(Closed) How long were you engaged for????

posted 9 years ago in Logistics
Post # 32
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Congrats!!! We got engaged August 14th, 2010 and will be married March 19th, 2011. 7 months…. so far, I would say NOT enough time to get things planned (but that’s mostly because I’m procrastinating… haha)

I had always dreamed of a fall wedding, but the boy did not want to wait over a year to get married (if he had his way we would be having a December 2010 wedding! TOO soon for me!) And summer is WAY too busy for the both of us (between friends’ weddings and traveling for his job)…. so spring it is!

Post # 33
6891 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

We got engaged a couple of weeks ago (Nov 1, 2010) and we are getting married on March 31, 2012. 1 year and 5 months, basically. Some people feel like it’s a long time, but so what? I don’t judge when people are “only” engaged for a couple of months. Kind of annoying, but they’ll get the picture.


Post # 34
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Congratulations! That is the most annoying question – some people may have it mapped out months before they get engaged, but the rest of us just want to bask in bliss before getting stressed out with “when’s the wedding” questions!

I got engaged 2/13/2010 and got married 10/1/2010 – 7.5 months!  It was either going to be Fall 2010 or Spring 2011 – We talked it out and agreed to get married this year, which was great b/c we are in our 30s and have money saved already, and we have been together for 7 years. We want to buy a house next year so we split up the wedding costs & house purchase into different years. Finally, I am the most indecisive & easily distracted person alive and I needed to cram it all in to a shorter time frame and not second-guess myself! It was plenty of time, and worked well for me.

My sister, who is 25, got engaged 3/2010 and is getting married 4/2012.  She doesn’t have a job yet (after finishing grad school), she is currently living at home, and they don’t have much savings. She & her fiance have a lot to figure out & accomplish personally so this works for them.  It’s really dependent on your circumstances.

Post # 35
4038 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We got engaged on July 4th, married on October 10th (of this year) so just over 3 months. But we had a fairly small wedding (50 people, mostly family and close friends), and my Mother-In-Law was an event planner, so she was a ton of help (and was excited to, since she doesn’t have any daughters and loved the opportunity to help plan a wedding). 

There was really no reason for the short engagement (despite the same “are you pregnant?” question from every member of my family). We’ve been together for 4 years, and lived together the whole time, really wanted a fall wedding, and didn’t want to wait a year. Darling Husband is very eager to have kids (he’s 31, but has this silly idea that if we wait too much longer, he’ll be a “Grandpa-Dad”) and we wanted to be properly married first. I guess that’s the real reason for the short engagement.

We also moved from Philly to Pittsburgh at the end of July, and were financially okay to be unemployed while we planned the wedding, so we had a lot of time. I know most brides don’t have that opportunity, but I was immensely grateful for it. 

Post # 36
7172 posts
Busy Beekeeper

YAY!  Congrats!  Love the picture ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚

We did a 14-month engagement.  People told us all sorts of things – including many “Why are you waiting so long”.

I didn’t really want such a long engagement, but it ended up working out perfectly.  And, truth be told, I actually wanted a few more months and could have easily done 18+ months or so.

We got engaged in August and got married the following October.  Around the holidays I did zero planning and we tried to the big things at least a year ahead (DJ, photog, venue).  The time in between was a lot of dress indecision, etc.

I think it really boils down to a personality type thing.  True – there were times I’d thought the wedding would never come.  And, I got REALLY REALLY impatient around 5 or 6 months.  The longer engagement allowed me to take my time making decisions and I really appreciated that part of it.  

Again – I think it really boils down to you and how you function and make decisions.  

AND – the best piece of advice I can give you in this stage of planning is just stick with ‘nope’ when people ask about the date…… it will save you from listening to a billion of opinions that have nothing to do with you. ๐Ÿ˜‰


Post # 37
13563 posts
Honey Beekeeper


We’ll have been engaged for 28 months total. And I’ve loved every second of it.

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