- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2010
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Some people have to hit rock bottom before they get help. Sometimes, we need to let them. I don’t know your situation, but I hope that person gets help soon.
You have to be incredibly broken. And unfortunately some people’s rock bottom is much farther down than others.
That’s a terrible situation and all involved need some seroius heart help =(
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@SweetRose2011: You should offer your help, but if she doesn’t want to take it, then you need to let her make her own mistakes. I don’t think you can force her to do anything she doesn’t want to do. If you give her money and she takes it and then bails her boyfriend out…well then you are enabling her behavior. Don’t do it.
@BackyardLoveBird:There is no way I’m giving her money at this point–I would just be asking for it. I know there is nothing I can do to help her because if I could, I would’ve done it asap. We aren’t talking and haven’t for a long long time (a year maybe) because she’s been pushing me away. I know even me going over to her house wouldn’t solve it. Telling her parents wouldn’t help. Nothing will work until she gets caught.
@SweetRose2011: It sucks that you are in this position, and I really do feel for you. I know you care about her…but does she care about herself? It doesn’t seem like it. You can only do so much. You are not responsible for her life or her messes. Don’t beat yourself up.
It sucks to see someone you care about go down a path like that. I have a friend who makes what I find to be ridiculous life decisions similar to yours, and I’ve always chalked it up to low self esteem.
@SweetRose2011:Sweety I’m sorry. I have been trying to save someone in the same situation and all she does is go right back to it over and over again. They have to want to be better for themselves. Unless you lock her in a basement (or attic or closet) she will go back to it unless she wants to change. Its a terrible situation to watch someone go through, I know I’ve been where you are, but sometimes you can’t change them. It sucks royally though.
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