(Closed) How Long Until He Proposed?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How long did it take you?
    3-6 mos : (12 votes)
    6 %
    7-12 mos : (21 votes)
    11 %
    1-3 yrs : (82 votes)
    44 %
    4-6 yrs : (47 votes)
    25 %
    6+ yrs : (23 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 46
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    1664 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My Fiance waited 8 years to propose, but we started dating at 16, and had a long distance relationship for the last few years while I was in school. He proposed within a year of me arriving home. I wouldn’t have had it any other way.. I feel like we’re finally ready to concentrate on spending the rest of our lives toghether, and he knows me better than anyone… even better than I know myself.

    Post # 47
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    2286 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    We met in December, moved in together in early March, and he proposed two weeks later.

    My parents married six months after they met and just celebrated 30 years together.

    I had a friend who was with her boyfriend for 20 years before they married. A year later they divorced.

    You just never know.

    Post # 48
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    5110 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We were together for about a year when he proposed πŸ™‚ We will be getting married about 2 years and 4 months after we got together exclusively.

    Post # 49
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    1759 posts
    Buzzing bee

    We started talking about marriage very early on–within the first month or so we discussed when an ideal time to get engaged would be and agreed we didn’t want kids. I said I thought 2 years would be good, and he agreed.  It’s enough time to get to really know each other and to have been through some tough times. We moved in together after 7 months though. At 1 year he asked me to start thinking about rings and letting him know what I wanted (which got my hopes up for a much sooner proposal!) However, at about 1 1/2 years we had a really rough patch and I became uncertain–it was no fault of his and had nothing to do with our relationship really; it was a confusing time for me for many other reasons. Anyway, when we got through that I was absolutely certain that we was the man for me. He proposed on our 2-year anniversary. It was perfect.

    Post # 50
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    1623 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    He proposed 7 months in. I had known him for 6 years before hand though. I agree with PPs, when you know you know. And believe me 7 months can have some very trying times in it (layoff, family deaths, school financial aid problems, etc), but even early on he stuck by me and me by him no matter what happened. I think early on it may be easier to walk away from a tough situation than if you have been with the person for 5 years or more and the fact that neither of us said “Screw this I’m going to find something easier to deal with” spoke of our commitment.

    Post # 51
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    3126 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    @vmec: In my opinion you simply cannot KNOW that early. Yes you can be so super in love with someone in that time, but I do not think you can work through the true hard times in mere months you simply don’t come by true hard times in just a few months those months

    I disagree. When my bff met her husband, I knew within 2 weeks they would be married eventually. He had previously called off an engagement (within months of meeting her) and she hadn’t had a serious relationship in who knows how long but it was clear watching them interact and hearing them talk about each other that things were different. Within a couple months of their relationship, his grandma passed away. Then her mother was diagnoised with terminal cancer and passed away 4 months after that. They have faced more in a matter of months than most couples face in years. They were engaged within 9 months of meeting, married within 10 months.

    Wow, I used within a lot in that paragraph. Too lazy to edit or retype πŸ™‚

    Fiance and I were together off and on for about 7 years before we were engaged. I was his first girlfriend and he freaked out a bit when we started getting serious. I was ready a long time before he was. After he pulled away, I did as well and it took a lot of rebuilding for us to get back to where we were (2+ years). Now we are stronger than ever.

    I think the amount of time varies for couple to couple and neither is right or wrong. I don’t think my relationship is stronger than my friends because we have been together longer, nor do I think my friends relationship is stronger than mine because they have never broken up.

    Post # 52
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    131 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I can’t vote- he propsed on or first date πŸ™‚  We got a ring and he re-proposed around 7 months because he didn’t feel he “did it right the first time” but I still count our first date as our proposal because it was more real and intimate than our other one. (I totally believe in love at first sight πŸ™‚  )

    EDIT- we also didn’t get married for another 4 years 8 months, and had 2 kids in that time. Honeymoon stage was wayyyy over lol

    Post # 53
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    2023 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @MissHelen: i just read this to my SO, we’re not engaged yet, and he told me if we’re not married in 20 years, i have the right to break up with him. LOL

    Post # 54
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    1577 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Started dating in Jan 2010, moved in together in May 2010.  He proposed this past Feb… so about 1 yr and 1mo.  :o)

    Post # 55
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    6891 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    We were together for 2 years and 9 months (1000 days on the dot – that’s when he did it). We’ll be at almost 4 years at the wedding.

    Post # 56
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    786 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    When we got engaged, we have been dating for over 9 1/2 years..  and next month will be our 10 year anniversary.  When we get married it will be over 11 years. 

    So it’s been a while coming πŸ˜‰  But hey we started dating when we were both 17 and had to finish highschool, go to university, get a steady job and move out of our parents houses haha. 

    Post # 56
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    786 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    double

    Post # 57
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    620 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Well can you add an option for less than 3 months? Wouldn’t have “waited” much longer. LOL Ok ready to be judged.

    Post # 58
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    2161 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    5 months.  We’re both older and have been together for over a year now.   We actually knew it was right, very early on.   No sense waiting when you know.  πŸ™‚  (I would have been guilty of judging before it happened to me.)

    It depends on the couple and I even think your age/experience.   I was with a man for years before FH, and I didn’t know how I felt from the beginning.   This time was totally different.   I have a three year old and he has been there, as a parent, for most of this time too.  It definitely makes it more real with children involved.

    Post # 59
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    1058 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We began our relationship in October 14, 2010. Engaged by May 28, 2011, will wed on November 6, 2011. When you know you just know. If GOD places that someone in your life and without a shout of any doubt that is your soulmate… why wait? And who says you have to wait? We are ready!!!

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