(Closed) How many BM’s are too many?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Honestly, I think after 6 it starts to become excessive. 12 is… well, a lot.

Post # 4
5788 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

The idea of wrangling 12 girls gives me a headache.

Post # 5
3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Question: How many BM’s are too many? 

Answer: One more than you choose for yourself.

Really, no one can answer this question except for you and your Fiance, but yes, for me 12 evokes images of 27 dresses.  I have 3.  I honestly think that more than 4 is getting to be too many….but if I had a 25 person wedding instead of 125, even 3 would be too many.  There’s a lot of logistical challenges and unexpected costs associated with a large bridal party so consider it carefully before you make your decision.

Post # 6
5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I think more than six or seven gets to be a lot.  I’m going to have six.  I really like kay01’s answer, though.

The idea of twelve girls gives me a headache.

Post # 7
6825 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Anything above and beyond 4 is to many

Post # 8
5766 posts
Bee Keeper

The old rule of thumb for a bridal party is one Bridesmaid or Best Man per every 50 guests.

Yes…I think 12 is too many, unless 600 people are invited.

Post # 9
38 posts
  • Wedding: January 2013

From my experience as a bridesmaid, I’ll answer with: You know you have too many bridesmaids when you have to have some of your bridesmaids sit because there is not enough room for them all to stand.  If your ceremony venue has room for 12 to stand, then have 12.  If you have bridesmaids that find out during the rehearsal that they spent money on a dress to sit at your wedding, scale it back a bit!


Post # 10
2584 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have 6. Everyone says it’s too many. Even I think it’s too many, lol. But they all get along wonderfully and we have been able to plan a couple things that EVERYONE could make it to. I personally could not handle more than 6 but I like kay01’s answer, everyone thinks one more than what they have is too many.

My photog did a wedding with 11 BMs and 5 GMs. It worked, but it was probably a logistical nightmare. Is there a reason you want all 12? Are you really equally close to all of them?

Post # 11
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had 8.  It would probably be considered “too many.”  And sometimes it was a lot squeezing everyone into the pictures.  I’m glad I included everyone I did, but I would definitely say it was a lot.

I think 12 is A LOT and will involve quite a bit of wrangling.

Post # 13
3624 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think 6 or more is too many. I’m having 5 – three good friends, my only sister and one of my five female cousins.

Post # 14
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think if your wedding’s that big and everything is working out logistically and — most importantly — you’re happy with it, then you’re golden.

Tell your coworkers to keep their negative opinions to themselves! 🙂

Post # 16
19 posts
  • Wedding: July 2012

I say as long as you picked them and want them to stand up there with you, then 12 is fine.  My aunt and uncle had an even larger wedding party then that and it all worked out.  People are going to nitpick anything you do that’s out of the ordinary.  As  long as your comfortable with it, dont worry about what others might think.

And I’m having 5.  I wanted a few more of my friends to stand with me, but my Fiance was running a little short lol….

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