- 4 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
So my brother is a single father of two kids. When he was deployed his wife constantly cheated and abandoned their kids having them placed in foster care twice. She was a horror giving the little kids (2&5) alcohol, they had bed sores and were left alone for days given only a can of corn to eat.
When he got back he kicked her to the curb and got the kids out of foster care and has been raising them for two years.
He just got a raise and was really excited being a single dad. Well in january his ex wifes sister asked to stay the weekend at his house because she was living with her mom and they weren’t getting along. She is four months pregnant and brought her ten year old daughter and her boyfriend and they haven’t left. Its been four months and neither of them have found a job. They moved three kids into one room, my brother sleeps on the couch and the girl and her boyfriend share a room. We went there last weekend and the girl and her boyfriend stayed locked in their bedroom, even locking their own child out the entire time leaving my brother to babysit. He says the girl cleans but the place smells of dog urine, the bathrooms are like small gas station bathrooms covered in clothes and everything has a thick layer of dust.
They don’t contribute whatsoever and he is struggling to get by taking care of his two kids, the two adults and their kid.
My brother is such a good guy and nothing is convincing him to kick them out but you can tell he doesn’t want them there. The landlord threatened to evict them if he didn’t kick them out and my brother was willing to accept it saying “I will not put a pregnant woman or child on the streets” so he agreed to pay his landlord extra each month to allow them to stay there.
I hate seeing people take advantage of him like this and he and his kids suffer. I tried telling him bluntly they are moochers and need to go but he is convinced it is his responsibIlity to take care of them since she is pregnant and has a child
Now he brings his two kids and the ten year old over when he visits and I feel for the girl but I’m nearly eight months pregnant with a kid of my own and this new girl seems to try and get in between myself and my child from the get go as if she could take my child’s place or something. I hug my kid and say “I love you” and the girl chimes in “you don’t love me too?” Things like that and I have only seen the child three times before, only meeting her in March.
I don’t know what to do. I know its not my business but seeing my brother and his kids used like this really angers me. I wanted to confront the woman but knowing her sister and going by the way she carries herself you can tell she’s one to turn it into a physical fight and while I’m not afraid of her I’m pregnant and wouldn’t take that risk.
I’m here to vent and ask for any words of wisdom or advice. Its breaking my heart to see my brother in this situation but I don’t know how to help him.
Maybe this is a “you can’t help someone if they won’t help themselves” situation but there has to be something I can do to help him?
And how can this woman and her boyfriend be perfectly content mooching off a single father and taking from his kids? They sat in the bedroom for four hours when we were there, door closed laughing and having a blast while my brother watched their kid. They don’t babysit his kids and their kid is now going to his babysitter (guess who pays?) While they sit and do nothing all day every day. What kind of a person can live with themselves being like this? Ugh it gets me angry!