(Closed) How long should we be engaged?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: What date would be better?
    Oct 25, 2013 : (13 votes)
    22 %
    Oct 25, 2014 : (39 votes)
    66 %
    Scrap Oct 25 and pick a new date. : (7 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
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    9483 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @honeybee-andme:  I was engaged for 22 months.  Unfortunately, we can’t stop outside life when it comes to planning a wedding.  There will always have to be accomodations or compromises made somewhere.  No one is going to forget you’re engaged!  You will have so much planning to do that you’re going to want people to forget so they stop asking you questions!  Best of luck to you!

    Post # 4
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    2143 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I think it’s silly to rush to get married if you think that it is not financially possible because of other people’s opinions. If 2014 works best for you, than choose that date! My SO and I will be having a 2-2.5 year engagement because we are in our last year before graduation and need as much time as possible to plan and save. Dont let the opinions of others effect your choices! 

    Post # 5
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    1832 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I picked 2014, best to save as much cash as you can so you don’t go in debt over the wedding, pay as much in cash as possible, with maybe a little on credit. Good luck

    Post # 9
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    734 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Honestly I don’t think that 2014 is too long to wait. I’m also planning on a wedding probably in late summer of 2014. Its only 20 months, or a year and 8 months which makes it seem even shorter. Its not even a full 2 years! When I think about it, come this spring and summer we’ll be booking venues and getting Save-The-Date Cards ready for fall (we’re having a destination wedding, so we’ll send things out a little earlier). I honestly don’t think anyone is going to forget about you! =) Don’t know what its like in Ohio, but just next door in Pennsylvania most people where I am are engaged for at least a year, if not more.

    2014 is long enough, but I definitely don’t think too far away! Now if you waited more like 3 years, then people might start to lose excitement…

    Post # 10
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    1832 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @honeybee-andme:  We are actually very close to that goal, we got engaged on Jan 8, 2012, and are getting married on Jan 20, 2013, and according to my spreadsheet of expenses, we will be paying for everything in cash with only 2-3 grand going on credit, and that includes everything for the wedding and honeymoon. It sucked being so broke this past year with everything going into savings, but all the hard work is paying off. Just to put things into perspective we are looking at a grand total of $23K for everything. We are very proud of ourselves.

    Post # 13
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    1578 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

    I’m a college student and our engagement period by the time we are married will be 9 months. It’s hard and you definitely have to scrap your money together, but Fiance and I want to be married next summer, and June 1 is really close to our 3 1/2 anniversary so we’re making this work.

     

    That being said, if you just don’t have the money right now I’d say move it back a year. Or just get a new date.

    Post # 15
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    1425 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center

    Personally, I would go with sooner.  I feel like I’ve been waiting forever to get married and it has been just about 10 months, and I still have 8 to go!  There are ways to cut costs and work around the money issue.  

    Having a long engagement is kind of nice, but there have been so many times we’ve wondered why we wanted to wait so long.  I wish the timing had worked out better for us!  But we were set on getting married in August, and 6 months seemed much too quick.  I keep putting things off since we’re still so far out, like Save-The-Date Cards and Invites and caterer and more…

    So if you think you could make it work, I would suggest doing it sooner!  10 months is quite awhile still, but 22 seems like eternity (to me!)

    Post # 16
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    734 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @honeybee-andme:  Yeah, I definitely get what you’re saying! I figure things could change in any amount of time, so we may as well do what is going to work for us! I completely understand your thoughts though. I get worried about everyone else too, but everyone else is expecting you to make it about you. =) Do what you need to do!

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