(Closed) How long should the first dance be?

posted 10 years ago in Music
Post # 3
9048 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think if you want to dance to the whole song, do it.

Or make cuts of verses that make sense, rather than a specific time.

Or maybe open up the floor for your wedding party or guests to join in part way through?

Post # 4
302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think our first dance song is about 3-3.5 minutes. We don’t have a DJ, so people will just have to deal with us doing the sixth grade sway until our three minutes are up! 🙂

Post # 5
12 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think you should dance the whole 6 minutes.   This is your guys’ special day.   enjoy it!

Post # 6
518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Our song is 6 minutes and we are going to enjoy all 6 together!

Post # 7
436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I had our DJ fade our song out after a few minutes because our song was long too.  Then they just started playing a new song for everyone else to dance too.  If the song’s too long for the first dance it just seems awkard sometimes.

Post # 8
3048 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I agree, the DJ should fade the song after a few minutes. As a guest, I would prefer for the fade to come sooner than later… like after 2 minutes at the latest! It’s always so boring looking at the couple for any longer than that. Personally, I think it’s really cute to watch them for a few seconds, then my mind just starts going everywhere, like when can I start eating again? Baha! I know that sounds so wrong.

Anyway, if the dance is particularly important for you and your fiance, then I would let the DJ play the song a little longer than 3 minutes, then fade. But please, not 6 minutes 🙂

Post # 9
2475 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Our first dance song was exactly 3 minutes long, which seemed perfect, if not a bit too long.  If fact, towards the end of our first dance, I remember whispering to DH “man, this is a long song huh?” and he agreed.  It ended just as we were beginning to feel awkward.  Tongue out

Post # 10
10282 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Our song is 4 minutes long but the Bridal Party will be joining in about half way through in an attempt to draw some of the eyes off of us. 

Post # 12
7691 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Our song was about 4 minuts and it seemed to go on forever!

Post # 13
5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I say 3 max… and not for your guests sake but yours!

Have you practiced the first dance? (don’t forget to do that)….

You might start feeling like its foooooorever.

I read from another bride that even 3 minutes felt really long with everyone there watching. lol

Our song is just over 3 minutes & really the “musical end” we may very well fade out.

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