(Closed) How long were you LIVING TOGETHER before you got engaged?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How long were you living together before you got engaged?
    6 months or less : (57 votes)
    25 %
    6 months-1 year : (33 votes)
    15 %
    1-2 years : (67 votes)
    30 %
    More than 2 years : (70 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    913 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    We got engaged 1 1/2 years after we moved into together.  HOWEVER – we moved in together after only a month of dating (what can I say?  we both just “knew”). 

    We also bought a home 1 year after we started dating, about 6 months before getting engaged.  Purchasig a home was higher on my priority list. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    117 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    My SO barely waited 3 months after moving in.. we were dating for 1.5 years, moved in together, and were engaged 3 months later. I had told him that I wanted to be sure we could stand each other living together before we got engaged. 🙂 Needless to say, I can stand him!

    Post # 5
    Member
    1740 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    we been living together for 8 years. have a daughter and a house. he asked me to married him for the third time on december 2009 and i finally said yes. this year on october 31 it will be 9 years living together.

    Post # 6
    Member
    382 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    my fiance and i were long distance (across the country!) for 1.5 years before we moved in together. we then lived together for another year and a half before we got engaged. we were both really glad we took our time to get used to living together after being long distance for so long before we got engaged.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2867 posts
    Sugar bee

    We live as roommates, separate rooms.

    We had dated for 6 months and best friends for years when we moved together, and waited another year to get engaged.

    Post # 8
    Hostess
    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    We’re not living together till we’re married. 🙂 After six years of being together, it will be so amazing to finally share a home!

    Post # 9
    Member
    67 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 1993

    We moved in a year after we started dating (bought a place together actually, so there was definitely understanding of proposal in the not-so-distant future), and then 8 months later, he proposed. He would have probably waited longer (I think he wanted to propose around 2-year anniversary, 1 year after moving in) but I was in a bad mood one night about work and in my crankiness made it clear I want the damn ring.

    Post # 10
    Member
    5496 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Moved in after 6 months, 16 months later he proposed (almost two years together total).

    Post # 11
    Member
    806 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We moved in after 2.5 years of non-long-distance dating.  At the outset of moving in, he was made aware that I wanted to be engaged within a year of living together, but it still took 1.5 years for him to actually do it.  Those 6 months were not pretty!  I was pretty cranky about it. 

    I think you have to mentally prepare that the engagement may not happen for a while (probably not in the first few months or even first year) since your guy is relatively young and has been hesitant in the past.  And even if you set a timeline, he may not stick with it!  However, I would suggest you have a general timeline discussion w/ him before moving in just to be sure the 2 of you are, if not on the same page, at least in the same book!  Otherwise you could be thinking it’ll happen in about a year, and he’s thinking Hmm, maybe it would be nice to get engaged once I’m 30 (or whatever).

    Post # 12
    Member
    990 posts
    Busy bee

    we were dating almost a year before we moved in together. then after our lease was up we boved back to our respective homes to save money to buy a house. and then after two years we moved in together again in another rental and 1.5 yrs later we bought our first home (which is where we live now).

    Post # 13
    Member
    144 posts
    Blushing bee

    We were dating for 9 months before we moved in together then he proopsed 3 months later.  But he was very clear to me that when I moved in, it was only with the intention of us getting engaged and married soon.  So I knew I wouldn’t have to wait long for a proposal. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    3219 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I dont think we are a “normal” situation. He spent the night on our 1st date and pretty much never left!

    So we’ve pretty much been living together since our 1st date. We were living together/ dating for about 3 years before i got the ring.

    Post # 15
    Member
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee

    4 months.. but we’ve been together for a year and a half. I wanted that ring… and I was cranky about it too. What is it about women and getting pissy when they haven’t gotten their ring? lol and more importantly why does it work? haha

    Post # 16
    Member
    1455 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    We lived together 1 year and 3 days before getting engaged.

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