Post # 1
I haven’t been to a wedding in a while, so I can’t remember at all. I have about 115 people expected at the dinner. I believe the buffet will be one sided due to lack of space (boo) but I’m going to double check with the caterer to see if we can do double sided.
I’m also thinking of having menu cards at the tables so guests will already know what is up there, which will hopefully speed things up.
Anyone know from experience how long it will take people to go through? Also, any estimates on how long it would take people to eat? We have plenty of time but I’m trying to at least have a tentative schedule for the evening.
Post # 3
It can take a while if no one is “prodding” people along.
The important thing to remember is this:
Make sure the head dias with the bride and groom are serviced first or someone is in line getting their food for them because I was in a wedding once where everyone just lined up and no one instructed them to, so the whole wedding party had no food and sat around waiting. I just decided to break in line at the wrong end. People were mad, but I said, “This is for the bride.” then after I got her food, I went back and said “this is for the groom.” I had to keep doing it for everyone in the wedding party because they didn’t want to be “rude.” Well, I think it was rude for everyone to line up without being told first.
Then, the bride hadn’t thought about clean up of the buffet. the hosts were acting like they were there for a party, not to work, so guess what? I, one of the bride’s maids, ran around with a trash bag, helping people with all the trash and plates piling up on their tables. Then the bride got mad cause she couldn’t find me for pictures.
Do I have scars? Well, yes, I do. a 4x bridesmaid who had to do stuff like that at each wedding would have plenty of scars.
Post # 4
@honeybee1999: That sounds awful!!
@galloway111: I am terrified of the same thing!
Post # 5
@honeybee1999: If our servers didn’t do there job I would expect some sort f discount. That is ridiculous- we are paying them to serve food, they aren’t invited to the wedding!
And we plan to have them go up by table to hopefully reduce the traffic jam… luckily our families are both more the type to be hesitant about being the first in line for anything, so I’m sure it will be clear that the head table is going up first!
Post # 6
I never really got any timing answers… anyone have any experience or knowledge about this? My photographer just told me she estimated 2.5 hours, minimum! For 120 people? Really? That seems super long to me… I planned for 1.5 hours before the cake cutting (people can still be finishing food at that point) and another half hour for cake, with the first dance being exactly 2 hours after dinner starts…
So do you think it will really go 2.5 hours or more? Is it okay if people are finishing up while we do our first dance (since all but the head table will be left out anyway) or is that rude?
Post # 7
There’s no way it’ll go that long! I would expect it to take about 30-45 minutes tops depending on how slow people are. I think having servers there will really help.
Post # 8
@jo.lee: Do you mean 30-45 minutes for everyone to get through the line once or for total eating time? My photographer meant total eating time, but even that seems super long. I was thinking maybe 45 minutes for everyone to get through MAX, and that still gives them 45 more minutes to eat and go back up before cake is even cut.