- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
Yeah, being LD sucks, but if you have the right temperment (and enough visits!) you can make it work.
Here’s the timeline my Darling Husband and I have had:
1st month of relationship – living in same city! It was realy just mean to be fun, not a realationship, but it lead into…
1st year – a 1 year “accidnetal” long distance relationship. We didn’t mean to stay togerher, we just couldn’t stop talking and visiting each other. Distance: 1500 miles
Next 5 years – medium distance relationship. We didn’t live in the same town, but we were only about 1-2 hours apart (depends on traffic) and got to see each other ever weekend and have week day visits occasionally. Distance: 50 miles.
The Next year – just a few month after getting engaged Fiance got an offer he couldn’t refuse for a temporary work assignment in another city. It was supposed to be for 2 months but it looks like it’s going to be a year. We’re in the midst of this right now and are now currently married. Distance: 1000 miles.
I’m lucky that Darling Husband gets to come home every other weekend and we can pay for additional flights if we choose. Of course flying back and forth is a pain in the booty and is really draining compared to the ease of a 1 hour drive, but it’s better than what some others have to deal with. (Poor miliary couples!)
It sucks, but here’s how we’ve made it work:
– Make the time you spend together special. No chores or running around, every time you get to spend together is an event! Do something cool like a mini trip or cool adventure every time you see each other. That way you’ve got it to look forward to and to remmber.
– Having a SO is time consuming! Since he’ll be away so much using the time to reclaim your single girl freedom. See friends and family, get pedicures on a Saturday, get all those chorse done that you dont’ want to deal with when you could be snuggling your sweetie. Watch the TV shows that he hates without guilt. Relish in the toilet seat that is never left up!
– Text messaging. We like text messaging and picture messaging and keep up a regular stream of chatter during the day. Maybe text isnt’ your medium of choice, but find one and use it regularly to keep up to date on the little mundane parts of life that you’d usually share over dinner.
Nothing revolutinoary, but that’s how we do it!