Post # 1
- Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York
Ours was 8 months, but we didn’t start planning until the 6 month mark when I moved from Los Angeles to New York (where we got married). I think it was the perfect amount of time for us, largely because we got married in the off season and we didn’t have to compete for vendors.
Do you wish you had a shorter or longer engagement period?
Post # 3
Our engagement will be 18 months long, but we didn’t start planning until we hit the 12 month mark. For us it has been perfect because we like to take our time with evvvverything. (We dated for 6.5 years before he popped the question.) Anyway, it was so nice to have 6 months to just revel in the mushy happiness of being engaged without having to worry about planning or decision-making!
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2020 - The Grand Old House, Grand Cayman
I wish ours was shorter! By the time we get married, we will have been engaged for 2.5 years! I have been engaged for so long, it was has been hard to kick start the wedding planning because I’ve been telling myself "Oh, I’ve got PLENTY of time" for so long!
Post # 5
Ours will be 20 months by the time we get married… and we’re still 19 months away! It seems like forever. However, I have yet to talk to a vendor that has had anyone inquire about the month we are getting married, let alone the day. Plus, we’ve had one vendor offer 2009 prices for 2010 if we book this early. So, while I am excited to finally be married, it sure is nice to have the extra time to plan, save up, etc.
Post # 6
We will have a 20 month engagement as well … and we are already 9 months down – Kara it goes faster then you think I promise!
Our circumstances really didnt allow for us to do it any sooner, but I wish we had.
My fiance gave me a "three weeks no planning" rule — mostly because he knew I/we would be overwhelmed with all the questions so it gave me a simple answer to all the questions "Fiance said I couldnt plan until after my birthday — so I’m just enjoying being engaged!" it actually ended up being really helpful. Since the three week mark hit though we’ve been planning here and there. We did most of the big things up front now we have some downtime in the middle months. But once May hits we are invited to TEN weddings before our own (Don’t think we’ll attend all of them due to lack of funding!) so we want to get a lot of planning done before those start! PLUS we are getting married a week after Christmas — Jan 2 — so we want to try as hard as possible not to get bogged down with the details over the last two weeks. (good luck with that huh?)
Post # 7
20 months too! i felt like the only one! Yay for other long egagement people. we are waiting for my much anticipated graduation date 🙂
Post # 8
Our engagement period is 24 months… and that is 24 months too long!!! I want to be married to my Fiance right now! 🙂 8 1/2 months to go!!!!!!!!!
Post # 9
by the time we are married our engagement period will have been 18 months. I really wish it was a bit shorter. I would be much happer with somewhere between 9 – 12 so I would still have time to relax a little, but also not feel like I have more time than I know what to do with! 😀
Post # 10
6 months, I wish it could have been a tiny bit longer, but I couldn’t wait to get married and I was set on a May or June wedding.
Post # 11
We will have been engaged fo 22 months by the time we get married. It seems like a very long time to me, but we needed the time for me to complete my doctorate degree, study, job-hunt, and wedding plan. Also, ours is a destination wedding in Sonoma, CA so we wanted lots of time to plan from afar. I feel like the ultimate multi-takster at this point. We didn’t set a date or sign any contracts until earlier this month. Now I have everyone booked except the officiant and there are still 14 months to go.
Post # 12
Ours will be about two years, but this is by my choice. I just graduated from college, and at 22, I consider myself just plain too young to get married. I know several people who got married right out of college or even younger, but it just isn’t something I feel comfortable with. Even though we’ve been together almost three years now, I want us to spend some time living together before we get married (we’re moving in together this summer). We love each other and are going to be together no matter what, so I don’t mind waiting a little while (and having tons of time to plan!).
Plus, we want his niece and my newest second cousin to be flower girl and ring bearer — and they are currently three months old and thirteen months old, respectively! Gotta wait til they are at least two and three yrs old, I think!
Post # 13
16 months for us– I’d marry him tomorrow, but it’s been nice to have a long stretch of time to just enjoy being engaged without having the pressure of making decisions.
Post # 14
Ours will be 17 months–we had to account for immigration and when his family can fly to the US from London. It was nice to be able to enjoy being engaged for the first half of that time without the stress of planning.
Post # 15
By the time we get married, our engagement will have lasted for 23 months! It seems like forever! There really is no good reason why we are choosing to wait, other than the fact that fate has conspired against us; there is no good time to do it before the summer of 2010 (and trust me, I’ve evaluated all of the options). I am just trying to tell myself that you are only engaged once in your life, and once the wedding day comes and goes, it’s over. Might as well enjoy this time for as long as I can!
Post # 16
Ours will be 8 months. It seemed like plenty of time after my friend planned her wedding in 9 months and said it was ‘too long’. Now that I’ve been told many a time that I need buy my dress at least 6 months before the wedding. I better get crackin’!