(Closed) how many??

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

There were responses in the other topic you just posted about this.

bridesmaids–how many???

Just FYI

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m having 1 Maid/Matron of Honor and 2 BMs.  But small is just my style. I’ve been to weddings with even 10 attendants on each side…it just comes down to the couples preference.  If you feel like it is too much maybe you could include her by having her do a ceremony reading, or something.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

Even though there’s supposed to be a correlation between number of guests and size of bridal party, I really think it’s up to you and what you’re comfortable with.  We have three BMs/GMs, one Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man and then three “bridal attendants” — basically, female usherettes — for an ~ 80 person wedding.  We just didn’t want to leave out any of our close friends!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011 - The Tribute Golf Club

I think the size of the party really depends on who is closest to you.  We’re have 1 Maid/Matron of Honor, 1 Best Man and 3 Bridesmaids/3 Groomsmen.  There were others that were close to me and my Fiance, so we have 3 girls in the house party and 3 ushers.  This way they still get to have a special part in our big day.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think it just depends on the bride and groom.  For us we decided 4 each (MOH, 3 BMs, 1 Best man and 3 GMs)  We’re having a small wedding so we thought it was appropiate.  Also our reason for a smaller wedding party is less DRAMA and LESS EXPENSIVE (gift wise)! 

I am pretty close to a lot of girls (a clique of 8), but that just seemed too many to me and to add my Boyfriend or Best Friend and my sister, that was a lot so I picked 1 girl to represent the eight.  Does that make sense…sorry just trying to help. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am only having 1- my 14 year old cousin. I couldn’t choose out of my GFs, and to be honest, I have heard so many nightmare stories of friendships ruined over being a BM/ Maid/Matron of Honor, that I just wanted one.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

What do the ‘usheretes’ do? Hand out programs and guestbook stuff?

I have a few people I’d like to use for that, but I haven’t known them long enough to make them bridesmaids.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I’ve got five girls, but I might also have two men (my brothers!). We haven’t decided if they’ll be part of the processional, though, or if they’ll just be doing readings.

8 is a lot. I was one of 8 in my step-sister’s party, and it’s a little like herding cats sometimes. 😉 But I don’t think you should let that stop you from asking everyone who is equally important to you. If you see them in your life years down the line, it’s probably safe to include them. 🙂

Post # 12
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2010

“They” say (although I’m not quite sure who “they” is) that you should have one bridesmaid for every 50 people invited.  However….I tend to think that if you want more…go for it!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I”m having 5, he’s having 7 – I personally wanted to keep it small, but he has a ton of close friends he didn’t want to exclude. I just feel like I”m too old to have a huge bridal party!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I’m having one Maid/Matron of Honor and two BMs. My fiance is having one best man, and one “groomswoman.” And all wedding party members are family. We decided to keep it that way early on because we knew that more people meant more drama (meaning, more girls to worry about getting their dresses in time, picking them out, making sure they get shoes, etc.). I have a few friends who I think were disappointed that I didn’t ask them to be in my wedding party, but when you use the excuse, “We’re having a small wedding and just decided on family” they can’t really hold it against me, and they completely understood.

Honestly, I think a small wedding party is the way to go. From my experience, I’ve heard that brides who’ve had larger wedding parties regretted it later on because it was just too much to handle, no matter how organized and reliable you think your friends are. There’s always drama.

But it’s also a very personal decision that no one can make but you 🙂

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Since my Fiance has spent all of 9 days in Canada, and only his brother is coming to the Canadian wedding, we’re keeping it very small with one Maid/Matron of Honor (my sister) and a best man (his brother).  I didn’t really think it would be pleasent for my Fiance to have all of his groomsmen selected from my friends’ husbands.  Also, when I started thinking about who I wanted in my wedding party, the numbers started to get overwhelming….so instead I’m keeping my bridal party tiny and asking all of my friends and family to play some part in the reception or ceremony.  I think my friends are relieved they don’t have to spend money on bridesmaid dresses/hair/spa time etc!^^

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