Post # 1
I’m asking this because I’m trying to figure out our honeymoon at the moment and the big question is WHEN we will go.
Fiance and I are getting married at the beginning of April 2016 in Puerto Rico. We’re planning on taking a week off of work then in order to stay a bit longer in PR and relax after the wedding. Due to both of our work schedules, we’re simply not able to take off a lot of time right after we’ve already taken off for the actual wedding. We need to space things out. So the spring of 2016 is out.
Now this is the problem: my ideal honeymoon destination is Thailand. Well, the summer is not really a good time weather-wise to go to Thailand. The ideal season is more between November and April from what I’ve heard. But is it ridiculous to wait all the way until November to go on our honeymoon when we will have been married already for over 6 months? Ideally I’d want to wait until 2017 (new fiscal year at work) but I think waiting that long is just utterly ridiculous. Also, we will probably start TTC soon after the wedding and if we wait too long to have a honeymoon, a pregnancy or baby might get in the way and it might never happen.
So what do you Bees think? Is it silly to wait until November for our honeymoon? Should we just pick a more summer-friendly destination? What’s the longest you’ve heard of waiting in between the wedding and the honeymoon?
Post # 2
Forever if necessary. My husband couldn’t take anymore time off. I took a local trip with my sister instead. We might do something special around the time he proposed but aren’t planning any large trips. I guess there’s a point where it’s a vacation and not a honeymoon anymore. But in your case I would definitely wait until the weather improves season-wise. And have fun, Thailand will be awesome! You will never have another chance if you get pregnant though, so plan the vacation first.
Post # 3
We waited 6 weeks, but I see nothing wrong with waiting as long as it takes! Our friends got married last August and went on their honeymoon this May, so they waited about 9 months. They had a wonderful time and I don’t think it felt any less special or honeymoon-like!
Post # 4
IMO, unless it immediately follows the wedding it’s just a vacation. But do what works for your schedule! No reason not to have a fancy vacation.
Post # 5
We’re going to be waiting almost 10 months (assuming plans stay the same). Fiancé can’t get time off until the Christmas holidays!
Post # 6
You go when it works for you. Good friends of ours got married in Decmeber 2014- they took a trip to CA for a few days after the wedding, but just took their honeymoon 2 weeks ago- so they waited 8 months. DH and I had a destination wedding- we did what you are talking about- we stayed after the wedding to have some downtime, but we are doing a Caribbean Cruise in November as our “2nd honeymoon”
You do what works for you, there is no set time.
Post # 7
We waited 6 months and it didn’t feel much like a “honeymoon”, though it was still great. In your case I would consider the extra time in puerto Rico a “mini moon” that will serve to still get the honeymoony feeling while looking forward to a delayed full honeymoon.
If i could do it over I would have had a mini-moon right after wedding to rest & relax and then still had our big honeymoon later. So I think you have a perfect plan, its the best of both worlds.
Post # 8
How long are you staying in Puerto Rico after the wedding to relax? Can’t that be your honeymoon? You could take an anniversary trip to Thailand.
Post # 9
I agree with MissKayaker, although you can call it whatever you wish. I would find a nice honeymoon destination in Puerto Rico that is away from everything you did for the wedding. Or, if you want, you could take a cruise leaving out of Puerto Rico that week. Then, it makes sense to wait for your follow-up big trip, which you can call whatever you like.
Post # 10
We waited 4 months to go on ours, as we wanted to go someplace warm when it was cold where we live. February was great for that. I enjoyed having something else wedding-related to look forward to. Plus, everything else was already done – our last Thank You was sent out a month before we went.
I know a friend who waited almost 2 years before they went on their honeymoon. Another firend went on a mini-moon to Vegas for a few years a week after they got married, and went to Mexico 7 months later.
If you can wait, I’d wait… and go when it is easier for you.
Post # 11
I actually think this is a great suggestions.
Either way, it’s a vacation. Whether you label it your honeymoon or not, so take it whenever works best for you!
We’re leaving for our honeymoon 5 days after the wedding because we wanted it to “feel” like our honeymoon and we know we’ll need the vacation after all this wedding planning! We didn’t want to jump right back to ‘normal life’ after the high of getting married. Also, our good friends had their honeymoon planned out for 9 months after their wedding (they got married in October but had to wait until the summer to go on their honeymoon because the bride is a teacher). Welp, they conceived their baby on their wedding night! He was born literally right at the time they would’ve been on their honeymoon. Of course they don’t regret their son but they always say how sad they are they never got to have a honeymoon.
Post # 12
Whenever works for you. We were originally waiting a week, but my period decided to be a jerk and shift juuuust enough to ruin all beachy plans so we are pushing it back an additional week or so.
Post # 13
I like the Puerto Rico time being called a “mini moon” idea! As far as that being our actual honeymoon…we’ll only be there for about 4 days after the wedding (with most of the 4th day taken up with plane travel) so we really do want a legit honeymoon of at least a full week. I’d totally be down with taking a 1-year anniversary trip to Thailand but, like I said, we’re going to try to get pregnant very soon so I wouldn’t want to wait a whole year for something like that only to have to cancel because of a baby.
Thanks for the encouragement everyone! I no longer feel so weird about waiting until November. Even if it doesn’t feel especially honeymoon-y, it’ll still be an awesome trip!
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2016 - Winery
We’re also waiting until November! Nothing wrong with waiting imho. You’ll find some tropical spots much nicer later in the year anyways. We’re taking a small Napa minimoon the weekend after the wedding but that’s it until November.
Post # 15
You can wait as long as you want! Had a friend that waited 6 months and she said it made it feel like the wedding was extended because she went from wedding planning to honeymoon. If you decide on Thailand I’d definitely wait until at least November. We are going the first two weeks of November for our honeymoon and you get much much better weather but it’s just the beginning of the high season so it’s not quite so busy or expensive yet.