(Closed) How long would you want to be married before having a baby?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 32
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Sugar bee

I always had this idea that 30 is a good age to start a family which will be about 3 years after getting married for me. However, we are just starting to enjoy having careers and income and the ability to travel and enduldge as well as saving up toward home ownership (eventually when we decide to stay in one city for a while). DH’s career recently got a boost and if he does well, he may get a foreign assignment just around the time we planned to start TTC so I think we’re waiting to see where we end up now. I know there will never be a perfect time but I think 2-3 years of being married will prob. be our majic number for TTC and then it will be out of our hands. I NEVER thought I would put career before family and always thought I would be a Stay-At-Home Mom and now I am thinking of the possibilities of hiring my mother  to nanny (not that I have discussed this with either of them) so I’m also thinking of when she would retire and if it would be possible to live near enough. The idea of balancing 2 careers and a potential family is just so complicated to think about.

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

no kids for us πŸ™‚

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

we got pregnant about 2 months after the wedding. neither of us wanted to wait. we’ll both me 30 when the baby is born. we both really wanted children and didn’t want to wait. if i had gotten married when i was say 23-24 im sure i would have waiting for a few years, you know to ‘enjoy’ married life.

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@flamingred:  LMAO  I wish I could “Like” your comment.  That was hilarious.

 

We didn’t have a specific plan when we got married just “at least a few years”.  We hit our two year mark last month and are thinking maybe TTC next August.  So I guess we’ll actually be right on target if things keep going the way they have been.  πŸ™‚

 

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

For us, we’ll start trying TTC sometime after our second anniversary. We want to have a house first, and we aren’t going to start looking until next spring. 

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I really hope we can wait for about 5 years. I feel like that would be the perfect time. But who really gets to pick and choose how their life turns out?

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

By the time we get married, we’ll have been together for over seven years and living together for five years. So we wish we could start trying right after, but we will most likely be waiting until we’re more settled financially. The plan right now is to start trying by the end of 2013, so a year and a half after the wedding.

 

I think with most people, waiting or not has more to do with other life things, not with how long it’s been since getting married.

Post # 39
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I might end up being my parents and waiting nearly 10 years.  I’m nowhere near ready for a baby right now and we are 24.  Maybe I will wait until my 30s.

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My Fiance and I have been together 3 years and we have been living together since 2 weeks into our relationship. We have done long distance, lived together by ourselves, lived together with roommates, and lived together with family. We have a dog together haha and his money gets direct deposited into my bank account. Needless to say we are practically already married. I did read that generally those who get pregnant within 2 years of their marriage has a higher chance of divorce. My Fiance and I wanted to wait til our mid to late 20s to TTC, but it seems like EVERYONE from my graduating class and everyone I know has already gotten pregnant and had children. This puts a little pressure on me. 

We are getting married when I am 24 and hes 26. We decided we want have a kid by the time I’m 26 (so TTC when 25) or when I’m 27 (TTC when 26). Ultimately though, it all depends on how we are financially and where we are at in our lives. I would not want to have a child if we are living paycheck to paycheck and having a hard time getting by.

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Bostongrl25: my Darling Husband and I are 28/34 and waiting about a year πŸ™‚ 

Post # 42
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We are planning on waiting one more year. We’ve been married for one year already.

Post # 44
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Busy Beekeeper

ASAP. My eggs are drying up πŸ˜‰

Post # 45
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Prior to be being married my husband and I lived together for 7 years, owned a home together for 3 years and combined finances completely for 3. So honestly, the growing pains of “marriage” life did not apply to us. But we were planning on waiting 2-3 years. Most of it having to do with me wanting to be a little further in my career. My husband in a new job. etc

But, life has a way of changing plans for you. We decided to move up our TTC plans. After 9 cycles we are now expecting our first. We couldn’t be happier.

And oh, I’m 29 and my husband 33. I’d always wanted my first child before 30 but with our previous plans that plan was out the window. Funny enough though, I’m expecting our first child right before my 30th birthday. Ain’t life crazy?

Post # 46
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We’re 28 and 29 and will probably start TTC after a year or so.

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