(Closed) How long you waited (and how old you are)

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Pick from the poll TWO options: your age when you will/were married and the length of wait for it
    < 20 years old at wedding : (6 votes)
    2 %
    21-23 old at wedding : (49 votes)
    15 %
    24-25 old at wedding : (46 votes)
    14 %
    26-27 old at wedding : (45 votes)
    14 %
    28-29 old at wedding : (34 votes)
    10 %
    30-34 old at wedding : (35 votes)
    11 %
    >35 old at wedding : (23 votes)
    7 %
    < 1 year waited to be engaged : (52 votes)
    16 %
    1 year waited to be engaged : (34 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 17
    Member
    115 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    I married my high school sweetheart after 4 years, and I was 19.  We divorced after 4.  I married my current Darling Husband after we dated for 3 years, and I was 25.  We just celebrated our 8 year anniversary. Yes, I got lucky and started seeing Darling Husband 6 months after the divorce.  You snooze you lose!

    Post # 18
    Member
    930 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    24 & 24 when we met.  We are getting married ast 27 & 28.  We knew a long time ago we wanted to get married, but due to circumstances (grad school in different states and wanting a short engagement) we didn’t get engaged until dating for almost 3 years.  

     

    We want a family someday, but not anytime in the near future.  

     

    Post # 19
    Member
    569 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @victoria86:  

    I’m of the opinion that getting married is a separate issue from starting a family. Some people require one before the other but in this day and age, it’s a matter of personal choice.

    I’ll be 30 when we get married, and Fiance will be 32. We’ve been together for 12 years and have been engaged for 3. I never waited. He blindsided me with the proposal. If anything, he’s been the one who waited because I didn’t want to get married until I saw an end in sight to grad school and we could actually live in the same country.

    Post # 20
    Member
    6256 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Age makes a huge amount of difference.

    I am going to be 31 when we get married, and we were together 7 months when he proposed.

    But a few things played into that:

    -We were long-distance, but I didn’t want us to live together until we were engaged (or at least very close to being there)

    -We both had steady,decent-paying jobs

    -We both knew we wanted something serious going in, and that we were too old to be playing around any more.

    -We knew one another going in, and knew already that we really wanted to be together.

    If he had asked me after 7 months at age 21, there’s no way I would have said yes.

     

    Post # 21
    Member
    281 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’ll be 24 once our wedding rolls around, waited 4 years until we got engaged and another two years for the engagement length, so it will be 6 years together by the big day.

    Post # 22
    Member
    144 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Ill turn 24 three weeks after my wedding. We started dating when i was 17 and he was 16… We had talked about getting married when we were in high school. On Senior Payback Day (last day of school for seniors we are sent in groups out to the community to clean up parks, plant trees… I was assigned to wash fire trucks! then afterward a huge picnic for our class) he took me back to this little bridge in the woods at the park and kind of proposed… Got down on one knee and asked me to marry him after he graduated college. That would’ve been just a couple months before our 2 year anniversary. 

     

    He proposed this Christmas for real with a ring, etc, just a few months after our 5 year anniversary. 

     

    By the time the wedding comes around it will be 6 1/2 years.

     

     

    Post # 23
    Member
    405 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    26 years old when married and waited for 3 years

    Post # 24
    Member
    210 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We started dating 2006 on my 26th birthday. We got engaged july 4, 2010 I was 29. Turned 30 that Nov and married May 2011. Hubs is 4 years older than I. 

    Post # 25
    Member
    9129 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I was with my guy for 12 years before we got engaged! We got together just after high school after being close friends and were very independent in our 20s despite being madly in love. We always thought getting married was for old lame people, haha. But I’d say I was only “waiting” for ~1 year since we were on the same page for the most part. Got together at 17 (me) and 19 (him), engaged at 29 and 31.

    ETA: the idea that not being engaged = “waiting” bugs me! Not all of us are spending our lives waiting to be married! I always wanted to get married around age 30, and the fact that I found the man of my dreams at age 17 didn’t affect that. 

    Post # 27
    Member
    519 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We were together for almost 7 years before he proposed. It was almost 8 years by the time we got married. We waited so long because we started dating in 9th grade and wanted to at least finish our undergrad before getting married. 

    Post # 28
    Member
    2831 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’ll be 27 (just shy of 28) when i get married and I waited 6 years to be engaged. We will have been together for 7 years when we get married.

    Post # 29
    Member
    749 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Waited 6 years ill b 24 when were married in juuune :)))

    Post # 30
    Member
    402 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Assuming that my SO will definitely propose this year(as he said he will) I will have been waiting only about 18 months(ish!) for getting engaged and will be married either just before or just after my 23rd birthday. I have a 3 year old son already so I’m not sure how soon after we get married we will start having children. My body doesn’t handle hormonal contraception well and I don’t want to wait too long seeing as I’ve already had a child. I also definitely want things to be stable for a second child entering the scene. Rather than space out having children, I would rather enjoy parenting in a close period of time so that by the time I am 50 I will have all adults as children and enjoy the next stage of life – of course this is just my current ideals and thinking as long as money and fertility work out for that to happen 🙂

    Post # 31
    Member
    129 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Haha there isn’t even an option for how long I waited! Last week was our 12 year anniversary! He proposed on our 10 year and we will be getting married in August, when I am 31. Hows THAT for patience?!?! Lol

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