Post # 1
I am curious. As I am building up towards my ceremony program i realise I want all these little unity ceremonies that i keep reading about online like hand holding, hand washing, communion, cord of 3 strands, unity cross etc. Its crazy I know lol :). How long should a wedding ceremony be just so that it does not drag too long.
Post # 3
In My Humble Opinion anything over 30 minutes will start to be a bit too long for guests. Our ceremony itself was around 20 minutes and I felt it was just long enough.
I attended a ceremony that was 90 minutes (or possibly more…I stopped counting) long. The bride’s father was a pastor and so was the groom’s best friend so they BOTH did a service. I was starving and so incredibly bored.
Post # 4
A full Catholic Mass wedding typically runs anywhere from 60-75 minutes, and some can stretch out to 90. Even just a Catholic wedding without Mass (i.e. without Communion) usually runs about 45 min. My cousin had a traditional Latin Mass wedding that ran almost 2h, which I thought was a bit excessive, but an hour plus is the norm.
FWIW, though, doing multiple “unity ceremonies” within a wedding gets reduntant pretty fast. A wedding is already, by definition, a unity ceremony.
Post # 5
Went to a catholic mass wedding… not only was it long, but we couldn’t hear anything so really we just sat there staring, it was so boring.
Post # 6
My cousin had a Catholic wedding. It was around 2 hours long and I was ready to go after about 20 minutes.
The best part was the fact that their reception included all of cold chicken fingers and cheese. There was one tray of each for 100 people. They didn’t have cake and we were informed by the bride when we asked if there would be any food that the guests would just have to fend for themselves. Yeah.
Post # 7
I went to an Indian wedding that started at 9 am and didn’t end until 2 a.m.! THe ceremony itself was about 3 hours long (not including the pre-ceremony ritual they had with the horses and parade (i forget what it is called). It was the best wedding I ever went to! Amazing food, music, dancing. Just an awesome experience!
Post # 8
The longest I have ever been to is about an hour. Outside. In 90 degree heat. In a black dress (not smart). Her father was the officiant and man did it drag on.
This weekends wedding will likely be longer (full catholic mass), the bride already told me (I’m in the wedding) it’s going to be 1.5 to 2 hours. Oy.
Post # 9
@Genuine513: This was my experience too. And, we had to stand throughout! Arghh.
Post # 10
I’m actually surprised that all of you attended Catholic weddings that were that long. In my experience, even with a full mass, it is normally under an hour. Especially since you’re not having to worry about the whole congregation going up and recieving communion, and the homily is normally expidited. The last one I went to was 45 minutes, full mass. My MOH’s wedding was 30minutes? maybe 20. Not a full mass.
I do think once you go past the hour mark.. you’re treading on thin ice. Especially if you’re building the ceremony yourself.
Post # 11
the first wedding i went to–i was flower girl- so it was an hour american service ceremony but because the bride and groom were korean the korean family pastor had to have his time– so 2 hours- o my goodness i was dying standing still for that long- i was 8 i think. also had to stand for the recieving line and the pictures plus i had thrown up befor the ceremony. i probably didnt look the happiest. my first wedding it was 40 minutes i think, my last wedding-last month it seem like it took forever but it was 30 minutes .( wedding was suppose to start at 5 it started at 5 20 and we still manage to have dinner at 6 30.
Post # 12
High Church Episopalian – with Eucharist – and it was about an hour and 15 minuts, I think. Lots of readings and music, too. It was pretty, but my butt got so tired from sitting on the wooden pew that I was greatful for the chance to get up and go to the front for communion 🙁
Post # 13
We went to a Greek Orthodox wedding ceremony. I think it was more than an hour long and the program was literally a script of the entire event and probably included about 25 pages of tiny text. It also involved a lot of standing and I noticed people who were not familiar with this type of ceremony had a hard time standing this long and often.
Personally, i would aim for short and sweet. I think about 20 minutes (30 if there’s a lot of activity – e.g. singing, unity ceremonies, readers, etc.) is good. You don’t want people to tune out or feel tempted to check their phones.
Post # 14
@Woodstock: From what I understand, if it’s a wedding with sponsors, it can easily go longer. DH was in a Catholic choir–his response to the question was “at least two hours”.
Post # 15
@Frog E.: I can’t imagine being at mass that long, and I go to mass every Sunday. I’m not sure what you’re talking about when you say ‘wedding with sponsors’. I’m having a full Catholic mass the technical wording I was given is “Celebration of Marraige and of The Holy Eucharist” Weddings at my church are held at noon or two. There would be no possible way for the church to hold both weddings, and allow for photography between, if they were at least two hours long. AND I’m in one of the most conservative diocese in the country, so we don’t cut corners. I’m wondering if people are overexaggerating how long it is because that’s how long it felt. Or maybe they’re referring to gigantic weddings that have 300+ people.
Edit: Sorry OP for the threadjack. Like I said previously, I would try to keep it under the hour mark.
Post # 16
Hmm.. most of them are about the same length. I would say 1/2 an hour once the ceremony actually got underway. (Maybe 45 min. but I could be stretching that.) What took the longest was waiting for the ceremony to begin! And then some brides have incredibly long processionals.