Post # 47
@MissMelly: My fiance and I started dating and I lived an hour away, we only saw each other on the weekends and sometimes not even that much since we both worked and went to school. We did that for 3 years. Now, the fourth year I got a position for graduate school 8 hours away, so we’ve been doing that for a year. He just moved to where I live (Marquette) for the summer because he got a job with the fish and wildlife for the summer. Then he is moving 2 hours away in september to do grad school, and we will be married in oct of 2013!! I love my fiance more than anything and we are so grateful for everything we have because of this long distance thing. You have NO idea how excited I am to finally be done with this, but it’s so worth it!
Post # 48
Oh yeah, and it is hard but we both decided it was best for us to pursue what WE want to do. Sure, its not like we were happy to be away from each other but we both have no regrets and wouldnt do it any other way! Besides, now we’re going to have the job of our dreams and each other 🙂
Post # 49
@stewie: P.S. If you can get through long distance, you can get through SO MUCH.
This. In fact, I just told my friend this who’s SO just moved about a 4 hour drive away. DH and I were long distance for the first 4 years of our relationship. It started out just a 2 hour drive apart (but we were poor college students and I didn’t have a car so it may as well had been 20 hours away); then it went to 4 hours drive apart; and for a summer I was in Texas and he was in Georgia; and then back to 4 hours apart and then finally together. We tried to see each other at least every other weekend but sometimes it would be a month or more without seeing each other. It was really difficult, but we learned so much about our communication styles that I think it really benefitted us in the long run. But I would never go back to doing it. I definitely cried just about everytime we had to say goodbye. I remember when he got the job in Dallas (where I was living) and we realized we were finally going to be living near one another is one of the best days of my life (this day has more recently been surpassed by the day he proposed and of course our wedding day).
Post # 50
We were 2.5 hours apart for two years. We were lucky in the fact that 2.5 hours is close compared to many LDR couples. It wasn’t easy, but we texted all the time, talked on the phone (for hours) every night, and made trips back and forth as often as we could (which was about once every 1-2 weeks). It really sucked, but it made us so much stronger. Also, I sort of miss the excitement/appreciation we used to have every time we saw each other. That’s definitely a perk of an LDR.
Post # 51
my mister and i are also apart due to our jobs. we’re a 1.5 hour flight apart from one another but we try to meet every 3-4 weeks, depending on work schedules. i’m used to it and not as bothered as i was the first couple of years… and it’s been four years now!
we call each other every morning as a sort of back-up alarm clock 🙂 and at lunch to wish “bon apetit” and then again in the evenings we skype. we even watch videos online together… we’ll load the same site, then one of us will turn down the volume on the video and we’ll count 1, 2, 3 and press play at the same time. it’s silly, but it makes us feel a little closer than we are, distance-wise.
congrats on your engagement and good luck to you and your fiance. after having lived together, this temporary separation might turn out to be an exciting change and rejuvenation for your relationship!
Post # 52
@MissMelly: We’ve been long distance for 3.5 years now and it’s intercontinental 🙂
If your love is strong then you’ll make it.
You know how they say:
Distance is to love like wind is to fire –
it extinguishes the small but enflames the great!
Post # 53
Couldn’t agree more with everything you said! Everyons says “it will get easier with time”…lies LOL It really does get harder. You just can’t change the situation and get frustrated knowing what amount of your relationship has been together v. apart. I’m with you on the engagement! The wedding means an end to distance:)
Post # 54
Boyfriend or Best Friend and I were long distance for two years when I taught in Japan and he stayed in the U.S. We saw each other twice a year when I would go home for the holidays or he would come visit during the summer. The things that made it easier to bear were:
-Knowing we were both on the same page, to move in together when I got back and eventually get married. When thinking about it in terms of our whole lives together, what’s a measly two years on a lifelong timeline?
-Frequently talking about our future together.
-THE INTERNET. I cannot stress this enough. Daily videochats (although one of us was always having to sacrifice sleep because of the time difference, it was worth it), and even silly stuff like playing an online game together or watching a movie together via screenshare.
-Surrounding myself with supportive friends, and going out and having a life – of course thinking about and missing my boyfriend but not wasting away sitting by the computer waiting for him to sign on.
It was definitely hard, but I think our relationship is much stronger for having endured it. Best of luck.
Post # 55
What a sweet saying, I’ve never heard it, but I love it!
We were LDR for nearly all of our relationship (about a year and a half) before we got married. We’d been friends for about 4 years before that, again though never really living in the same town. Anyway, for the part of which we were in a relationship, the year and a half, it was the 13 hour plane ride and $1000+ plane ticket away, so we didn’t see each other nearly as much as we would have liked. But we loved each other and made it work! Technology has definitely helped those in LDRs survive!
I’d like to say now that we’re together, we’ll never do LDR again, BUT he’s in the military and deployments/time apart are a guarantee for our future. It definitely helps me soak up the ‘now’ moments and really appreciate them – something I think many in LDRs get really good at – not taking for granted the time we DO get to spend with our loved one!
Post # 56
@MissMelly: we were long distance for 2.5 years, where most of the year we were an hour’s drive apart and over the summers we were a 27 hour flight apart. he finally moved in with me at 3.5 years together 🙂
just have faith and work at it <3
Post # 57
Started dating at 15 long distance On and off for 12 years undergrad and medical school (2different states, 2 different countries) 4 places all together he would move away move back i would move away, finally moving back together in September, you can do it!
Post # 58
Wow MrsPap. That is impressive. Giving me hope though
We’re long distance since two years. We will have another two or so to go
Post # 59
By the time we move in together in only a few months (yay!), we will have been together for well over four years and of that time, almost 3 years will have been long distance. It has definitely gotten easier with time. I am very much looking forward to finally moving back in together but at the same time I am grateful for the time we have had apart because it has made us closer and our relationship stronger. 🙂
I see it as a stage we have had to go through. I plan to spend the rest of my life with him – what is 3 years long distance in a lifetime together? Our relationship is worth the wait. These thoughts have kept me going for 3 long years and now I see a light at the end of the tunnel – only a few short months left! 😀
Post # 60
- Wedding: October 2014 - Legare Waring House
FH and I have been long-distance since we started dating – it’s been a little over 2 years, I’ve lived in 2 places. We will (hopefully, maybe?) stop being LD in December or January of next year. It’s a high probability that his job will require him to be gone for extended periods of time – so we will see. We are both in school right now, and he is finishing in May, and me in December. Time will tell!
Post # 61
three years- he was in London, I was in Connecticut. It was so hard and like you said every time we had to say goodbye it was horrible – but it brings you closer. It does get easier with time too