(Closed) How long were you together before you got the itch?

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
Post # 77
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Me- 8 months, him- 10 months.  I think he had a year stuck in his head so it took him a little longer to come around!

Post # 78
5385 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

We met at 17 and I knew that he was the one from the start, but I didn’t get the itch until about 3 years later  because I knew that we would have to graduate from college first. Now at 6yrs 4 months, I feel like I am about to go insane. lol

Post # 79
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

i started getting interested in marrying my boyfriend after the 2 year mark, when 4.5 years rolled around and a few of my friends were getting engaged i started getting annoyed and mentioning it a lot. we’ve been together 5.5 years now and he still hasn’t proposed. there have been a few times where i learned about people getting engaged that have been together for a year or 2 and i just lost it. we’ve been living together for the past 4 years, so i guess it doesn’t help that i feel like we’ve been married, but without the celebration.

Post # 80
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m 26.  Been with boyfriend for about a year and a half.  Started getting itchy a couple of months ago.  It’s weird – I don’t really want to be married right now or even engaged (I am in graduate school, which consumes my life!)…I just want to know for certain that it’s in the cards.  I love boyfriend completely, he’s a wonderful man, and I want to spend the rest of my life with him — BUT he’s such a slow mover that he makes me look like a fast mover (and I was pretty slow-moving before I met him).  I wanted to wait to have the discussions until he started talking about it, to be sure that it was something that he really wanted for himself, that it wasn’t just me pressuring him into it.

…yeah, that didn’t happen.  He never brought up any kind of a future, ever, throughout the whole first year.  Which I got upset about.  I know he loves me, but I just felt like he wasn’t all that serious about me in the long run.  So I brought it up.  And he says, “yeah, I want that for us someday”, and I believe that he’s sincere about it.  But he takes absolutely no initiative in moving the relationship forward at all, so I’m concerned. 

Waiting bees, am I crazy to be worrying about something I don’t even want just yet?  Am I rushing things?

Post # 81
1813 posts
Buzzing bee

I wanted to get engaged badly a little over a 1.5 yrs. into our relationship.  He was 30 and I was 28 at that point, and he proposed about 5 mos. later, on our 2 yr anniversary.  We were 29 & 31 when we married.

Post # 82
11808 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

I started hoping he would propose after we’d been together for about three years.  I was 24 at the time.  I think it had more to do with people I knew gettin engaged even though they hadn’t been dating as long.  Now that I look back on it, I’m surprised at how badly I wanted to get engaged!

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