(Closed) How long would you want to be married before having a baby?

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 62
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m 24 and DH is 26, and we said we wanted to wait 2-4 years after the wedding… 

These numbers are sort or arbitrary, really… It basically started when someone asked me while engaged “So, when are you planning to have kids?” and I said “Oh, it will be at least 3-5 years”

This was about a year before the wedding, and DH and I talked about it and those numbers just sort of made sense, so we stuck with them. 

 

Post # 63
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

haha we had a kid together 5 years before getting married, but we have a tendency of doing things a$$ backwards.

Post # 64
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We thought we would wait a year too but then here we are less than 4 months since the wedding and I’m pregnant already!! Needless to say things dont always follow the plan

Post # 65
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

We’ll probably wait 2-3 years to start trying. We both want kids, but we there are still things we want to together before kids. So, we’re planning those things out now for the next two years. We also have to figure out a way for me to be able to stay at home for the first five years, so we’ll have to move to a new city (no way we could stay in DC!). Also, it’s really important to me that we own a home before having a kid. So, with all that in mind, it seems like we’ll have to wait forever, but we’re pretty good planners and savers. I just want a kid before I’m 30, and I just turned 25, so there’s so still time.

We did have the talk, though, that if we happened to get pregnant, we’re at a place where we would be thrilled. …I’d just quit my job and go back to nannying for a while.

Post # 66
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

we’re planning on a year, and possibly longer since that is right around the time that FI’s job situation might get really sketchy.

Post # 67
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I will be 24 and Fiance will be 26 when we get married. Fiance wants a child by 30, so 4 years or less.

Post # 68
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i’ve been married almost 8 months and i think we will start trying next summer 🙂

oh – im 25 he is 26

Post # 69
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We’ve been married 4 months and we’re trying 🙂

Post # 70
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Ideally we would have started TTC when we’d been married about 1.5 years. Thanks to career shift for me, the timeline was pushed further out. When we start trying, we’ll have been married almost 2.5 years.

Post # 71
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

If all goes as planned, 2 years tops. My in laws are practically drooling when they think about me giving them a grandchild but I have a feeling my sister in law whose about to get engaged is probably gonna beat me to the punch. More power to her! I am waiting because of grad school though. Otherwise, Id do it right away. Cannot wait to have kids. I know its a ton of work and responsibility etc etc etc…but I still cant wait!!!! lol

Post # 72
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

About 3-4 years. We want to experience everything, travel and be more well off to bring a baby in. If we wait until we’re 30, there won’t be a struggle to make ends meet and we’ll be set in our careers.

Also, something VERY important to me is to have kids when all of my friends are. I’m getting married a bit before my friends and it’s hard because they don’t understand.

Post # 73
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

we are going to wait about a year. so start TTC next summer. DH has one more year of school left and i really want him to be done before we bring a baby into the mix.

Post # 74
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We’ll be 26 and 27 when we get married in April, and it is very important to us to enjoy being a married couple for at least a year or two before TTC. Our friends get defensive when I say this (because most of them tried to have babies before they were married or right after), but it’s not meant to offend. I’m just saying that for me, living together and being a couple will be different than living together and being married. There are still places I want to go, things I want to see, and let’s face it… momma still loves late nights and drinking with her ladies!

That said… we are lucky that we already bought our starter house (more than a year ago! wow!) and have been able to make it a wonderful home thus far. We definitely live in a great place to start our family. (We also really want me to be able to be a Stay-At-Home Mom, so that will be another factor in determining when we really start TTC.)

Post # 75
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

two years!!! atleast…

 

I loveee children!! but I want to spend some good quality time with my hubby before we start our littlee family.. <3

 

 

Post # 76
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

We always say 2 years AT LEAST too!  On our wedding day, fiance will be 26 and I’ll be 28.  We both want to enjoy being married for awhile first. 

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