How long were you thinking/researching your ideal ring before actual proposal?

posted 2 months ago in Engagement
Post # 2
211 posts
Helper bee

I had my Pinterest boards around for about 2 years with a clean out and update every 6 months or so. Then once we seriously started talking about engagement and marriage, I spend a month doing tons of research, jewelry store visits, and making a list of my top 5 or so.

Basically, I had an idea of what I wanted for a long time, then I refined and narrowed it down about three to four months before the actual engagement. 🙂

I also had to make my list early since we are using an heirloom diamond, so the band is going to be custom made for it, which takes an extra three weeks to make!

Post # 4
211 posts
Helper bee

MissMul :  My taste changed a lot too! A few years ago I like the twisted band look, and then it changed to more channel set bands (which I still love), but once I stumbled upon engraved rings it was game over.

I am the same kind of control freak! I also plan everything I possibly can. When we got to our third month of dating (when we were both 17), I was like “I don’t date around, I’m dating for a life partner. I want to be married by X age, I want to have X many kids and be done having kids at X time, I want to have the option of being a SAHM” etc. Lucky for me, he didn’t run away and shared the same life goals!

So when it came to the ring, he wanted to pick it out (which I didn’t trust him to do), so I took him to a jewelry store and asked him what styles he wanted. He completely failed so I said, “Hon, I know you mean well, but if I have to wear this piece of jewelry for the rest of my life, I want to pick it out.” We comprised by me giving him a list of acceptable bands and him picking out one from that. So it’s still one I know I’ll like and he still gets to pick it out! (although this is the band I’m rooting for… )

I’ve been a stalker of the boards here for a month or so before joining, and I would spend hours just combing through the ring boards, taking notes of what I liked or thought was cool. There’s so much variety here, so I know what you mean!

Post # 5
2380 posts
Buzzing bee

Yep. I went and tried on rings with different shaped stones. I was amazed that some just didn’t look good on my finger. I got an idea of the size I wanted too. Then I saved pictures of settings that I liked parts of. By the time he proposed I knew exactly what I wanted.

Post # 6
397 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

When I casually looked at rings on Pinterest about 4 years ago it was completely different than when I actually started looking for rings for myself.  My FI always jokes about if he would have bought the first ring I ever showed him from pinterest because I would probably hate it now lol.  I started looking into rings about a year before we got engaged and made a secret pinterest board.  But I got really serious about it (and added FI to the board) about 7-8 months before he proposed.  I pretty much had the exact ring in my head at that time!

Post # 7
4442 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: San Francisco City Hall

For probably 4 years prior to my engagement I knew what I wanted in a ring (delicate halo, cushion cut) and then just months leading up I totally switched gears (round solitaire).  But once I decided on a solitaire I knew it was the one, no more questioning.

Post # 8
7056 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

A very long time! And of course it was all useless since my tastes did a complete 180 once we actually went shopping together.

Post # 9
188 posts
Blushing bee

Well I don’t have a ring yet… but I do have the pinterest board where I collect the shinies I like 🙂 But I’m not going to become “married” to a certain ring because I am pretty sure that BF will want to pick it out and choose it himself… so I would hate to get my heart set on a specific ring and then get something completely different.

Post # 10
34 posts

I’ve had my Pinterest board for six years now, where I just pinned EVERY single ring that I liked without regard. My SO made a comment that when we’re close to the time of engagement, I should make him a Pinterest page so he can find my ring. I’ve changed my mind about a hundred times about what kind of ring I want, so my mom told me I better clean that board out ASAP because poor guy will be entirely confused. I’m sure I’ll still want to go try rings on though when the time comes. 

Post # 11
597 posts
Busy bee

yeah, no. I looked for about a month, went shopping 2x and chose my ring.

Post # 12
226 posts
Helper bee

I casually showed him some rings whenever I saw ones I liked, but no Pinterest board or shopping together. In hindsight I wish I did bc with the proposal ring he chose I ended up having that retuned. I’m still waiting for my ring but suggested he take his time there is no rush now that we are engaged! 

Post # 13
170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

MissMul :  I think we started looking at rings about 6 months prior to the proposal. We did a lot of research online to make sure we ended up with the best. It was definitely a super fun experience! 😀 

Post # 14
372 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017 - Combermere Abbey

I think for maybe 3-4 months but not sure. I initially wanted a trilogy ring but when I went shopping it was far too bling. Tried on a solitaire and I knew that was the one. I loved the pear shape as it was a modern twist and I always knew I wanted the band to be yellow gold that never changed. 😉

Post # 15
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

MissMul :  probably when we talked about ring i researched and thought a certain style would suit then tried it on and i was wrong. So we did a lot of shopping before i found the design that suited me

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