(Closed) How many bridesmaids?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I believe the ‘rule of thumb’ is one attendant per 50 guests.

Other tips: 

Don’t choose BMs too soon.

Don’t choose people just to have even sides (fillers will feel just like fillers and it usually causes more drama than it’s worth)

I didn’t have any JBMs and I chose my 5 year old niece as our flower girl.  I also broke most of the Bridesmaid or Best Man ‘rules’ and had 8 BMs but I was lucky enough to avoid drama.  For their dresses I picked a color and told them to pick the style, length, fabric, and price they were comfortable in.  I also suggested that they wear black shoes which they already had.  I think that really helped eliminate any shenanigans since they are all shaped differently, have different tastes and different budgets.

 

Post # 4
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479 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

For me anything over 6-7 is too many for Me. At our wedding we had 1 Maid/Matron of Honor and 3 bridesmaids and 1 flower girl.

I don’t mind big wedding parties, but I would Never do one myself. It seems like way to much to deal w/

Post # 5
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890 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

HOw ever many you want! lol I have 4 this is including my matron. 1 jur bridesmaid and 1 flower girl πŸ™‚  Fi has 3 guys , he has no best man and the 1 ring bearer. πŸ™‚

 

its completely who you want!  We don’t care about it being even so if you don’t either just choose who you want by your side. 

 

If it helps our whole party consists of only family lol πŸ™‚ no friends. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m having 3 (one Maid/Matron of Honor, two BM). And we’re expecting about 150 guests… didn’t plan it that way, but I do agree that your wedding party can’t outsize your overall wedding.

A wedding party of 20 is crazy at a 60 guest wedding, for example.

Post # 8
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890 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Anoush:  You have plenty time but thinking about it now can help A LOT!! πŸ™‚ Fiance & I actually knew who we wanted to be in our party from before we were engaged. πŸ™‚  Best way to know if its right trust your gut πŸ™‚ hehehe enjoy picking though! :))

Post # 9
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353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I had 5 bridesmaids and my husband had 3 groomsmen.   My 18 month old niece was our “flowergirl” – but really we just dressed her up all cute, gave her a ribbon wand, and had her walk down the aisle with her mom.

Agreed with DaneLady, WAIT to choose your bridal party and only choose only your VERY closest friends/relatives.

 

Post # 10
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733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t care about the rule 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man to every 50 guests.

We are having about 70-75 guests and I have 5 bridesmaids. Fiance has 3 groomsmen.

Post # 12
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16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

We had six bridesmaids, six groomsmen, and a ring bearer. Worked out great for us, allowing us to include our siblings (one each) and closest friends. We also had a larger guest list, so it was pretty proportionate.

Post # 13
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890 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Anoush:  Sounds like it will workout perfectly for you! :))  Its nice to have people you really want next to your side!  No-drama zone! πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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3471 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

We each had 3 attendants, and no junior or kids.  

I think the appropriate number is the number of people who are that important to you. 

But I DEFINITELY agree with the advice to not choose your attendants too early… 

I chose mine about 18 months before my wedding and I asked my sister (MOH), my sister-in-law, and my friend (who was renting a room from my brother and SIL at the time)

By the time I got married I had my sister (still the MOH), my EX-sister-in-law, and my brother’s new girlfriend…Not exactly the best combinations… Especially since I didn’t change any of the people. The tension is visible in EVERY wedding photo that has them in it. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think the rule of 1 per 50 is silly…but there is also a point to not having a 20 person wedding party for a guest list of 60.

I am having 2 Maid/Matron of Honor and 3 Bridesmaid or Best Man…but that’s just how it is, I couldn’t imagine not having them there.  I think he is having 4.  No flower girls/ring bearers.  I am inviting 115 people or so, so I am guessing my guest list will only end up being 80ish when all is said and done.

Post # 16
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39 posts
Newbee

I’ll be the odd ball in this thread. We have 12 girls and 12 guys. This includes 3 MOHs and 9 bridesmaids. My Fiance has an equal number. This seems a lot but i am having a blast!! These people are from both families and our best friends (i.e. Some of the girls are from his family and vice versa). My parents encouraged me to have the wedding you want. So in 50 years ((fingers crossed)), u wont have any regrets! We do have about 300 ppl guest list tho. But honestly its all about you and your Fiance. Dont worry about rules.

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