(Closed) How long to plan a wedding?

posted 12 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
1156 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York

We did it in 6 months for a March wedding.  9 months is enough time.. you don’t want to be engaged forever.

Post # 4
34 posts
  • Wedding: October 2020

9 months sounds perfect!

Then you have less time to second guess yourself as myself and other brides often do. I think it’s easy to second guess things like bridesmaid dresses, bridemaids themselves, etc…if you don’t leave yourself a lot of time to sit and ponder these things.

Blessings to you and your fiance and congratulations! 

Post # 5
60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

If the human body can grow another human in nine months, you should be able to figure out how to walk down the isle in that same amount of time.

Go for it honey! I think fall weddings are gorgeous!! 

(And congratulations!)

Post # 6
596 posts
Busy bee

we planned two weddings in six months (one of which was held overseas) so nine months is definitely doable.  just try not to get attached to any one particular vendor, since certain popular ones get booked up way in advance.  also, try not to get too caught up in the diy details unless you can really fit it in between work and school.


Post # 7
1718 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

If I had to do it all over again I would have done 9 months!  Its an appropriate amount of time to plan without feeling rushed while at the same time, not too long to where you second guess your decisions (mine was 16 months and boy did I waste a lot of time, effort, and money on ideas that I ended up scrapping!)  I think 8-12 months is the perfect length for engagement!

Post # 8
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I did 7 months. 9 months is more than enough time. You can plan without rushing but there’s no time to second guess yourself, which is really a blessing. You will not regret 9 months…by the time next September rolls around you will be ready for it to be here already!

Post # 9
152 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I think it depends on your flexibility. Shorter time frame means the need to be more flexible with dates, vendors etc… i’m doing a 23 month engagement which sounds great, but a lot of vendors won’t work with me until i’m only 12 months out. I found this one wedding planner who wouldnt’ even discuss details with me until i was only 12 months out (luckily i found another AWESOMEAMAZINGFANTASTIC Planner-Paola, Just chic Events) and the venue I want wont’ talk to me until 12 months out, so i’m trying to plan other things. I just booked my photog (Jordana, Hazelnut Photography) and i’m looking for a videographer now. Can’t do flowers, lighting, etc until i book the venue… so it sucks to be punished for being a planner. lol.


I’ve got the date I want, so i’m trying to plan what i can until the big 12 month mark 🙂

Post # 11
813 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2020

I’m planning mine in 9 months. I was in the exact same situation, except I wanted a spring wedding. If I had waited until the following spring, it would have been a 20 month engagement. I asked around, and everyone said that 9 months was great. In fact, people said that anything over a year was too long, in their opinions and that things seemed to drag out!

If you’re flexible on either the venue or the actual date, then you should still be fine. Just book a place first, and then you can get started on the rest! 

Post # 12
132 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Congrats, I had a fall wedding and am a huge fan of them!  I do think 9 months is plenty of time to plan a wedding but with that being said you might not get first choice of venue or vendors.  Those things tend to book up in a year in advance.  Also if you are catholic you might want to check with your priest.  Some are still very strict about a year engagement and the preparations that happen during that time.  We were engaged 13 months so that was enough time.

Post # 13
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

oh yes. That should be plenty of time. We only gave ourselves 6 months to plan. Just make sure that you have the place and the photographer booked as soon as you can and I would say you are set to go!

 Oh and p.s. If friends offer you help, take it. It will make the planning less stressful and fun 🙂

Post # 14
471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I was a full time student working part time, and I gave us 28 months to plan. It was perfect. I can’t imagine having done it in 9 months, but then again we were very particular about how we wanted everything, so flexibility is key.

Post # 15
107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - Auberge du Soleil

We did 11 months. It felt like a good time for us because we were not too rushed. We did have several "down" months so I think you could do it in less as long as you can secure vendors. Also, some people who have had really long engagements had vendors cance/go out of business so just keep that in mind too 🙂

Good luck and have fun! Mrs. Pinot Noir

Post # 16
735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

I’m a student working full time as well. We had a 18 month engagement due to my schooling. 

This is whyI did NOT get married while I was in school. 

1. plan a wedding with finals and midterms coming every month and a half

2. take time off work and school for the bach party, wedding and honeymoon

3. allow us AND our familes to SAVE enough money for the wedding I want without going into debt.

And because we started planning so early I was able to buy things on sale as they came up and pay for things a little bit at a time (for example the craft stores will have blow outs for ribbon, fake flowers, glitter etc from the holidays) 

 And remember, a wedding is just one day, it can wait a little while!

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