(Closed) How long were you engaged for????

posted 11 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
6377 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

We were engaged on 6/11/10 and will be married on 10/7/11. By the time we’re married we will have been engaged for 16 months.

I knew I wanted a fall 2011 wedding so it was just a matter of setting the specific date. For us, our engagement length is perfect. We dont like to have to rush to get things done so being able to take our time and do things at our own pace was a necessity for us. We also didnt want our day to day lives to change just because we’re saving for a wedding.

Having a 16 month engagement has allowed us to not really change the way we live at all! Even before we were engaged we were putting $100 from each paycheck into savings as our “fun money” so we’ve just kept doing that and by the time our wedding rolls around, we will have all the money we need (my parents are paying for more than half of our wedding and FI’s parent are covering a few things). 

I know there are alot of people out there who can throw a wedding together in a few months but doing that just wasn’t for me. Besides, I LOVE being engaged and I LOVE talking about our wedding plans so the longer we can do that, the better IMO.

Congrats on your engagement!!!

Post # 4
1818 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i got engaged april 25, 2010 and my wedding date is may 14, 2011… so itll be just over a year…. waiting would be soooo hard for me! plus i wanted a spring wedding and there were very few dates available at my venue so i jumped on it 🙂

Post # 5
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My engagement was 11 months (I wanted a fall wedding too, and I got engaged in October), which I thought was enough time to plan, but we already had the money.  If saving more money was an issue, I would have probably waiting another year like you are planning to do.  The one negative thing I have heard about long engagements though is that you’ll change your mind a lot.  I’m very indecisive, so I’m kind of glad that I didn’t have time to change my mind (too much…I did have a little dress regret in the beginning, but I hear that’s normal).

Post # 6
355 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Hey there, looks like we’re in the same boat!  I got engaged about a month ago and am looking at fall 2012 too, so that’ll be about two years.  The fiance wants to finish grad school first.  I’ve gotten the “wow, that’s a long time” too, but I don’t think it is.  It’ll give me enough time to save (we’re paying for our own too) and plan (also DIYing it) without stressing out.

Good luck and congrats!

Post # 7
1630 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I got engaged February 20th 2010 and we are getting married May 28th 2011 so 15 months and it feels like FOREVER! LOL

Post # 8
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Congrats on your engagement!

We got engaged Sept 2009 and are getting married this June.  At the time it seemed like the wedding was soooooooooo far off in the future.  Fiance and I didn’t really want a long engagement, but it was necessary to save $ and I wanted a spring wedding, so June 2010 was just too close.

fast forward over a year later, our wedding is just over 6 months away – i can’t believe how quickly it’s gone.  The time has been great.  I haven’t been stressed at all!! I had plenty of time to research my vendors and have my pick (as no one else was booking that early) and ensure i got the best price for what i wanted.  I have started doing lots of DIY.  Plenty of things I would’ve just bought from etsy (at reasonable prices) i have had time to make myself and saved myself even more money.

I am hoping the next 6 months continue to be as stress free as the rest of the wedding planning has been. I am loving it so far 🙂

Post # 9
1529 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We got enagaged on May 1st 2010 and will be married on July 17th 2011. To be honest it feels like an eternity, but I did want a summer wedding, and we needed the year to save extra money. 14 months is about as much as I could take though.

Post # 10
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2011


I got engaged April 14th, 2010 and we’re planning the wedding for Dec 11th 2011 so it’s going to be a long one and I was the one that actually wanted that to save.. ect 🙂

Post # 11
8247 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

We got engaged in Sept 2009 and got married in July 2010 so we had a 10 month engagement.  That was more than enough time for us!  (We had a few months of downtime in the middle where zero planning needed to occur).  Honestly, I can’t imagine having an engagment for longer than about a year.  Both DH and I were ready to get on with married life and not have the planning/expense of a wedding being our primary focus.  It’s great being husband and wife and being able to live life not focused on event planning!

Post # 12
295 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We had an 8 month engagement.  It was the perfect amount of time to plan our wedding and I’m not sure if I could have waited longer than that…but we had been dating for 7 years!  I originally wanted a fall wedding but didn’t want to wait so we moved it up to a summer wedding.

Post # 13
27 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

I got engaged May 30, 2010 and do not have a date set yet.  I’m thinking its going to be more 2012 so that there is time to plan/save.  I dont think it’s anyone else’s business how long your engagement is but you and your FH.  I get asked all the time if we set a date yet and it’s always the same answer – not yet but we are leaning towards 2012.  I want an outside wedding and since I’m in Jersey there are very few months available to make that happen that arent super cold or super hot so I’m limited to April/May and Sept/beginning of Oct. and doing a wedding in 2011 for those months is just not enough time!

Post # 14
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We had just shy of a 7 month engagement, engaged in the spring married in the fall. It worked out perfect for us, I even had a lot of down time this summer, and had plenty of time to finish all my DIY’s

Post # 15
1034 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

We got engaged at the beginning of Oct 2010 and we are getting married Jan 7th. So just at 3 months. We are having a small intimate ceremony at a bed and breakfast. That is a huge factor. If we were having the traditional huge wedding we would probably wait 6 months or so. 

Post # 16
42 posts
  • Wedding: October 2010

We haven’t even known each other as long as most engagements!  We met 2/22/10, got engaged (officially) on 5/25/10 and married on 10/9/10.  We just knew when we met (we’re both in our 40’s) and had waited long enough to find each other, we didn’t want a long engagement.  We planned it in 4 months, had it at a friend’s house outside a pool with a tent, had professionally catered, flowers, DJ, bartending, etc….No real issues and no long wait time….to be honest, it was too long for us. 


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