(Closed) How long was your engagement

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 32
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

3 years and 10 months

Post # 33
1990 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@otto2008:  That’s long but I would definitely put it after you guys are done with school.  At least you’re committed and lots of couples do that. Having a long engagement lets you focus on school as well as take your time to save and gather ideas.

Our engagement was 13 months and I wish we would have had more time!

Post # 34
409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

We got engaged in July 2011 and are getting married in 25 days! So it’s just short of 2.5 years. Its been nice being able to be relaxed about planning, but the last 6 months have been hard as we’re just ready NOW and it felt like it was dragging! It’s now going wuper fast though lol

Post # 35
1460 posts
Bumble bee

It’ll be 6.5 months 🙂

Post # 36
261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

14 months exactly!

Post # 37
841 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@otto2008:  Our engagement will be just under 2 years (1 day short of 23 months). I would’ve loved to get married next summer but we live 2 hours apart and I can’t consider leaving the area until next June because I’m in a lease and I want to be at my job for at least a year. It’s fine for us – the venue we wanted is booked all through next year and so are a lot of vendors. The most annoying part is peoples comments like “wow that’s sooo long”, “you have so much time to plan, why are you doing so much already” (because everyone thinks that and doesn’t get the vendors they want) and my personal favourite, “by the time you get married another couple could have met, got engaged, and got married”. Like thanks for the reminder that it’s far away… people are just rude though sometimes and you have to just ignore the comments. It’s what works for us so it’s fine.

Post # 38
100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

our engagement will be about 20 months when its all done. we got engaged in april of this year and will be married january 2015. i wanted to be done with school and pass the bar exam before the wedding and we couldnt wait to be engaged so thats just the way it worked out. i love being engaged and making that public and private commitment, but i am impatient for the wedding, so ill say there are good and bad factors to it. However,  i dont regret the early engagement AT ALL. 

Post # 39
1863 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Just shy of 4 months. He proposed April 19 and we got married on August 11. 

Post # 40
1597 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@otto2008:  Please don’t let anyone else’s opinion determine how long your engagement is. If you and your (soon to be) fiance agree on your time line, that is all that matters.

And if you’re both in school and need to get jobs before the wedding, that, in my mind, is a very responsible and completely understandable decision.

Me and my husband were engaged for 2 and a half years. I won’t lie – we got a LOT of flack for it and even lost some friends who were being really judgemental. But we both needed to find better jobs, we needed to sort out some debt, find a place to live, and deal with some family issues (health problems, etc).

Honestly, the time FLEW. We just got married 2 months ago and I can’t believe it. 

Overall, I am VERY glad we had a long engagement. I am really high-strung and I would have had a stroke if I had to plan a wedding in under a year. Plus, long engagements make it easier to pay for vendors, decorations, invitations, etc.

AND you get first dibs on vendors most of the time – if you have your eye on a photographer, caterer, venue, etc that books up really fast, you will be able to book them before a lot of other people who have shorter engagements.

So do what works for the two of you, no one else.


Post # 41
663 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We got engaged in March 2012 and we are getting married in June 2014. Our engagement will be 2 years & 3 months long (27 months) I think it is way too long but many benefits came with having a 2 year engagement. Our wedding is going to be extremely nice because I have taken so much time with all of the planning. However, many times I wished that we got married on June 1, 2013. That would’ve been a 14 month engagement, which I think is a good engagement length.

My original thinking when we got engaged (I was 20 at the time) was:

1. That I was young and 21 seemed like a very young age to get married, and since I’m going to be with him forever I didn’t feel the need to rush. (22 seems like a better age to get married for whatever reason!)

2. I did not feel like starting to plan the wedding right away. I wanted to finish my semester and be lazy all summer. I did a lot of pre-planning (pinterest, looking online at the different local venues and vendors) but I did not start actually planning anything until we were engaged for 14 months (1 year out from wedding).

3. I wanted to enjoy the year that I turned 21 without worrying about wedding/wedding planning.

4. I wanted to have my Bachelor’s degree before I got married (I graduate in May 2014).

5. I liked the number 14 better than 13.

6. My Fiance was pretty apathetic about whether or not we got married in 2013 or 2014.

Looking back, none of those things were really necessary to keep me from marrying in 2013 (besides the not wanting to plan yet part) but it is only 198 days away now and I’m very ready!

Post # 42
8575 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

We got engaged at the end of December 2012, will be married October 2014, so almost 2 years!

Post # 43
1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

By the time we get married next August we will have been engaged for a year and four months.

Post # 44
2671 posts
Sugar bee

@otto2008:  1 year 3 months for us! I’m down to 11.5 months now 🙂 It’s going by so fast!

Post # 45
13 posts
  • Wedding: April 2014

1 year. We took our sweet time. 

Post # 46
1234 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Ours was exactly 6 months. I enjoyed that it didn’t give us time to be indecisive but since we had an off season wedding it was a breeze getting everything we wanted. 

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