Post # 1
how many did you have? was it necessary to have that many/few?
I am thinking of 3 (including MOH). Not sure what their duties are other than to be in pics etc. So I have my bff as Maid/Matron of Honor, Future Sister-In-Law and friend from Jr. High (have not asked her yet) to be Bridesmaid or Best Man. I have two good grad-school friends that I’m considering (one’s b/f is Best Man) but I think it’s too many people. FH thinks he wants 4, but I’m not going to pick between the two grad school friends. But I think it’s 3 or 5, but I feel like having 5 is just more money to spend and more people to have to deal w/. FH wants 5 b/c he wants to include two people that he has or will be groomsmen for…which I think is a stupid reason.
What are the duties of Bridesmaid? All 5 live far away, Maid/Matron of Honor is 1 hr away, 3 of the other girls are on the east coast (i’m in SF), and last friend is 4 hr drive away.
Post # 3
I have 4… My Maid/Matron of Honor is working her little tushy off and hasn’t been able to plan my B-party so I’ve done some of it (reserved hotel, sent out emails etc)
Their duties depend on your situtation…. If they all live far away they may not be able to help with with the little details (esp DIY) but the main ones are…
MOH – Host bacholerette and/or bridal shower, herd the other maids and make sure they have all the info they need (dress, appt times) make a speech at the wedding
Maids – buy the dress, pay or do hair and make up for themselves (if you buy it, its a treat) be on time, help plan b-party and b shower, attend rehersal and rehersal dinner
I think thats about it but I would look into it a bit more on theknot.com
Post # 4
Remember, it’s not necessary to have even sides, more and more people have uneven sides. I think you should have the people you want, regardless of what that number is. If you don’t want to decide between two friends, then don’t pick either one, or pick both. But I think the most important thing is not the numbers, but the people you want standing up there with you on a huge day, and the people you want to share that experience with. My girls and myself are in all different states (furthest is across the country), but we’ll all be in one place that day, and that’s what matters (as cheesy as that sounds!).
Post # 5
I’m having 7 people, (MOH, 5 bridesmaids and 1 bridesman), on my side and 8 people on FI’s side. I don’t think it matters that the sides are uneven. Bottom line was that we both have people we couldn’t image not having part of our wedding party. If there were only 3 then 3 it would be and if it was 10 then so be it.
Post # 6
To me, their role is to love and support you. The rest is gravy.
I’m also of the opinion that 3 is plenty, but it’s a pretty personal decision. I also wouldn’t feel the need for symmetry.
Post # 7
While I agree taht symmetry is not that important I think you should do what feels right. For some reason it was important to me to have an even number but I am sure the guests did not care on bit. I had 4. We sat down and talked about the people we absolutely had to have standing up there with us and added people fromt here to make it even.