Post # 16
i knew my fiance was the one after one year however, if he would have proposed then i would have said no because i was not ready for that kind of commitment at age 20, he proposed 3 yrs later so total 4 years together we were both more mature and knew that was what we wanted out of life and we were done being reckless and irresponsible. that being said i dont feel like i really knew him until after our first year together, you get to know their reactions to stress both financial and emotional as well as getting to know his past and weaknesses. In my opinion you dont get the true measure of a person in a span of 6 months its just not possible your view is tinged with infatuation and you dont really see them as they truly are.
im glad we waited 4 years to get engaged i feel it was just perfect for our relationship 🙂
Post # 17
@Leprechaun: this is when I can totally understand long relationships. When you meet as teenagers, if your dating relationship didn’t last more than a year or so I’d be a bit worried. I know it works for some people, but being in a 6+ year relationship when you met in your 30’s….that I don’t really understand. But then, we’re open for criticism too as I’m now married and still haven’t known my Darling Husband for a full year, lol
Post # 18
We were together just shy of 7months when he proposed. We have now been together over a year and will be married in Nov.
I don’t really care what anyone says, I knew the first time I met him and he wasn’t far behind me in knowing. There is no set amt of time that makes it long enough to know. You just do.
Post # 19
He proposed after 3.75 years of dating. I knew pretty early on that I wanted to marry him but we didnt talk about it seriously for several years.
Post # 20
He got engaged just shy of our 7 year anniversary. We started dating at 15 & 16 YO. We will be married on our 10 year anniverssary. I love him so much!
Post # 21
I can understand past experiences, religion, fear, and age all being part of a decision to wait for marriage. In my situation, we knew we wanted to get married after about a year and a half, so I thought the propsal wasnt too far behind.
As for my girlfriend, they were friends first, but only for a few months and then started dating. They did mention not having an actual wedding for another year or so, so I guess they prefer long engagement over long relationship (pre engagement).
Post # 22
We got engaged just a mth into dating. We had been pretty close friends for a couple years though, so we knew most everything about each other… what’s important to the other and our core values on things like marriage, family, finances, etc.
Darling Husband will tell you that he knew and loved me looooooooooong before we were ever dating.
Working through issues through wedding planning (primarily past hurts) and pre-marital couseling (which was mostly just review of things we were already doing) and we both are completely confident in our decision.
I’m pro knowing each others core values & being on the same page as them and then you should know… b/c really everything else is just you choosing to not leave and to stand by each others side.
Post # 23
He proposed after 1 1/2 years together. We got married just after our 4 year anniversary. I think we timed it perfect.
Post # 24
My Fiance proposed after 11 months… although we bought a house together after 8 months. He bought my ring at 6 months but held off until 11 to give it to me. We will be engaged for a year and have been together a total of 26 months when we are married. We knew quickly, spent every single day together since we met, went on vacations, and began living together after a month.
Post # 25
You don’t know during the honeymoon stage! Everyone feels that way at that time… but yeah people still do it, get married… some work out some don’t but seems like everyone is that way, you never know what the future holds!
Post # 26
I’m in the minority…We were engaged 5 months after we started dating. In my opinion, you know when you know, and when you are both ready for a “real” relationship (not all rainbows and butterflies) then you’re good. We are also older than most (27 and 28 now) and met on match.com so we were both ready for a serious relationship. When he proposed we had been house hunting already for a month and a half, things went quick for us, lol. I figured after he didn’t run after I told him about having MS (we met 2 months after my diagnosis) he was a keeper. We decided to have a long engagement (1.5 years) because everything happened so fast and we weren’t living together yet. We ended up building a house and lived together 1 year and 1 month before our wedding. We definately went through hard times together but we made it through together and better for it, always as a unified couple.
Before I met him I always said I would never marry someone until at least a year later…it’s different for everyone I guess. My parents have their 30th anniversary next month and they were married 6 months to the day after they met.
Post # 27
@yassim I actually personally know more people who divorced after long-term dating relationships & living together pre-marriage than couples who dated less than a year and got married.
Like I said in my pp.. I think that it’s more of who chooses to stay regardless of the situation and circumstances and not as much as “time” from starting to date to marriage. (aside from infidelity or abuse)
Post # 28
He proposed after 11 months of dating. I thought it was good timing, I was getting the “waiting” itch but decided to wait until our 1 year anniversary to allow myself to start actually “waiting.”
Post # 29
We “knew” in 5 months (but over 1.5 years of friendship).
Made it legal in 1 yr 5 months, making it official with family and everyone after 2 years.
Post # 30
Everyone’s situation is different. It took him 2 years to propose… but that was the plan. We knew we wanted to marry each other before we even started dating. But there were other things in our life we had to do before marriage was feasible, i.e. finish school. We both wish it was sooner, but I didn’t want to be engaged longer than 6 months. It all worked out fine IMO 🙂