Post # 1
Everyone was so helpful answering my last etiquette question, that I thought I would ask another one. Some background information: My fiance and I have recently joined a young couples social group and have met a few nice couples this way. We only hang out with them in this group setting, but that is typically a couple times a month for the past few months. The couples in the group are aware that we are getting married and most seem very excited for us.
My fiance and I are trying to decide if we should invite any of the couples in the group to the wedding. We feel closer to some of the couples than the others, so should we only invite those? Or would that cause hurt feelings among the couples that aren’t invited? Our wedding is still about 7 months away, so it is possible that some of the couples will leave the group and new couples will join. However, if I am inviting people to the wedding, I want to send them a save the date sometime next month.
My question is how long should you know a friend before you invite them to your wedding?
Post # 3
First how many couples are we talking about? 4 or 10?
I would forgo the save the dates since that is not necessary since as you said you just met them and in another 4 months a lot could happen.
Then when its time for the invites I would invite those only that you think of as friends and not as group members. Those that you truly think you would call up to get together should the group dissolve. You do not have to invite everyone if its a large group. However, I would be careful to not only leave one or two couples out if the rest are invited.
Post # 4
I would suggest you wait and see, like lefeymw
suggests, wait to give them invitation, but not save-the-dates.
If it helps: our criteria for inviting friends from specific settings (for us it’s coworkers), is only if we see them socially outside that particular setting; are they on our guest list.
Post # 5
Thanks for your help! It makes a lot of sense to skip the save the dates and just send out invitations when the time comes. By then I’ll have a better idea of who is an actual friend and not just a group member.
Post # 6
I would wait until you get closer to your wedding, but Darling Husband and I had the same dilema. We had friends that we clicked with right away and we ended up inviting them. They are now some of our besties.
Post # 7
I don’t think the length of time matters, I think it’s the quality of the friendship. I only started working at my current job 3 months ago, but I’m already planning on inviting two of my co workers who I get along with really well, whereas people I have known for three years or longer may not be getting an invite.