Post # 1
Mr. and I got engaged in January and we set our wedding date for June — less than 6 months to plan everything! I didn’t think it was so difficult to plan a wedding………. but then I got on weddingbee and realized all the things I didn’t factor into our budget, into the wedding ….
On the one hand, I’m happy to have only 6 months of worrying about making the “right” decision. Once I make a decision, I have to stick with it because there’s no time (or $$) to change anything! On the other hand, I tend to make hasty decisions. Also, being a grad student (essentially working >14h each day!) + wedding planning is crazy. I didn’t realize I had dropped a size until I tried on my wedding dress again today. Did I mention FH and I have to go overseas for 3 weeks to meet his family (for the first time)? So essentially I only have 5 months to plan something that everyone calls the “most important day of [your] life.”
How long did you take to plan your wedding? For those with long engagements, did you like having the extra time to save money and plan your dream wedding? Did you get your perfect wedding? Do you regret having a long engagement? How many guests did you have?
Post # 3
I got engaged in March of last year and we are getting married in February of next year so its a little over a year. I am still in school and I wanted to wait until I graduated to get married, I have a about a year to plan which is not bad. I also have no regrets about about waiting so long it will allow us to save up money because we will have close to 200 guests.
Post # 4
We got engage October 16, 2011 and are getting married October 6, 2012… so a LITTLE under a year. We had originally planned on having a longer enagement (almost two years) but decided there really wasn’t a reason to wait.
I think it’s possible to plan a wedding on any time scale as long as you stay calm about things… haha!
Post # 5
We got engaged in February and we are getting married in November, so about 10 months. Everyone thinks it’s super fast, but I think it’s perfect 🙂 We are having a destination wedding, so there’s a few less things to plan or that are taken care of for us.
Post # 6
Engaged Dec 25th and married July 27th. That gives us exactly 7 months and 2 days!
Post # 7
Engaged June 18, 2011 getting married May 2013 so 23 months give or take.
Post # 8
We had a super long engagement because we were waiting to graduate before we got married. It was sort of too long in my opinion but I wouldn’t have wanted to get married when we were still in college. It’s hard enough now with my husband traveling and finishing his masters.
Post # 9
Our engagement was exactly a year! 🙂
Post # 11
We got engaged in June of last year and the wedding is this September, so a bit over a year.
HOWEVER – it can absolutely be done in 6 months. I’m in grad school full time, so I have not been in full time wedding planning mode at all. I’ve been doing a thing here and a thing there, sometimes with months going by in between. With the exception of the venue, most of the details have been worked out in the last two weeks (right at the 6 month mark).
You will notice if you stick around the bee, a lot of the girls who start planning really early end up getting burned out, or changing their mind about things and end up spending extra money on a second dress, or new decor, etc.
Also, the longer the engagement, the more you end up dealing with people inviting themselves or having to invite more people as the pop in to your life or pop back in to your life, haha. We started off with 145 and are now up to 170. Whoops.
Post # 12
We will have been engaged for 14 months by the time we get married. I got the itch to hurry it up about a month ago though so think 10 months would have been perfect. I think you are right on about the late of regret with a shorter planning time! I get sick of going back on my decisions, and I wouldn’t have been able to do this if we were planning for six months out. I’m a grad student and full time employee (actually now a full time unpaid intern) who is planning my entire wedding as well so I’m right there with you on the stress!
Post # 13
@smiles4jo I think you have the right idea! You can always just have a reception for the rest of your family later on, but you can have the small intimate wedding that I prefer but that is impossible with 120+ aunts/uncles/first-cousins alone!
@mandypop I know it can be done in 6 months but I feel like I’m so far behind on everything. Flowers, food, music …. I haven’t finalized any of that yet, and we’re leaving for Vietnam in 5 days and I don’t know how to finish up writing two papers and figure all that out. (Papers = top priority, wedding = 2nd)
How late is too late? Is 2 months before the wedding sufficient time for flowers + food?
@kala_way Were you 5 months engaged or were you correcting my math? You’re right though. 5 months.
Post # 14
None of the options fit me. 🙂
We started actively planning (pre-engagement due to unique situations) September 2011. Engaged Jan 2012. Married Feb 2012 at the courthouse. Big wedding is September 2012. We’re having 45 guests. Restaurant wedding/reception which means VERY VERY VERY little stress.
I’ve heard of plenty of people planning weddings on your timeline. It’s totally possible. Now, if it’s possible but you’d be stressed out of your mind and miserable, maybe it’s worth extending. But if you can handle it, go for it. 🙂
Post # 15
Engaged August 20, 2011 and getting married October 20, 2012
Post # 16
By the time we get married this summer, we’ll have been engaged 2 years and 5 months.
ETA- A long engagement hasn’t really proven to have any benefits for us. I am a huge procrastinator, so I didn’t even really start planning until this month. Haha