(Closed) How low do you have to be to…

posted 7 years ago in Wellness
Post # 4
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963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Some people have to hit rock bottom before they get help.  Sometimes, we need to let them.  I don’t know your situation, but I hope that person gets help soon.

Post # 5
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5655 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

You have to be incredibly broken. And unfortunately some people’s rock bottom is much farther down than others.

That’s a terrible situation and all involved need some seroius heart help =(

Post # 6
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1626 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@BackyardLoveBird:I agree. People have to hit rock bottom because unfortunately you can’t help them, they have to want to help themselves. Rock bottom for some is a really low place but they have to hit it to see what they have lost.

Post # 8
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963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@SweetRose2011: You should offer your help, but if she doesn’t want to take it, then you need to let her make her own mistakes.  I don’t think you can force her to do anything she doesn’t want to do.  If you give her money and she takes it and then bails her boyfriend out…well then you are enabling her behavior.  Don’t do it. 

Post # 10
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963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@SweetRose2011: It sucks that you are in this position, and I really do feel for you.  I know you care about her…but does she care about herself?  It doesn’t seem like it.  You can only do so much.  You are not responsible for her life or her messes.  Don’t beat yourself up.

Post # 11
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541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It sucks to see someone you care about go down a path like that. I have a friend who makes what I find to be ridiculous life decisions similar to yours, and I’ve always chalked it up to low self esteem.

Post # 13
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963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@SweetRose2011: I know.  I feel for you.  Do what you can to reach out to her.  I just want you to know that whatever happens, it’s not your fault.  She is making choices that she has to live with.  You can only help her so much.

Post # 15
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1626 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@SweetRose2011:Sweety I’m sorry. I have been trying to save someone in the same situation and all she does is go right back to it over and over again. They have to want to be better for themselves. Unless you lock her in a basement (or attic or closet) she will go back to it unless she wants to change. Its a terrible situation to watch someone go through, I know I’ve been where you are, but sometimes you can’t change them. It sucks royally though.

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