(Closed) How long would/did you wait to get engaged?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How long would/did you wait to get engaged after you started dating?
    >1 - 2 years : (32 votes)
    28 %
    >2 - 4 years : (39 votes)
    34 %
    >4 - 5 years : (20 votes)
    17 %
    >5 years : (24 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
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    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We got engaged after being together for just over 3 years. I am 23 and he is 25. I think it was the perfect amount of time.

    Post # 4
    Member
    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I was 19 (FI 20) when we started dating.

    We moved in together when I was 23 and and agreement was (unofficially) that we’d get engaged after living together 1year.

    Well, we’d been living together 3 1/2 years by the time we got engaged. So I guess I “waited” 2 1/2 years.

    Although his other “stipulation” was that I be 25. I turned 25 a little over a year before we got engaged.

    We had been dating 6 1/2 years by the time we got engaged I am 26, he is 27.

     

    ETA: I am a moron…. I answered the post “2-4” years…. because I was answering how long I was ready to be engaged and “waiting” on  him. Rather than “>5” becuase we dated for 6 1/2 years.

    Post # 5
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    606 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We got engaged after dating for just over 5 years.  A lot of things came into play, aside from our age, including schooling, money, and careers.  Even though I was the one basically BEGGING for it, I still think its a bit early, as we both are unemployed (he’s a student, I’m an unemployed recent graduate).  It would have been nice to have some security before taking this step, but hopefully I will at least be employed by the time the wedding comes around!

    Post # 7
    Member
    641 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We got engaged at about the 5 1/2 year mark of dating.  I am 25 and he is 24.  But, I would consider myself to have “waited” for a little over a year.  He started talking engagement to my BFF and Sisters around that time and of course I knew this.  It was worth the wait because I feel like we are at the perfect spot in our lives for this!

    Post # 8
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    786 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We have been together for about 5.5 yrs when he propsed. I am 25 and Fiance is 28. We have lived together for 5 years and I new eventually we would get married. I honestly didn’t start really thinking about marriage until about a year ago. I also wanted to wait for him to be ready. It was a perfect amount of time for us. Its hard to put a timeline on it, it really depends when both are ready.

    Post # 10
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    75 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    A little over 4 years together.  We were both 24 when we started dating.  I would have been fine with it happening a year or 1.5 years sooner.  Now that its done, I think now was the best time… go figure.

    Post # 11
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    606 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @mc77:  Yeah, it’s hard when there is graduate school involved.  I graduate from law school and he’s in med school.  So it’s tough financially, but we also are getting married before he graduates, because his life is just going to be so crazy and unpredictable AFTER he graduates, that didn’t make much sense either.  I’m totally comfortable with how old we are/will be by the time we marry, just because we went on for further schooling, it throws your ‘typical’ timeline off a bit.

    Post # 12
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    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @mc77: Naw… you were clear because you did say “after you started dating”

    I just saw “waiting” and BOOM voted. Because I love me a poll!

    Post # 13
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    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    We were 25 when we started dating (almost 26) and got engaged after 1.5 years. We are 29 and have been married for almost 5 months now ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 14
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    1664 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We started dating in early Winter 2006, moved in together in Spring of 2008, and got engaged in Spring of 2010 . . . so roughly 4 or 4.5 years?

    I think it is different for everyone.  We graduated law school in 2008 and wanted to get settled before planning a wedding. 

    If we were in our thirties and had established careers, 4 years would be too long for me personally.  On the other hand, if we were in high school, 4 years wouldn’t be long enough ๐Ÿ™‚

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