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Sugar bee
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Bumble bee
- MissHoneyBun
- 9 years ago
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Busy bee
- BackyardLoveBird
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
Some people have to hit rock bottom before they get help. Sometimes, we need to let them. I don’t know your situation, but I hope that person gets help soon.
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Bee Keeper
- runsyellowlites
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
You have to be incredibly broken. And unfortunately some people’s rock bottom is much farther down than others.
That’s a terrible situation and all involved need some seroius heart help =(
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
- Corilee13
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
@BackyardLoveBird:I agree. People have to hit rock bottom because unfortunately you can’t help them, they have to want to help themselves. Rock bottom for some is a really low place but they have to hit it to see what they have lost.
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
- SweetRose2011
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: March 2010
@Corilee13: even if that includes having this baby, having no money in the world to scrape together for a single amount of food? We were like sisters, and now this? I feel like driving over there and kidnapping her. I’m so broken.
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Sugar bee
Post # 8
Member963 posts
Busy bee
- BackyardLoveBird
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
@SweetRose2011: You should offer your help, but if she doesn’t want to take it, then you need to let her make her own mistakes. I don’t think you can force her to do anything she doesn’t want to do. If you give her money and she takes it and then bails her boyfriend out…well then you are enabling her behavior. Don’t do it.
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
- SweetRose2011
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: March 2010
@BackyardLoveBird:There is no way I’m giving her money at this point–I would just be asking for it. I know there is nothing I can do to help her because if I could, I would’ve done it asap. We aren’t talking and haven’t for a long long time (a year maybe) because she’s been pushing me away. I know even me going over to her house wouldn’t solve it. Telling her parents wouldn’t help. Nothing will work until she gets caught.
Post # 10
Member963 posts
Busy bee
- BackyardLoveBird
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
@SweetRose2011: It sucks that you are in this position, and I really do feel for you. I know you care about her…but does she care about herself? It doesn’t seem like it. You can only do so much. You are not responsible for her life or her messes. Don’t beat yourself up.
Post # 11
Member541 posts
Busy bee
- nqz100
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
It sucks to see someone you care about go down a path like that. I have a friend who makes what I find to be ridiculous life decisions similar to yours, and I’ve always chalked it up to low self esteem.
Post # 12
Member3004 posts
Sugar bee
- SweetRose2011
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: March 2010
@BackyardLoveBird: I know I’m not responsible for her. But we were so close that I, to some degree, still feel somewhat responsible. Ya know?
@nqz100:oh girl, I know she’s got that!
Post # 13
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Busy bee
- BackyardLoveBird
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
@SweetRose2011: I know. I feel for you. Do what you can to reach out to her. I just want you to know that whatever happens, it’s not your fault. She is making choices that she has to live with. You can only help her so much.
Post # 14
Member3004 posts
Sugar bee
- SweetRose2011
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: March 2010
@BackyardLoveBird:Thank you for listening. Really. It’s tough but I can manage. She’s gotta come out of this. Someone will eventually hit rock bottom, and those that can’t must have no rock bottom.
Post # 15
Member1623 posts
Bumble bee
- Corilee13
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
@SweetRose2011:Sweety I’m sorry. I have been trying to save someone in the same situation and all she does is go right back to it over and over again. They have to want to be better for themselves. Unless you lock her in a basement (or attic or closet) she will go back to it unless she wants to change. Its a terrible situation to watch someone go through, I know I’ve been where you are, but sometimes you can’t change them. It sucks royally though.
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