(Closed) How many bridesmaids and how do you know them?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: How many bridesmaids?
    Just 1 or 2 : (23 votes)
    7 %
    3-5 : (93 votes)
    28 %
    More than 5 : (27 votes)
    8 %
    I wish I had more : (8 votes)
    2 %
    I'm good with how many I have : (70 votes)
    21 %
    I wish I had fewer : (14 votes)
    4 %
    It was easy to choose : (77 votes)
    23 %
    It was hard to choose : (19 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    323 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    2. My sisters. I have faaaaar too many close girlfriends to have to pick between them.

    Post # 4
    8827 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Darling Husband had more than me.  he wanted even more but i told him to stop at 5.

    i had 3 girls and my brother.


    Post # 5
    8446 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @GamersBride:  I had 2 and it was super easy to pick.  Plus the two girls I picked are also close friends, which made my wedding party drama free.

    Post # 6
    4047 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I have three bridesmaids. My maid of honor has been my best friend since we were 14, but we met at age 12. One of my bridesmaids went to school with me from grades 1-12. The other bridesmaid is my FI’s sister, who I have come to love in the past couple years.

    I am happy with my choices and numbers, though I originally just wanted a maid of honor. It’s kind of fun having more.

    I’m not at all jealous though of the brides who have a dozen bridesmaids. There is no way the bride is as close to those 12 as I am to my 3. I’d rather have 1-3 really solid close friendships than 12 gals I just see once in a while.

    Post # 7
    1475 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I had 4. My Maid/Matron of Honor was my best friend since we were 4. Two bridesmaids were my husband’s sisters. The other bridesmaid is the wife of my husband’s best friend.

    Post # 8
    186 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Blue Horse Farm

    I have 4.  It was really easy for me to pick.  I have a lot of female friends but most of them are from my volleyball team, and we only all hang out as a group.  My Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister and two of my bridesmaids are childhood friends (one since 5th grade and one since 8th grade, and we are a group of 3 best friends and have been in each others’ weddings).  The other bridesmaid is my FI’s sister, who I consider to be like a sister to me as well.

    Fiance also has 4 so it worked out well, but I wouldn’t have cared if we were uneven.  I’m actually glad I don’t have more, I think it would be a hassle trying to coordinate everyone!

    Post # 9
    8695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I had 6 and I wish I had included my one other close friend. I kind of felt that I left her out. It was very easy for me to choose. As soon as they knew I was engaged they each almost automatically knew they would be by my side!

    Post # 10
    3565 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I have a few close female friends, and I had 5 bridesmaids. 

    Maid/Matron of Honor was my best friend since freshman year of high school

    Bridesmaid or Best Man2 was my best friend in college

    Bridesmaid or Best Man3 & 4 were also a good friends in college

    Bridesmaid or Best Man5 was my younger cousin that I am the closest to. 

    I had asked my childhood BFF but she does hair and already had a wedding booked the same day as mine, so she couldn’t get there early enough to participate in the stuff before the wedding or do my hair.  She made it on time to the actual wedding though, and I gave her the same Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts I gave my other girls. 

    We did 5 BMs and 5 GMs because Darling Husband couldn’t pick between his closest friends.  MOH and Best man are dating, and another Bridesmaid or Best Man & Groomsmen are married. We’re all pretty close friends.  

    Post # 11
    1220 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I have 5. MOH#1 is my sister. MOH#2 is my best friend of 25+ years. BM#1 is a friend of 25+ years. BM#2 is a friend of 25+ years. BM#3 is a friend of 15 years. 


    I am very lucky to have known these girls for so long and to have kept close friendships with each of them.


    We all know each other too, so I don’t have to do any sort of introductions. 

    EDIT: This post makes me sound really old. I’m in my early 30’s.


    Post # 12
    2066 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I have 6 and sometimes i feel a bit silly for having too many so i voted i wish i had less. BUT i adore my girl friends and feel blessed to have them. i voted it was difficult to choose only because i had another friend whose wedding i was in – i felt bad not including her but we just aren’t close any more. otherwise, i feel good about my decision. my fiance only selected 5 groomsmen and his brother unfortunately can’t attend the wedding (military) so we will be super uneven.

    Post # 13
    1674 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Waldorf Astoria, Chicago

    I have 5, my three sisters, my best friend (MOH) and my Future Sister-In-Law.  It was an easy decision, there are two other good friends I would have loved to have in my wedding, but 5 was more then enough, and once you start asking other friends I felt like others would be offended that they weren’t in the wedding.

    Post # 14
    3765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I had three:

    Maid/Matron of Honor – my best friend since we were 5 yrs old

    Bridesmaid or Best Man #1 – my best friend from college, who I’ve known almost 10 yrs

    Bridesmaid or Best Man #2 – my SIL

    I would have had a 4th, another friend from college who I’ve known almost 10 years, but she is in the Air Force and was stationed in Korea at the time.

    Post # 15
    1274 posts
    Bumble bee

    I will have 4 bridesmaids. I struggled with choosing a bit in the beginning because I have a bunch of girlfriends that I am close with, but no sisters or anything. It came down to, who I knew ten years down the line I would still be good friends with. You know, the people who stick by your side no matter what happens in life? 

    My Maid/Matron of Honor has been one of my very best friends for a long time. We met in grade four.

    My cousin who is a couple years younger than me, we are very close. She lived with my family at one point, so it was a no brainer to include her.

    My friend I have known since grade nine – we were besties all through highschool, fell out of  constant contact for a couple years during college but then were right back in the same city and it was like things never changed.

    The last bridesmaid is a girlfriend I haven’t known for as long as the others. She used to date my FI’s close friend, so we met at a wedding about 5.5 years ago and became great friends right away, we have a lot in common. She and my FI’s friend broke up about a year later, but they are friendly towards each other. Which is good, because he’s in the wedding party too! 🙂

    Post # 16
    449 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - The Villa

    This thread makes me feel like I’m doing this wrong. LOL! I have 9 bridesmaids… (well 8 right now because as of last night, 1 still hasn’t responded).

    1. His Sister

    2. My best childhood friend

    3. 4. 5. & 6. friends from college (including the MoH)

    7. the mutual friend who introduced us

    8. my 1st cousin

    9.? my sister/cousin – it’s a long story.

    Right now I’m debating whether or not I need to make either #8 or #2 a matron of honor. The truth is, I’d rather not choose between them (they are both married or will be by the time I get married). I was the maid of honor in #2’s wedding so even though I know there are no backsies in weddings, I know she’ll feel weird about not being named maid of honor so i thought matron was a nice way to pacify her. Then #8 is supposed to be getting married in august 2014 and she mentioned naming me her maid of honor O_O… geez. I honestly wish I could cut this list by about 3 people. I’d get rid of 2 of the friends from college (but one would have the hissy fit of a lifetime for being leftout). Ah well. All these ladies love me and I guess there are worse problems then everyone wanting to support you.

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