be missed.

it’s not to be mean but its mean to leave people hanging.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Our rsvp by date is in 10 days and I have responses from less than half of the people. Something’s gonna have to happen.

Since you have 2 months still I think you can wait a little while before calling people. Maybe mid May

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

even if you call people, and they say yes… they could still be just saying that. so i’m not doing any phone calls. i’m happy with my numbers. we actually ended up with 75… and that’s the number we wanted. there’s still one invite im waiting on to come cuz i know they are coming, but everyone else can screw it! they’ll be in their own corner if they show up because i’m not waiting around when i can do my seating chart now. but of course my venue will cater to them and seat them with people… DARN! lol

waiting for people just slows down the process. you could be making a specific number of thank yous, escorts, programs.

Post # 11
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572 posts
Busy bee

I did all of the above…call, FB, text, verbal. Some of these folks I see almost daily and it was a pain in the [email protected]*. Anyway, My deadline was March 30 and I just received an RSVP in the mail yesterday. I have to give my count. We tried multiple ways and times to get answers. I have a gut feeling that some will not show that said yes. Thank goodness we are only 8 over our guarantee. If anyone shows up that did not RSVP they can enjoy the music and have a drink, but will not be served dinner unless someone else that did RSVP did not show up.

I gave you a stamp for goodness sake!!!!

Post # 12
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would call right away..

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would wait a week maybe? I think people use the rsvp by date as the last date to mail it out.. not considering thats when you actually WANT them back by.

Post # 14
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125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My RSVP date is May 1st- I don’t plan to wait longer than a day or two after that!!

Post # 15
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491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@runsyellowlites: The final count thing 10 days before freaks me out! OH MY GOD!  I really hope this doesn’t happen to me.

Post # 16
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659 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i think it’s very rude when people don’t respond on time! any next parties im throwing that requires rsvp… i’m going to give them 2 weeks rather than 1.5 month to respond.

i have to give the final count 14 days before the wedding and the payment too. it’s gonna be 10k for my 75 people. so these ppl that didn’t respond better not be showing up because then we’ll get charged for them too at $140 per head. we get an additional bill the night of the wedding with how much drinks everyone has consumed and for those that showed up that didn’t rsvp. sucks!

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