(Closed) How long were you long distance?

posted 8 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 32
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

4.5 years, but we waited until we were no longer LD to get engaged.

Post # 33
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

After only dating for 2 months, me and my Fiance started our LDR 4 hours apart. We only saw each other on the weekends for a year and a half until he moved 2500 miles away for his job that he applied for before we even met. We are approaching 2 years of being in an extreme LDR but thankfully that comes to an end in 33 days! We would of been together sooner but I had school to finish as well. Would your Boyfriend or Best Friend consider getting his masters somewhere closer to you? That would help a lot.

We got through everything by talking everyday and maintaining our trust and respect for each other. Skype is very important. For a very long time my Fiance didn’t have a computer with a web cam or anything so we went months and months without so much as seeing each other’s smile. And we all know a picture doesn’t compare. But being able to see his face and actually watch him laugh was a breath of fresh air. It is definitely needed. Also, there is a lot of stress dealing with a LDR and you will have a lot of petty fights that you normally wouldn’t get in so sometimes you need to take a step back and determine if the thing you are fighting about is even worth it.

Post # 34
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

3 years, we are 19 days away from it all being over. It’s not easy but it’s worth it!

Post # 35
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Busy bee

We were LDR for about a year and a half. It’s funny that my lease came due a few months after we met, and I only renewed it on a short-term basis because I knew I would end up moving in with him before that year came up. He didn’t “know” at that point, but I just had this overwhelming gut feeling.

Post # 36
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Bee Keeper

we have been long distance for multiple different time periods. the longest was about a year (midwest to LA), but we have also been apart for a few months at a time a couple different times. he leaves wednesday again (he is a professional baseball player)….:( i am not looking forward to it! this may be the last time….i should be able to finish school in the next year/year and a half and then we should be together. it sucks, but it is always worth it for the one you love!

ETA: i didn’t read all of the responses but i definitely agree with a PP who said to make friends. the absolute best piece of advice is to continue on with your life and do you! you have to force yourself to go out and be social even when you don’t feel like it. it will totally help!

Post # 37
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012 - the Columns Hotel

We were 2000 miles apart for 25 months before I moved. He proposed ten months later. You can do it- communicate,always have something to look forward to together, and have supportive friends! Having roommates helped me to not be so lonely, as well.

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

When our LDR ends we will have been in one for 4 years. It gets easier with time. You need to find things to keep you busy. Focus on the time left until you see eachtoher next. My Fiance and I are 4 hours away from eachother and we count down the days until we can see eachother again. I know its hard because 3 years ago is when my LDR started and i cried in my dorm room everyday for weeks, then i joined a sorority, band, and got a job so that i could stay busy and it really makes things easier. Excuse my language but i know that its a shitty deal but youll make it through it and when you do your realationship will be 10x stronger. Distance isnt a death sentance to a relationship but its something that you and your Fiance will have to work at everyday but i promise it is sooooo worth it.

Post # 39
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Helper bee

We are coming up on the 2 year mark, not counting all the summer breaks during college.  And depending on how long it takes us to find jobs in the same city, it could go on for another year.  If anything, I think it gets harder the more time goes by because you realize just how long it’s been since seeing your SO was a part of your everyday life.  Though it has gotten a bit easier having a light at the end of the tunnel now that we’re engaged.

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

13 months LDR. Didn’t like it (of course), but we made it work. With technology these days, (Skype, Facebook, text) we were in touch all of the time. We made it work. It made seeing each other so much more sweet.

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

P.S. If you can get through long distance, you can get through SO MUCH.

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

We’re 5 hours apart for almost a year and a half now.  It will be 20 months total when we get married– we’re closing the LDR with a wedding!  It got easier for a while but now that the end is in sight, I absolutely cannot wait for this distance to be over!

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

We’re not done yet, but we will have been LDR for 16 months.

Post # 44
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We did 6.5 years long distance (4 years of 4 hours apart, 1 year of 12 hours apart, 1.5 of 3 hours apart ). It was so hard, but so worth it to be together.

Post # 45
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Newbee

been in LDR for 6 months. 
He was from Cali and i live in the midwest.  He decided he didn’t want to follow thru with his Law School plans and moved to be closer to me and pursue our relationship further.

he had been accpeted to Law School in East Coast— but it’s not his passion, he just applied before meeting me and it was an opportunity to move somewhere new.  He already has a degree in Criminlogy (or something with police work) and actually works as  a System Administrator and Web Developer.

Post # 46
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Helper bee

We have been in an LDR for almost 2 years and still going…4.5 years together total. I am looking at likely another 3-5 years of LDR at this point…

I am in a somewhat similar situation. It is a definite struggle when you both must weight your relationship against your personal goals. I am currently finishing up a second graduate degree and will have to go back to training for my career soon. My partner is in graduate school across the country and he definitely wants me to move there.  It is very complicated for me personally (other factors that prevent me from moving) but I am also torn because I think I would get better training for what I want to do here at home as well. 

This is definitely very hard. SO has said that we can’t really move forward until we are in the same place.  At the end of the day, I am not exactly sure what I am going to do yet but it would make more sense if I stayed here rather than moving.  It really hurts to have to make the choice.

In reading your post, I wouldn’t give up your career just to follow your Fiance.  I also do not think it would be wise for your Fiance to stop his training if it is necessary for his goals. Your lives together have to also be true to each of your personal goals. It is possible to support each other on your seperate paths even if you have to be apart for a portion of it. Is there a way that you can find a similar job where his graduate program is?

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