(Closed) How long were you and your SO married before you started TTC?

posted 8 years ago in TTC
  • poll: How long were you and your SO married before you started TTC?
    0-1 years : (47 votes)
    46 %
    1-2 years : (25 votes)
    24 %
    2-3 years : (12 votes)
    12 %
    3-4 years : (6 votes)
    6 %
    4-5 years : (2 votes)
    2 %
    5+ years : (7 votes)
    7 %
    Other : (4 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 17
    Member
    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We’re not totally convinced kids are for us yet. We discussed taking 5 years and reevaluating. 

    Post # 18
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    6891 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I had a similar post a week or so ago – it was interesting if you want to take a look.

    The reason we’re choosing to wait longer: age and finances. We’re both in our early/mid-20s so there is really no rush. Our PLAN is 3-5 years.

    Post # 19
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    1102 posts
    Bumble bee

    Before we got married I thought I wanted to wait a year. We ended up waiting almost 2, and it turned perfect for us. I was 28 when we got married, started trying just after my 30th birthday, and fell the weekend of our 2nd wedding anniversary (only took 2 cycles). Two years was a great amount of time, even though we’d already been together 7 by the time we got married. I’m so glad we had this time together – we did some more travel and really just enjoyed being the two of us and being married. It feels like the right time to introduce a new person into the family.

    Post # 20
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    245 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    We’re starting in 3 weeks, so it’ll be a year.  However, I just went off of BC last month, and things aren’t back to normal yet.  We’re prepared for it to take a while.

    Post # 21
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    1402 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I stopped BC about two weeks after we got married (Feb) and we started active TTC in April.

    Part of our reason for getting married was to start having babies ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 22
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    2414 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I will be just shy of 29 when we get married. I think it’s reasonable for us to TTC a few months before my 31st birthday…most people I know have started having children at around 30/31…I want to finish school and travel a bit more before we have children…

    Post # 23
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    212 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    Everyone is different. There is no right or wrong answer. Nobody can say “EVERYONE should wait to have kids” because that’s just not right! 

    We’re young but we didn’t want to wait. We’ve been married for 7 months and together since 2008, not incredibly long, but we’ve always wanted a family. ๐Ÿ™‚ So this is our 2nd month, last month I had a chemical pregnancy.

    Post # 24
    Member
    287 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Initially I wanted to start trying 1 year after we were married.  DH on the other had wanted to start off the bat haha.  I have some hormonal issues though, so I knew it would take some time, so we ended up NTNT as soon as we were married.  We’ve been married 6 months and no pregnancy yet, I’m guessing we probably will make it to the 1 year mark without actually getting pregnant. 

    Post # 25
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    1812 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    12 hours to be exact.  We only got married on Saturday so we’ll see how we get along…

    Post # 26
    Member
    5147 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I stopped birth control right after our wedding reception (wedding reception was a month after the wedding because we had a destination wedding).

    I think it really depends on the age of the people and how long they’ve been together. Darling Husband & I are in our late 20s and were together 8 years before getting married. (If we would have gotten married in our early 20s, we probably would have waited a couple years before trying.)

    Post # 27
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    2195 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We were married June 2011 and plan on waiting until this summer/fall/winter -ish… so about a year and a half. ๐Ÿ™‚

    I think it doesn’t matter how long after the wedding you wait, as long as you’re ready! Whether that is right away, a year or five years down the road!

    Good luck and have fun!

    Post # 28
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    3314 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We were married in April 2010 and I went off BC in June of 2010.  We are parents to an angel baby, but still waiting on one we can hold in our arms.  ๐Ÿ™

    I 2nd what some of the other posters are saying – if you are ready, it doesn’t matter how long you have been married.

    Post # 29
    Member
    192 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    we just started NTNT – we are  1 year 5 months in!

    Post # 29
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    693 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I turned 28 two weeks after the wedding, Darling Husband is just a few months younger than me.  My twin sister is now pregnant with her first kid and she’s been married for 4 years, so I feel like I’m behind… It’s a little rough since I know it will change her life so much and mine will stay the same.

    Anyway, Darling Husband and I both want kids but we’re pretty terrified of all the work it involves, loss of freedom, etc.  Also, Darling Husband went back to school for his bachelor’s degree a couple years ago and isn’t due to graduate until this December.  Basically, I keep telling people not to even ask us until he’s done school and hopefully finds a better job.

    So we’ll turn 29 this year.  I’m hoping to be pregnant somewhere between 30 and 31… but Darling Husband doesn’t know that.  (He’s a one-step-at-a-time kind of guy.. dont’ want to scare him!)  so that’ll be about 2 to 2.5 years after the wedding.

    Post # 30
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    693 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @coachwife:  What’s NTNT.  You’re the 2nd person to mention that… shows what I know!

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