Post # 1
My fiance and I are getting married at a very elegant, formal venue.
He only wanted to have one attendant each and I bargained him up to two. I would still like more though, as I feel a “formal” wedding should have a bigger party. Am I wrong?
Post # 3
A formal wedding need not imply a large bridal party. I tend to think if there are more people you want, then you have more, and let Fiance have how ever many he wants. The people who are in the bridal are supposed to mean something special to you, and that’s more important that the actual numebr.
Post # 4
I’m having 2 and Fiance is having one. We also have a page boy to kind of make up for the lopsidedness. We just went with the people in our lives that we really care about. We decided very early on that we didn’t want to pad it out for the sake of each side being even.
Post # 5
As a general rule you should have one Bridesmaid and groomsman per 50 guests.
We are inviting 260 guests to our formal wedding and I have 1 Maid/Matron of Honor and 4 BM’s
Post # 6
I think you should have as many of few people that you feel comfortable with.
I am only having two BM’s and 2 Groomsmen. (We are also including his neices and nephews as Jr. BM’s, ushers and Flower girl.) We choose these people because they are important to us, and they are who we want next to us on our wedding day.
Post # 7
I don’t think it really matters. I happen to have 2 bridesmaids because these are my closest friends. My partner will have one bestman (if any, as it’s a destination wedding).
Post # 8
I think the more you have the more it will stress you out because you’ll have to take into consideration their opinions and emotions on bridemaid dresses.
I think it would be nice to only have bridemaids that are close to you. That way you can share special moments together. 🙂
Post # 9
I am having a small wedding that consist of family and a handful of friends.(60)
We decided one attendant each, with such a small wedding I think we made the right choice.
Post # 10
I am having 1 maid of honour and 6 bridesmaids and my other half only has a best man. I chose them on the basis that they were all people i love very much..
I’ve never heard of any rules about how many bridemaids you should have for a formal or informal wedding.. I would say go with however many you want and whatever choice you make will be the right decision for you 😀
Post # 11
I have 1 Maid/Matron of Honor and 5 BMs, Fiance has 1 Best Man and 5 GMs. We wanted to have equal number on both sides.
Don’t concentrate on the number you “must” have, b/c that # doesn’t exist. Just focus on the people that you want to be a part of your special day. may it be 1, 2 or 5!
Post # 12
I was so stressed about the rules for this… I come from a large family, so I have 3 sisters to begin with- my FH has 1 sister as well, so I have 4 attendants before I get to pick any friends to be in my bridal party. I’ve been thinking about what I would do since I knew he was the one I wanted to marry (about 2 years ago) & I finally decided it’s our day, & my wedding party &I should have the people I love standing by me. It would make me sad to not have my friends standing with me on my wedding day- I don’t want them doing readings or having a different part in the wedding as other people have suggested, I want them wearing the silly dresses they probably can never wear again, although I’ll do my best to try to defeat the stereotype- So I’m being ridiculous & having the 4 friends I want because I would regret it if I didn’t. So after my novella- I have 7 Bridesmaid or Best Man & a Maid/Matron of Honor 🙂
Post # 13
@bridetobe7844: I like that ratio, I never knew there was a formula!
I think I just wanted a “grander” look to my wedding but maybe making my Fiance happy is more important. I have one friend I need to find another job for since she can’t be a bridesmaid, but she understands.