How long was your engagement?

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
  • poll:
    Do it Dec '18-Feb '19- you'll only draw out your anxiety if you wait : (42 votes)
    78 %
    Do it Dec '19- Feb '20- you'll be incredibly anxious trying to do it in less than a year. : (12 votes)
    22 %
    Do it another time (details in comments) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 30
    378 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    beekay :  I got engaged in December and married the following September. A short engagement was great for me because I had to knock out decisions quickly. It was less time for me to skim Pinterest and change my mind a million times lol. Too many options stress me out, so I just wanted to get it done!! 

    You can totally get married winter 18/19 if you start working on it now. Waiting for winter 19/20 would personally drive me insane. Good luck!

    Post # 31
    433 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2017 - State Park

    My engagement was 4 months and I used 2 of it. Yes I had a small, informal event. But the logistics are the same: photographer, food, music, dress, rings. I had no issue nailing those down late and I got married at peak wedding season. 

    Remember that winter is off-season. You aren’t going to have difficulty getting vendors 10 months out. You might not be able to pull off NYE because that’s a fairly popular date, but you probably can.

    No reason to wait an additional year unless you want to save money first. 

    Post # 32
    472 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    I planned my wedding for 140 people entirely by myself in less than 6 months. I wasn’t really stressed, either. My suggestion is to pick the sooner date and spend 2019 being married! 😉

    Post # 33
    3329 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    beekay :   we were enengag for three months. But we just had a registry office and pub lunch with only 18 guest’s 

    If you want a specific venue then start by contacting them to see if the dates you want are free  

    Post # 34
    194 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: Backyard

    We were engaged for 8 months and also bought a house during that same time period. We were definitely very busy, but it was completely doable. Vendor selection was more limited, however. We ended up having the wedding at my parents’ house, so we didn’t have to worry about finding a venue, but we did look at a few venues as alternatives just in case and we were able to find a few that still had availability if we had wanted to go that route. We just had to be flexible on our exact dates.

    Post # 35
    179 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    We got engaged in November 2017 and are getting married in early August 2018, so a 9 month engagement. So far, I think it’s been perfect. We are done with all of the big items, and have just smaller details to plan. I honestly wish it were sooner, because I am over the planning!

    Post # 36
    167 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I had a 16 month engaement, and it was extremely frustrating having it so long. If could go back, I would have made it less than a year. I would have had plenty of time.

    Post # 37
    73 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2019

    Our engagement will end up being about 19 months. It was that or 6-7 months since we wanted summer. I already have almost all our major vendors booked so I could have done it this summer technically but it would have been harder to find vendors im sure. Our main motivation for waiting is money though. We are paying as we go and refusing to go into debt for our wedding so this way made more sense to us. We live together already and have a dog and don’t want to start having kids for a few more years so it really doesn’t change much overall. It really depends on your priorities. 

    Post # 38
    1594 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    We got enaged July 2015 and married October 2017 – I gave myself that kind of time to plan because I knew there were certain vendors I wanted that can be seriously booked up in advance.

    It was way less stress having more time to plan because I got my dream photographer, the DJ i knew we had to have, etc. IMO it was a perfect amount of time to plan but I left a lot to the last minute (That’s me doing my seating chart two days before the wedding lol).

    If you have specific vendors in mind or your vendors book up early, give yourself more time.

    If you have any specific vendors in mind, I would see what dates they currently have available within both time frames and plan accordingly.

    Post # 39
    2758 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2007

    beekay :  Mine was about a week less than a year, I actually had everything planned then scrapped it all and started over when I was about 3 months into planning. I feel like a year is enough time in places where you’re not running into crazy wait lists.

    Post # 40
    142 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    from christmas eve 2016 to this coming june, so almost 18 months. We didn’t want to rush, and we needed to come up with the money basically. Most of the big stuff was decided early/mid 2017, so totally could have done it within the year. I did appreciate being able to research and wait for deals.

    Post # 41
    14 posts
    • Wedding: June 2018

    Under a year for me and I feel like I have plenty of time! No wedding planner either.  I should say that I received a lot of help from my mother and siblings and two of my siblings were married in the last three years (it helps with pricing and vendors).

    Post # 42
    512 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    We are going to be engaged for 25 months when we get married.  Part of that though was because I still had nearly a year of grad school left when we got engaged, and I wanted to finish.  Not going to lie, I’m enjoying having all the time i want to do research and plan details.  It also gave me time to save.

    Post # 43
    105 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2017 - Preservation Park, Oakland CA

    Mine was 13 months and I think it was a good amount of time. If you draw it out too long I feel like it becomes less stressful and you get lax about getting things done. If you don’t give enough time you can feel stressed and rushed. I think right around 1 year is good.

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