(Closed) How long will you wait to have kids?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

We both want to be established in careers before we have kids. We’ve agreed that around 30 should be a good age for us. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Oh boy…I would like to wait until just before I’m at the age where the risk of disorders becomes too high!  Haha, seriously though–I am terrified of having kids.  Every now and then it sounds like fun, but for the most part it sounds exhausting and miserable…and exhausting. Sounds like it’s easy to lose part of “yourself” while catering to little dinkos all day and night.  As you can tell from this post, I am much too selfish to have babies anytime soon.  I am hoping to not start trying for another 4 years?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

we’re thinking to start trying in 3 years or so…

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We aren’t sure if we want kids yet but if we are going to, we will wait until we are in our late 20s – early 30s so 5-10 years still.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We are going to start the adoption process a couple months after we are married. Not sure when we will try to get pregnant. Probably depends on how the adoption goes.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We said 2 years after the wedding…  just so we can someone have a date in mind, so we can start planning and saving.

I know people said if you keep saying you want to be save up before having kids, you’ll never have kids because there will always be things that come up… car repairs, house repairs and such.

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

My hubby wants kids now, but I want to wait 5 years to start trying. We’ll both be 27, finished with school, and he’ll almost be out of the Navy.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I said 25 but since thats slowly creeping up on me i say 30.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@ Sep Quenn, I know how you feel. I always said 30 (I am 28 ) and I am now getting nervous!! =)

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’m aiming for 25-ish or so, about 5 years after we get married. I’m afraid of being an “old” parent, but I want to be established and so does Fiance.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

S and I have decided to start trying in 2015/16, so 5 or so years away. We would like our first to be born in 2016, because S is going back to uni next year, so He’ll be done by 2015. This works for me, I’ll be 26 and He’ll be 29. Oh, and we are getting married in late 2012.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@ VirginiaMarie: Yes!  This is exactly how I feel.  Miserable, and exhausting, and where does yourself go in the process?  My sister’s facebook page has her daughter’s hairbows favorited, and her son’s soccer team.  Not anything she likes for herself.  I saw that and it sort of freaked me out.

I’m not saying never, I’m just saying “not yet.”  And I have no idea when the magic ready time is, I’m about two weeks from being 25 now, and I don’t feel anywhere near ready.

Fiance has one son, and we’ve talked about it, he says if I decide I want them, great.  If I decide I don’t, that’s great too, he has a kid, and we can get another dog.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

we’ve guestimated 4 to 5 years after our wedding. it sounds like a long time, but i’ve got law school, he’s got his mba program… we just can’t have kids before we’re done with schooling/working a couple of years with our new degrees

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