(Closed) How long you waited (and how old you are)

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Pick from the poll TWO options: your age when you will/were married and the length of wait for it
    < 20 years old at wedding : (6 votes)
    2 %
    21-23 old at wedding : (49 votes)
    15 %
    24-25 old at wedding : (46 votes)
    14 %
    26-27 old at wedding : (45 votes)
    14 %
    28-29 old at wedding : (34 votes)
    10 %
    30-34 old at wedding : (35 votes)
    11 %
    >35 old at wedding : (23 votes)
    7 %
    < 1 year waited to be engaged : (52 votes)
    16 %
    1 year waited to be engaged : (34 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 47
    Member
    699 posts
    Busy bee

    @victoria86:  we’ve been together since 2009, hoping to be married by 37. i pray lol

    Post # 48
    Member
    722 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Fiance proposed after 2 1/2 years together. When we get married, I’ll be 23 and he’ll be 27 (turning 28 16days later)

    Post # 49
    Member
    4958 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I’ll be 21 at my wedding. FH and I were talking marriage seriously for about a year and a half before it happened, but my actual “waiting” period was really short… I started getting antsy about 2-3 months before he proposed since we had talked about how I wanted a 18 month – 2 year engagement.

    Post # 50
    Member
    162 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    I’ve been with my Boyfriend or Best Friend for a year. He knows I want a year long engagement, and he recently made a comment about proposing on our two year anniversary. However, I’m thinking he will propose on our three year anniversary, which will make me 21 and him 23 when we get married. Wow, it seems like a long time now. 

    Post # 51
    Member
    345 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I will be 28 next month. It took him 6.5 years to propose and it’ll be 7.5 before we get married. Although I was getting pretty impatient up to the engagment, he’s my person — worth the wait. 

    Post # 52
    Member
    1579 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We’re 24 now but we got married at 22. We had been dating for 5 years (since we were 17).  We wanted to go to Vegas a few times to elope but decided to wait. The baby talk started right away-there’s no escaping. 

    Post # 53
    Member
    79 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    My SO and I started dating when we were 15 and 17.  We have been together for almost 10 years now which makes us 25 and 28.  I really didn’t start actually waiting until we both graduated from college.  After that he went to the police academy and got his job at the PD.  I was just casually waiting before, not I am really getting kind of impatient….full blown waiting over here!!

    I do agree with you that age does have a significant impact when talking about how long one has waited to get engaged/married.  Some couples that got together in their teens and what not understandable take longer to get to the point when they are both ready to tie the knot. 

    I do have one thing that annoys me, a certain response that I get from some people, and would be interested to know if any others have gotten this one…

    I tell people we have been together for almost 10 years, meaning that we have been together since I was 15.  Their response is well you can’t count all of those years, thats not right.  Excuse me?  At what point do people consider I should be counting from….seriously! I don’t know why this annoys me so much, but I am getting tired of hearing it.  Anyone else??

    Post # 54
    Member
    1540 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    @EveryDayofForever:  That’s weird. I don’t even know what the comment means? Do you get that from a lot of people? I know a girl who’s been with her SO since she was 15. My response is just “Wow! that’s awesome”

    Post # 55
    Member
    295 posts
    Helper bee

    I wonder when you are “waiting”? Is it after 2 months of dating? a year? I met my SO a bit “later in life”, both 40+. After a few weeks he said that he should start “saving for a ring”. The 2nd anniversary is showing up soon so expectations are high. Am I a waiting bee?

    Post # 56
    Member
    26 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    33 next week. Dating seven years, waiting for 3/4 years and on the verge of walking.

    Post # 57
    Member
    79 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    @memo:  I only get that response from a few women I work with, who are all married and have children.  I think its great that we have been together for so long and have had so many experiences together. My friends that are a bit closer to my age share your opinion as well.

    Having someone tell me that I should not count all the years we are together upsets me.  I didn’t love him any differently when I was 15, 16, 17 than I did when I was 18, 19, or 20!  I’ve said to one person in particular that I would always tell people we have been together for 10 years so I wasn’t really open to discuss the topic anymore. The response I got was equally as upsetting,  “well when you finally get married some day you have to start back at 1 anyway”  Really? Sometimes I really have to think maybe sometimes its jealously on their part or something!

    Post # 58
    Member
    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’ll be 24 when we get married but I was never waiting. We dated for a year and got engaged on our one year anniversary…no countdown or timeline, just a natural progression I guess.

    Post # 59
    Member
    1540 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    @EveryDayofForever:  I reaaaaally think it’s probably a jealousy thing. Yes, your wedding anniversary technically starts at 1, but I’m sure you will have a much different relationship with your husband at your 1 year anniversary compared to someone who gets married after 9 months. big difference.

    I’m having a bit of an issue starting at 1 anyways! by the time we get married it’ll be 7 or 8 years of being together. I’ll always count those years. I don’t think they are less significant at all.

    Post # 60
    Member
    1248 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

    Darling Husband and I were friends for two years before we started dating. We were officially together 9 months when he proposed at 24 (both) and we were married the following year at 25. We both knew going into it we wanted to have kids ASAP and on our one year wedding anniversary got our BFP 🙂 

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