Post # 1
How long was your engagement for? Why I ask is ours was 8 months. We knew if we didn’t get married that summer, it would be 18 -20 months to have a summer wedding & fortunately we didn’t have to save.
The reason I ask is 2 ladies at work have kids who are getting married. One has been engaged 4 months & hasn’t done any planning. Wedding will be at least 2 years away. They said most engagements are 2 years these days. I wouldn’t have thought so. I would’ve through 12-14 months was more common.
Keen to hear. If it was long or short. Why?
Post # 2
ours was 16 months. I wanted to get married in the fall, but fall of the year we got engaged was too soon. so we waited. gave us more time to save and plan, and we werent in a rush!
Post # 3
We got engaged because we were ready to get married so it’s going to be a little less than a year. Long engagements confuse me because it feels kind of like a hurry up and wait situation but just my opinion!
Post # 4
ours will be 2.5 years by the time the wedding comes and goes. It’s only been 6 months and I’m aleealr sick of it hahaha
Post # 5
9 months.. didn’t want to wait – MUCH too impatient, also, I get distracted really easily and would probably get fired if it was much longer
Post # 6
We got married after being engaged for 5 months. But we were planning a tiny wedding and didn’t need much time for it and didn’t want to wait any longer than we had to.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2019 - Mountains
We’ll be engaged 9 months by the time the big day is here. We got a few raised eyebrows because in their opinion that ‘was fast’. But we’re having a small wedding and felt no need to put it off- fortunately our families are paying for it, so we didn’t need to wait and save money.
I’m an August wedding, I’ve asked WB to update my date and hasn’t happened yet.
Post # 8
Ours was 17 months. Engaged in april, married the next september. I didn’t really care about the timing a ton, but our venues had limited availability.
eta – we started planning in june, so kind of enjoyed the newly engaged feeling for 2 months and then started planning. We were also looking at the following june, which would have been a 14m engagement, but it is rainy then so we went with sept.
Post # 9
2.5 years and I agree a lot of them are further out because many couples are paying for their own wedding and need time to save. We didnt even start planning until about 6-10 months after and could figure out our budget.
Most engagements i have seen are 1.5 – 2 years. The quicker ones were usually smaller religious ceremonies.
Post # 10
Ours was 4 months long. When we first got engaged we were thinking we’d wait a bit (hence my username) because we wanted to do a destination wedding, which we had to pay for on our own so we needed time to plan, save, and allow our friends/family to do the same.
Ultimately we decided against that, and we wanted a summer wedding but didn’t want to wait till the following year, so we ended up with a pretty short engagement.
We did not have a traditional wedding so a short engagement worked for us, we didn’t really have to plan a whole lot and it was relatively affordable.
I would say most of the couples I know have about a year or year and a half long engagement.
Post # 11
We got engaged in September 2016 and will be married May 2019! So almost 3 years! In the UK it’s very normal to be engaged for 2-3 years or more as weddings are extremely expensive and suppliers tend to book out years in advanced!
Budget wasn’t an issue for us, we just had too much going on, relocation to the states, travelling, other friends weddings, etc etc that we just decided to enjoy being engaged 🙂
Post # 12
1 year and 8 months (almost 9). We wanted a September wedding, but wanted to wait a bit to save (got engaged in Jan of 2017, married in Sept of 2018).
In my group, 12 months was the minimum, i’d say average being 18 months!
Post # 13
“They said most engagements are 2 years these days.”
That doesn’t ring true to me. Two years seems long unless a couple gets engaged and then waits to finish school or a military deployment, etc. I have heard that in some smaller towns, there is a limited number of venues and they fill up 1 plus years in advance. We got in engaged in December and started planning in February for our October wedding, so we were engaged for 10 months and planning for 8 months. That was plenty of time for our 80-person wedding with all the bells and whistles in a larger city.
Post # 14
Ours will have been about 8.5 months.
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2019 - Premier Ballroom
I have been engaged from 12/24/2016 to 10/19/2019. So almost it”l almost be 3 years engaged