Post # 1
So as you may know the Snakes got engaged this past friday! We have been sort of thinking March 2011 but we’re not settled yet. I think given the circumstances (getting engaged right before the holidays) were trying to get the basic idea down so we can answer the one question we’ve been getting over the weekend: “Soooo when are you going to get married??? Have you thought about it yet?”
Anyhow I am just curious as to how long most engagements here were/are.
Also any tips on getting the planning stages started would be a huge help. I am so lost and I have no idea where to begin!
Post # 3
we were engaged 2/26/09 and were married 11/21/09! So right under 9 mos =)
Post # 4
there are people who get married right away at the court house to people that are engaged up to 2 years. its up to the couple, im not engaged so i dont have that much input here. i think anything over 2 years is too long though.
Post # 5
How long did you wait before you really started planning? Obviously I’m not like.. trying to plan anything quite yet— probably not til the new year however I can’t help but wonder.
Post # 6
@snakes: i’d say you are definitely on the right page deciding the date first. I would also say sit down and speak with your parents and fiance (eeeeeee!!) about your budget. The most important thing after budget and date would be to decide if your favorite venue is available on that date. If March 2011 is a popular time in your state to get married, you may also want to begin researching venues/vendors to book and book them as quickly as you can. As you can see, a lot of people get engaged over the holidays so you will be in competition with the newly engaged women.
Post # 7
I think you should have a general idea of when, ex: Spring 2010, but then be a little flexible with the weekend. This will give you more room to play with when venue shopping. I also agree that you should have an idea of what your budget it. Russell and Hazel has a great site with lots of wedding templates. Also, if you plan on getting married in a church, you want to start talking to them before and while you’re venue shopping. So just a quick recap.
2. General Date
3. Venue and Ceremony site
Good luck. If you need any other help message me.
Post # 8
To add to Charm bracelet’s list I would say that you should also start by figuring out your approximate guest list — so that you know what size wedding you are planning. Are you planning a 30 person wedding? 100? 300? You’ll need to know this number before you start looking seriously at venue and ceremony sites. We initially thought we were planning a small wedding… but we were surprised at how quickly the guest list can get big, even when just adding close family members and friends.
Post # 9
@charm bracelet: that website is really helpful! I’d definitely bookmarking it! Thanks!
Post # 10
My Fiance and I will be engaged for about 18 months by the time we get married. The reason we had a longer engagement is because the church I wanted to get married in books up that far in advance. So, if you want to get married in a specific church, I would contact them first to see which dates are available around the time you want to get married. But definitely figure out a budget and a general date first.
Post # 11
We will be engaged for exactly 20 months when we get married which has allowed time for me to graduate and for us to move in together. It has gone by so quickly so far.
Post # 12
First Snake, if I haven’t said it already, CONGRATULATIONS!!
We got engaged December 2, 2008. We immediately decided to get married in the beginning of February 2010 – it ended up in the end of January.
Three days later we shopped for my ring and made our announcement to our families in that week.
After, no wedding talk for a while, because I moved in with him right before Christmas, then the Holidays with all the celebrations, then we discussed budget and living arrangement…
Middle of January, we finally started planning our destination wedding. We wanted at least a year-long engagement (didn’t want to get married during the Holidays b/c of budget, so Feb made sense) to leave enough time to plan and to enjoy the engagement period.
That said, since we are doing a very simple affair in an all-inclusive resort and only 14 guests, we have realized that 14 months is WAY too long… Now we are just very excited to finally get married but if we had to do this again, 8 months would have been enough!
Have fun planning! 🙂
Post # 13
No idea 🙂 I was engaged Oct 23 and we still haven’t set a date! We have been thinking Jan 2011 (which would be about 15 months) but it looks like we might need to push it back now… maybe as late as fall 2011 (which would be almost 2 years!!)
Post # 14
We are month and year twins
We were officially engaged this March 31 of this year.
We will be engaged for 2 years when we get married. I started planning right away because our venue is very popular and I wanted to secure it right away. We are also on a very tight budget, so I have time to shop around and get good deals on everything.
Post # 15
We will be engaged 18 months to the day when we get married.
My advice is pick a date, come up with a guest list ball park number and stick to it and finalize a budget!
I am soooo glad that I did those three things first. After those not so fun things I could do the good stuff like search for a venue, drool over dresses and colors!
We were engaged two days before we were talking about dates. Funny thing is that right off the bat we thought labor day weekend 2010 would be great and that worked out well!
Post # 16
We set a date in February of 2008, and started telling people that summer. We started wedding planning in September of 2008 for our October 2010 wedding (we were working with a really popular wedding date, though). I had all of my major vendors (venue, officiant, photog, florist, hair) booked by November of 2009, with a lot of time in between. It was super important to me that I was able to find the perfect vendors and venue (and when we originally contacted our officiant in February 2009, she was already booked!!).
So by the time we get married, we will have been engaged over two years.