Post # 31
@runsyellowlites: My brother and SIL are going on 6 years of marriage. They lived together at times before that. My parents have been married 30+ years and they lived together before marriage too. In our family, it seems pretty common. I honestly couldn’t have imagined marrying my husband after a 1.5 of dating. I had just begun working full time and he got a new job. For us, we waited for financial stability and a little more maturity too. He gave me a year on my own with my new job before moving in together, so I wouldn’t miss that experience. We’ve given ourselves 2 years of marriage before kids, so we wouldn’t miss some experiences. It’s how we do things.
Post # 32
My husband proposed after just a bit less than six months of dating. BUT we were older (nearly 40) and had been friends for years before that. We started dating because we knew we wanted to be together, which for us meant being married. So we pretty much knew we planned to get married from the first date.
Post # 33
He proposed after we had been together a little over 4 years, and living together for 4 months. But we had been together since I was 19 and he was 21, so I definitely wasn’t expecting to get engaged after a year. 😉
Post # 34
We started dating September 2009 and he proposed Christmas Eve 2010. Never expected it to happen that soon, but I wouldn’t change it for the world.
Post # 35
I had known my beloved for 8 years when we got engaged.
However our time in terms of being in a relationship was more like 2.5 years of commitment, a 3 year old and a half cooked bun in the oven for him to pop the question. 🙂
Post # 36
It took my guy alittle more than 2.5 years from our first date. But we had a break of about 4 months in there and had a baby also- so we were “busy”.
Post # 37
It definitely depends on the couple. My husband and I knew each other for over 10 years before we ever dated (our moms were best friends and everything)…once we started dating he only waited 3 months to propose.
I had always admired and adored him growing up (but for some reason never thought that I could be with him), so when we finally started dating it was like “aha!”. All he had to do was kiss me and I knew he was the last first kiss I ever wanted to have. 🙂
Post # 38
I agree it depends on the couple and the surrounding circumstances. Mr. B and I are going on 7.5 years … still no proposal haha. But it wasn’t really the right time until recently.
How short is “too short” of a time before engagement? Well, I got nothin’ – a friend’s parents met and were married in three days while both on vacation in Europe. Happiest marriage I’ve ever seen, going on 28 years.
Post # 39
I knew after about a year, he knew after about a year and a half. We waited about two and a quarter years until he proposed because he wanted to be sure we were at least somewhat financially stable (he was finished with his master’s degree and had a job).
Post # 40
We had been together for 14 months and living together for 12 months when he proposed. But we both knew 6 months in that we wanted to get married.
Post # 41
Also have to add: my parents got engaged after two months and were married four months later. They are about to celebrate 25 years of marriage.
Yeah, they’ve had some rocky times. She has previously hinted that, if she had known some of the things she now knows, she would have thought a little longer about marrying him, but she’s happy with her marriage and with being with my dad. They’ve worked everything out and come out stronger in the end. I can’t imagine either of them being with anyone else (I know I’m a little biased). It just goes to show you that, in a lot of ways, marriage is what you make of it, and you often get out of it what you put into it.
Post # 42
He proposed at the right time for us. We had been together for 4 years and I sure as hell wanted it sooner but, I am happy he waited in the end.
Post # 44
- Wedding: September 2011 - Clark Gardens
We were together for 3 years and 1 month when he proposed. We dated for two years, moved in together after that and lived together for a year, and then got engaged.
For us, it was the perfect lenghth of time. But every relationship is different and I try to respect whatever path each couple has chosen for themselves, even if it is different than how our story went.
Post # 45
Darling Husband proposed to me on our 4 year anniversary. To be honest, I never considered myself “waiting”. We would talk about it and knew we wanted to be together and that is all that mattered to me. Now we are married and ready to spend the rest of our lives together 🙂