(Closed) How long will you wait to start a family?

posted 7 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Married at 31 and 36 and just stopped birth control last month 7 months after our wedding. I am concerned about fertility and so we don’t want to wait any longer. There isn’t anything really significant we want to do before kids so we might as well start right away. It may be years before we are successful anyway.

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’ll be 31, he’ll be 33 by the time we get married and neither of us want to start a family immediately. Unfortunately, I’m worried about my age a little bit but it took me a long time to find my Fiance (worth the wait)! What’s meant to be, will be and we’re taking it as it comes. After oru wedding, we’ll be buying a house. One big step at a time!

Post # 18
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Sugar bee

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LCC611:  We are shooting for three- four years. I will be 28 and SO will be 34. 

We would like to be married at least a year before TTC – or at least i would. He would give the go ahead today if i wanted to LOL

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I was 33 when I had my first child and 37 when I had my second.  I’d definitely start before 35, if you can.  I definitely would not have one much older than 37-38.  The older you are, the harder it is and the more tired you get!

Post # 20
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

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LCC611:  I jus turned 31 and Fh is just about 32, the original plan was to start TTC basically the day after the wedding.  the glitch – one of my BMs has asked me to be her Bridesmaid or Best Man for her overseas wedding in January.  It’s not just overseas, it’s overseas where immunizations and a 16 hour flight are required…not really preggo friendly.  So now I’m torn as to what to do.

Post # 21
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i was 32 at my wedding in october and DH turned 36 in january following the wedding.  we did start TTCing right away and are still trying….unfortunately.

but if you want to wait, there is no rush until you are ready.

actually last monday, DH came home and told me he had a revelation.  he is ready to be a father.  i knew he wasn’t quite ready before (i asked him if we could start trying before the wedding) but he agreed to start right away because he knew how badly i want to be a mother.

Post # 23
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693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My husband is 45 and I’m 37. We are starting to try this summer, and were married in October. We are older, and I have one kidney and a unicornuate uterus. 🙂 The odds aren’t exactly in our favor, but we are optimistic. If it happens, YAY! If not, we will be able to afford more frequent vacations. 🙂 Best to you!

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Villa Celeste

My fiance will be 37 and myself 34 by the time we get married. I’d love to have kids but TTC isn’t something we want for at least a year after we marry. We have already agreed that we only want two children so I’m not neccisarily feeling rushed. We’re not getting married till this September, so as of right now I’m just trying to enjoy the two of us. We’ll probably reevaulate in 2015. 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON

My DH and I got married when I was 28 and he had just turned 38 and honestly I didn’t start having baby fever until recently and I am 34! I am pretty healthy as far as I know, so I do not regret waiting! Right now it feels right so we are going to TTC now. 

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

 

LCC611:  It’s your own personal preference.  No one should dictate when you should or shouldn’t have children, their opinions don’t matter. 

We won’t have any children together.  He has a daughter who is 15 and I have 3 ages 12, 9 and 9 (yes twins).  Fiance is 9 years older than me and I just turned 33 so he’s 42.  I would LOVE another baby, but its really nice not having to constantly look after a young one, my kids are pretty self sufficient, we have a built in babysitter, and Fiance doesn’t want to be 60 before all the kids are out and we can start our “alone time” together.  We met when my younger 2 were 4, my oldest was 7 and his daughter was 10.  So we’ve been together with kids our entire relationship.

Post # 27
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Church

Honestly, we want to have a child right away. Part of me would like to be married at least a year first though. But when we get married, I’ll be 31 and Fiance will be 37, sooooo, lol, I don’t think we should wait too long. 

Post # 28
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Newbee

I will be 31 by the time Fiance and I are married. We plan on waiting at least a year before we TTC. But, let it be known, there have already been questions about when the babies will come.

-_-

 

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

LCC611

 

We are on the same boat! I will turn 33 after we get maried in October, everyone been telling me we should TTC as soon as possible because I’m getting old but I don’t plan to have kid until I’m 35 or 36. 

I felt that we need time to adjust to each other life style before we start a family… and it will take about 1-2 years to do that… 

Post # 30
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Newbee

I’m a little scared of waiting because of so many friends who had problems TTC.  I’m going to be 33 when I’m married and since I want more than one child, we’ll probably be starting soon after the wedding.  

My doctor explained it to me like this: It takes most people an average of x months (12?) to conceive.  Add 9 months, then do that math again for every child you want and you definitely want to be done  having children past x age unless you want to get into scary concerns (I don’t want to scare or upset anyone on here so I’m not listing the age).  Anyway, there’s that, and we’re ready.  

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