(Closed) How many attendants are you having?

posted 13 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

1) we’re having 6 ladies & 6 guys. that includes Maid/Matron of Honor & Best Man. No flower girl or ring bearer & no other ushers or attendants or jr’s.

2) i’ve seen everything from 1-12 per side. Sometimes (like when Im thinking about Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses) I feel like our party is too big, but for 150+ guests I think it is about right. plus we think its important to include our siblings & closest friends.

Post # 4
151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

Here is my wedding party:

5 attendants on each side
1 junior best man/junior Maid/Matron of Honor
2 ring bears
1 flower girl
1 ring bear wagon puller
The junior best man is my 7 year old nephew, and the junior Maid/Matron of Honor is my fiance’s sister.  They won’t be standing up during the wedding, but I wanted them to both have a big part of it.
And there will be ushers, most likely 2.

Post # 5
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

My wedding party consists of:  

5 Bridesmaids (inc MOH)

5 groomsmen (inc Best man)

2 flower girls

1 ring bear

2 ushers.  

I’ve seen weddings with 10 attendants on each side,  but I that might be over kill.  I’d say 7 at the max otherwise it looks like you have more people standing up for you than you have guests watching the ceremony.  And it takes time for all the bridemaids to walk in.

Post # 6
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

what do personal attendants do?

Post # 7
2403 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

1.) 4 total in wedding party ( 1 MOH/1 Best Man and 1 bridesmaid/ 1 groomsman )


2.) i think over 10 (on each side) is almost too large ( and just think of the costs ! ) 

Post # 8
1091 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2020 - Oakland Manor

I agree with piperbenjamin, besides it seems like everyone has already been asked/accepted so I wouldn’t worry about it too much at this point 🙂  We’re having 4 on each side, but we’re only having 80 some guests.

Post # 9
440 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

No worries. I am in the same situation.

8 attendants on each side 

1 JR attendant on each side

2 flower girls

1 Ring bear

4 ushers

2 friends speaking/doing readings in the ceremony

1 tea girl

2 young ladies handing out programs

A serious chunk of the budget is going to wedding party expenses. But we both come from really large families (only 4 people in the wedding party are non family members) and we are having a large wedding. I don’t think that I am having too many people stand up because everyone of those people are special in my life now and will be for a very very long time. I think that you should have the people important to you standing up there with you even if it is 2 people or 20 people. we do not regret asking any of these people to be in our wedding!



Post # 10
742 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We are having 7 Bridesmaids, 8 Groomsman, 6 ushers, and 2 flowergirls, 2 attendants,and 2 people doing readings!!

Post # 11
290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

We had 5 BMs and GMs, 1 junior bridesmaid (my 13 yr old daughter) to walk with our 1 ringbearer (our 14 month old son), and 3 ushers. We wanted to inclued our brothers somehow so I decided to have them as ushers so they could each walk their mothers down the aisle. I thought it would make nice photos. I originally had two readings that friends were going to do for us but one ended up dropping out and I made the other a bridesmaid when one of the BMs dropped out so I didn’t have anyone to read. I ended up cutting out one of the readings and kept the love poem that I read to my hubby during the ceremony.

Post # 12
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We are having a Maid/Matron of Honor and a Best Man and two flower girls. I’m thinking of recruiting a nephew on each side to be ushers.

Post # 13
676 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I have a Maid/Matron of Honor and four BMs, he has his brother as the Best Man…the numbers are uneven but meh.

Post # 14
126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

one maid of honor, 2 bridesmaids, one best man, 2 groomsmen, one flower girl, and one ring bearer. we’re pretty small.

Post # 15
484 posts
Helper bee

I was going to have 5 bridesmaids, prob 4 or 5 groomsmen (includes Maid/Matron of Honor and Bestmen), 2 ringbearers, 1 flowergirl. But I thought – this is getting crazy (just crazy for me, I think it’s fine for others to have bigger bridal parties), I don’t want 10+ people standing up there with me. So we are having 1 MOH-my best friend and 2 Bestmen- his brothers. This will be much easier for me to organize!

Post # 16
106 posts
Blushing bee

We have EIGHT on each side, plus two juniors! He comes from a big family (oldest of eight) and we wanted them all in the wedding. It’s quite large.

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