Post # 17
My first serious relationship started in HS. I never waited. My next one was for 6 years in my 20’s. Same. Never wanted to marry him either.
Next serious one in the beginning of my 30s? He wanted marriage, but I still didn’t, but I did, just not to him.
39? I meet now Fiance.. *BAMB* I wanted to marry this boy from date 2 onwards.
Post # 18
thanks so much for all the awesome feedback!
Post # 19
We had been together just over two years when we talked about moving in together. I wanted us to work through some big issues (he had always been unsure about kids) first, before moving in. We talked it through, decided to move forward, and agreed that moving in was a significnat step towards getting engaged. Ever since those conversations in August, I’ve been ready. I think he’s only been ready since the kitchen has been done (end of April). I figured that he can’t multi-task and needed me moved in and kitchen done before focusing on getting engaged, but I was suprised to have this confirmed by a friend – reportedly, he told her that he had a timeline of those events a good while back.
If I had been proposed to at the 8 month mark, I would not have waited either! (Although, it likely would have been unpleasantly early for me, unlike it was for you.)
Post # 20
I knew I loved him and that he was someone really special around the 6 months mark.
I didn’t really start wanting a ring or to be engaged though until at least the 3 1/2 – 4 year mark (after we’d lived together for a year).
We started dating when we were still in college (19 and 20 yrs old) and I felt I wouldn’t be ready to get married until I was at least 25.
He proposed after 6 1/2 years of dating. (I was 26)
Post # 21
Well… we were dating for about 6 months (it was in January) and he said he FULLY planned to be engaged by October. I wouldn’t have expected it for another yr, but b/c he put a time line on it, in NOvermber of that yr I started to get anxious, and was thinkign somethign had gone wrong.
Post # 22
We’ve been together since we were 19 an in school. I wasn’t really ‘waiting’ until I’d been out of school and working for many years, and 30 was approaching. So I guess I’ve been waiting about 4-6 years, even though we’ve been together longer.
Post # 23
My SO and I went ring shopping for the first time a couple weeks before our 3 year anniversary. So about the 3 year mark for me. It hasn’t even been a year yet and I feel like I’ve been waiting forever. Approximately 9 months of waiting for me. Our 4 year anniversary is coming up in about 3 months. I will be livid if we arent’ engaged by then. We haven’t talked about anything E/W/M related in weeks. I didn’t renew my lease and am now on a month to month plan so if he indeed does not propose by our anniversary I will be moving alone.
Post # 24
About 15 months and then it hit me like BAM, so here I am on the waiting boards. lol I’m 25.
Post # 25
We were in love about 3 months in, but I wasnt ready or thinking about marriage at that point. We moved in together at the one year mark, but I still wasnt thinking marriage. I would say around 2 years is when I started getting the itch.
Post # 26
We’ve had kind of an interesting history. We hooked up a few years ago right before I was leaving the country for work. I came back two years later and we were both still single so we got together right away!
We bought a house after 8 months of dating. We started talking about marriage around then, we even looked at rings and everything. We talked about getting married in the fall of 2010, but it just wasn’t going to work financially. We then decided that 2011 would be a good time and in May 2010 he proposed.
I can’t really say that I was “waiting” for very long. We started talking openly about marriage after maybe five or six months of dating. But then we made a decision together to get married & when. I guess I was waiting for maybe a couple of months for him to give me a ring? He still wanted to do that part himself which was awesome!
Post # 27
yeah I’m in the same boat but we bought a house from the early 1900s and need to redo about half of it, still. We’ve done a lot but our next major project will cost more than a ring, so I see that as a priority 🙂 Plus, we wouldn’t have to pay for the wedding, which helps
Post # 28
I was 25 when it set in, and now I’m 26th (and it’s currently my own fault that we’re not engaged). I have a coworker who said that when she first started dating her man, who is now her husband, that she said, “Look buddy, I’ve been in a relationship where I was strung around for 4 1/2 years and here’s the thing- you’ve got two or I’m moving on.” When her 2-year anniversary came around, he didn’t propose and she was so pissed that she wouldn’t talk to him and even started packing. As it turns out, there was a delay in having her (gorgeous) ring made, and he proposed about a week later. So it’s a lesson why not to make arses of ourselves!
Post # 29
if there was an other- I would choose that. It was almost a year of dating that we had brought up marriage and constant talks and meltdowns (about him being on the same page) about that happened- but I really didn’t start waiting for a ring until we were together 1.5 years.
Post # 30
all of you make me so happy that I’m not the only one who has had these awful meltdowns! I’m determined to make them stop…. argh! I come from a family with a really good track record for marriage. His family? Not so much, and he doesn’t want to be like them, which is the main reason for our delay
Post # 31
About a year in, if you consider me to be waiting, which I’m not really sure of, lol. We have not talked marriage or had any real conversation about our future. There is just the occasional comment about something that we’ll do when… Anyway, I think it’s fast, but around 6 months I felt like this was right and now (just under a year) I know that I could very easily spend my life with this man. Keep in mind, though, that he has no clue that I feel like I’m waiting for a proposal, so it’ll definitely be awhile, lol. So, if you consider me to be waiting if I feel like I’m waiting but he doesn’t know a thing about it, then I’ll say 10 months of dating plus 5 months of friendship.