(Closed) How long would it take to save $$$

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Newbee

I save $2,000 a month. The point isn’t you paying for her, she should be responsible enough at her age to have her own savings and want to go to your wedding. Sounds to me like she doesn’t want to go. 

Post # 3
Hostess
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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mrsstewietobe:  How long it takes to save any amount of money is completely dependant on the person’s income and expenses.  I could save it in a month, but I couldn’t imagine coming up with that money when I was in law school full time (you’re not allowed to work your first year, and jobs 2nd and 3rd year were unpaid internships).  It doesn’t really matter how long it would take your Maid/Matron of Honor – maybe $600 is really expensive for her and she’s terribly stressed about it.  I would talk to her about what’s really going on.  If she can’t afford it and you want her there, you may have to find a way to come up with that money to help her out.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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mrsstewietobe:  it really doesn’t matter how long it would take me or any other bee to save $600 because it is irrelevant. The point is that your Maid/Matron of Honor is having trouble finding the money to attend your wedding. And it isn’t an indication of how much she wants to go to your wedding like a pp mentioned, that is ridiculous. It is more likely that your wedding is putting her under financial duress and she is afraid to tell you for fear of hurting your feelings and letting you down.

If someone was close enough to me that I make them Maid/Matron of Honor then they would also be close enough to me that I would move heaven and earth to do whatever I could to have them standing next to me. I would buy their plane ticket and dress.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper

Why are you micromanaging her? You offered to pay for her flight and she turned you down. I assume that means she plans to take care of it herself. Until you know otherwise, I would assume she is an adult who is responsible for making her own travel arrangements. 

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

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beebeelove:  Not everyone is in the same financial situation though. Some people have loan debt, some people have medical issues, some people have emergencies, some people have children and mouths to feed and low paying jobs. As someone who saves $2k a month I don’t think you’re in the right position to judge someone else that can’t afford a $600 flight, just sayin’. 

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mrsstewietobe:  Is there something smaller you might be able to help out with? Like maybe her dress and alterations or something? That way it lessens the burden but doesn’t make her feel like she’s your charity case? I would ask her honestly if it’s a financial thing or if it’s something else. 

Realistically, $600 over 6 months seems do-able, that’s only $100 a month to put towards savings – but like I said above, everyone’s finances are different and you can’t really get mad at someone if they can’t financially spare over half a grand to fly to your wedding.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I could save it in that time HOWEVER I wouldnt spend that much on attending a wedding… thats like our annual family vaccation fund and id much rather spend it building memories with my kids

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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beebeelove:  rich person tells poor people to stop being so poor…

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

So has she said she’s not coming? It looks like your wedding is in October so she still has plenty of time to book a flight to Florida. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

3 years ago it woul dhave taken me a year to save 600. Now it’d take 7 days. Just be open to everynoe’s different financial sitations, but don’t be blind as to excuses to bow out.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

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btob17:  EEEEEEEEEExactly.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

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mrsstewietobe:  If you found a flight for $200something just buy it for her. Tell her it’s your gift to her for being a kick ass friend your whole life and your Maid/Matron of Honor. 

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