Post # 1
So my fiance and i were talking about when we will start a family and he says when we are financially ready but i feel that no matter how much money u have u will never be financially ready for a child. How do you guys feel about this? how long will you be waiting after getting married?
Post # 3
We both want to be established in careers before we have kids. We’ve agreed that around 30 should be a good age for us.
Post # 4
Oh boy…I would like to wait until just before I’m at the age where the risk of disorders becomes too high! Haha, seriously though–I am terrified of having kids. Every now and then it sounds like fun, but for the most part it sounds exhausting and miserable…and exhausting. Sounds like it’s easy to lose part of “yourself” while catering to little dinkos all day and night. As you can tell from this post, I am much too selfish to have babies anytime soon. I am hoping to not start trying for another 4 years?
Post # 5
we’re thinking to start trying in 3 years or so…
Post # 6
We aren’t sure if we want kids yet but if we are going to, we will wait until we are in our late 20s – early 30s so 5-10 years still.
Post # 7
We are going to start the adoption process a couple months after we are married. Not sure when we will try to get pregnant. Probably depends on how the adoption goes.
Post # 8
at first i wasnt for the idea of kids but i changed my mind. I also was terrified about something coming out of you down there lol. I am 24 going on 25 (next month is my bday) and hes 27 going on 28 (in may) so i feel like i dont wanna be in my late 30’s to have kids as my parents were in there late 30’s.
Post # 9
We said 2 years after the wedding… just so we can someone have a date in mind, so we can start planning and saving.
I know people said if you keep saying you want to be save up before having kids, you’ll never have kids because there will always be things that come up… car repairs, house repairs and such.
Post # 10
My hubby wants kids now, but I want to wait 5 years to start trying. We’ll both be 27, finished with school, and he’ll almost be out of the Navy.
Post # 11
I said 25 but since thats slowly creeping up on me i say 30.
Post # 12
@ Sep Quenn, I know how you feel. I always said 30 (I am 28 ) and I am now getting nervous!! =)
Post # 13
I’m aiming for 25-ish or so, about 5 years after we get married. I’m afraid of being an “old” parent, but I want to be established and so does Fiance.
Post # 14
S and I have decided to start trying in 2015/16, so 5 or so years away. We would like our first to be born in 2016, because S is going back to uni next year, so He’ll be done by 2015. This works for me, I’ll be 26 and He’ll be 29. Oh, and we are getting married in late 2012.
Post # 15
@ VirginiaMarie: Yes! This is exactly how I feel. Miserable, and exhausting, and where does yourself go in the process? My sister’s facebook page has her daughter’s hairbows favorited, and her son’s soccer team. Not anything she likes for herself. I saw that and it sort of freaked me out.
I’m not saying never, I’m just saying “not yet.” And I have no idea when the magic ready time is, I’m about two weeks from being 25 now, and I don’t feel anywhere near ready.
Fiance has one son, and we’ve talked about it, he says if I decide I want them, great. If I decide I don’t, that’s great too, he has a kid, and we can get another dog.
Post # 16
we’ve guestimated 4 to 5 years after our wedding. it sounds like a long time, but i’ve got law school, he’s got his mba program… we just can’t have kids before we’re done with schooling/working a couple of years with our new degrees