(Closed) How long were you long distance?

posted 8 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 62
5874 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yeah, being LD sucks, but if you have the right temperment (and enough visits!) you can make it work.


Here’s the timeline my Darling Husband and I have had:

1st month of relationship – living in same city!  It was realy just mean to be fun, not a realationship, but it lead into…

1st year – a 1 year “accidnetal” long distance relationship.  We didn’t mean to stay togerher, we just couldn’t stop talking and visiting each other.  Distance: 1500 miles

Next 5 years – medium distance relationship.  We didn’t live in the same town, but we were only about 1-2 hours apart (depends on traffic) and got to see each other ever weekend and have week day visits occasionally.  Distance: 50 miles.

The Next year – just a few month after getting engaged Fiance got an offer he couldn’t refuse for a temporary work assignment in another city.  It was supposed to be for 2 months but it looks like it’s going to be a year.  We’re in the midst of this right now and are now currently married.  Distance: 1000 miles.  

I’m lucky that Darling Husband gets to come home every other weekend and we can pay for additional flights if we choose.  Of course flying back and forth is a pain in the booty and is really draining compared to the ease of a 1 hour drive, but it’s better than what some others have to deal with.  (Poor miliary couples!)

It sucks, but here’s how we’ve made it work:

 – Make the time you spend together special.  No chores or running around, every time you get to spend together is an event!  Do something cool like a mini trip or cool adventure every time you see each other.  That way you’ve got it to look forward to and to remmber.

 – Having a SO is time consuming!  Since he’ll be away so much using the time to reclaim your single girl freedom.  See friends and family, get pedicures on a Saturday, get all those chorse done that you dont’ want to deal with when you could be snuggling your sweetie.  Watch the TV shows that he hates without guilt.  Relish in the toilet seat that is never left up!

 – Text messaging.  We like text messaging and picture messaging and keep up a regular stream of chatter during the day.  Maybe text isnt’ your medium of choice, but find one and use it regularly to keep up to date on the little mundane parts of life that you’d usually share over dinner.

Nothing revolutinoary, but that’s how we do it!  

Post # 63
735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

3 Years

and a 12 hour total train flight to and forth

Post # 64
1579 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We were long distance for 5.5 years. Yes, 5.5 YEARS. We went through a few peiods where it was 6-8 months before we saw each other 🙁 You learn a lot about each other thoug and helped us be both independent but still dependent on each other. It was hard hard hard but it makes being together that much sweeter. 

Post # 65
2023 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

After 1 1/2 years of dating he moved to be closer to his new job. Only an hour and a half away.  I was still in school so of course I couldnt move with him.  We were long distance until I moved in with him when I graduated 1 1/2 years later.  At that point half of our relationhip was long distance.  The next two years we had our ups and downs but good news is we are still getting married in 4 months!

Post # 66
650 posts
Busy bee

We’ve been long distance since the beginnig of our relationship which is 1 year nw and its very difficult because its at the point of making career changing decisions and deciding on kids as we are both in our 30’s.


Reading all of these stories has given me so much hope and inspiration not to give up. It’s going to be at least another year before we see each other.

We live 8 hours away by plane 

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