(Closed) How long would you want to be married before having a baby?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 107
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

My husband and I are newlyweds, we’ll have been together a year this month. We want to wait at least 5-10 years before having children, as we’re both 26 and we’ve got a lot of life to live before we invite children into this world.

Post # 108
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

my goal is about 4 years.

this came from my mom and dad’s marriage. they were married for 4 years before they attempted children, which seems like a really nice time to just enjoy being married.

however, SO and I have been living together for about 2 years (as far as I know my parents didn’t live together before marriage), so that timeline might be adjusted if we feel we are ready for children before then.

 

I am currently 22 and SO is 25. When we get married we will be 23 and 26, so the “goal timeline” is about perfect for me, because I want to be done having kids by the time I am 30, but I want to leave a little time to TTC for each of our 2 “future children”.

Post # 109
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

we are both about 27 now, but have been dating for 10 years, so I’m ready!  a lot of my friends have kids already, BUT realistically we aren’t at the right place in our careers or finances for have kids.  We just bought a house, and need a car, and gosh is this wedding stuff expensive.  We tend to wait longer than most on this though 😉

Post # 110
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If we didn’t have any debt, a year would be perfect.  But we’re waiting a couple of years so we can get our debt paid down before we have a baby.  FI wanted to start TTC months ago, but that’s silly IMO.  We’re not married, we haven’t even graduated, and we’re looking at $80,000 in debt between the two of us.  It’s just not practical, and I’m not ready for kids yet.  I want to work for a little while.

Post # 111
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m thinking 2-3 years.

Even though we are not young (he’s 30, I’m soon to be 28), we have only been dating for 18 months and most of our relationship has been long distance. Due to immigration, we can’t truly share our lives until after marriage, so I really want to have some time where I get him alllll to myself and we can do all the fun, couple-ly things we’ve had to miss out on so far.

ETA: Plus, we both need to get our careers on track and save money first.

Post # 112
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: March 2011

It depends, about 2 to 5 years.

Post # 113
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: County courthouse

We had wanted to wait atleast 5yrs…but that yr only after 5 months of marriage, i got pregnant on my birthday. it was quite a shock. now we have two babies…a 3yr old and a 15 month old and we couldn’t picture our lives without them.

Post # 114
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m having a hard time wanting to wait until then :/ lol 

Post # 115
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Mrs.LemonDrop:  Uh, what is NTNP, KU and LO? I swear, sometimes I think I’m the only one who doesn’t use acronyms.

Post # 116
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@jennyinstereo:  Um… NTNP is not trying not preventing, like not using birth control, but also not charting and intentionally getting pregnant.  KU is knocked up, and LO is little one.  Sometimes I just guess when I don’t know… makes for funny sentences!

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