(Closed) How many bridesmaids and how do you know them?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: How many bridesmaids?

    Just 1 or 2


    More than 5

    I wish I had more

    I'm good with how many I have

    I wish I had fewer

    It was easy to choose

    It was hard to choose

  • Post # 17
    5152 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    My Fiance is king of having friends and being in other’s wedding parties. He felt bad not inviting all of those guys to be in his so he is having 9 groomsmen. 

    I am having 7 bridesmaids. Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister, 3 are friends (2 from high school/1 from college), FI’s sister and FI’s two cousins. The cousins are close to him like sisters, and I didn’t want such an uneven number (5 vs. 9 though at first he said he may have 14!!!!) so I added them in as well. If he was having something like 5-6 guys, I prob would have just had his sister, my sister and three friends. 

    Post # 18
    180 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I have 3 Bridesmaids and 2 Junior bridesmaids.

    BM# 1 is my cousin who I grew up with. The house she grew up in was behind the house I grew up in.

    BM#2 is a friend I have had since 5th grade.

    BM#3 is my fabulous friend I met in high school then he and I got really close when we started cheering on the same competitive cheer team.

    Jr BM#1 is my niece who I have had a big roll in her life

    JrBM #2 is my Fi’s younger sister

    I did not struggle with picking my ladies (and gent). They are all important pieces in my life.

    Post # 19
    1063 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts

    I have 4. Maid of honor is best friend from college, but known her since high school. 2nd Bridesmaid or Best Man is my other best friend/close friend that I have known since college. 3rd Bridesmaid or Best Man is close friend and coworker and the 4th Bridesmaid or Best Man is one of finances sisters. On one hand I am ok with the number but I would have been fine with only 3. When you get to having more than a couple, issues do come about such as getting them all together at the same time, etc. Grooms sister caused a little friction during their dress trials. Hopefully the other BMs will overlook her when we meet up again for the next event, which won’t probably be until the bridal shower thank God.

    Post # 20
    133 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I had a 6 person bridal party. 5 girls and 1 bridesman. It was pretty easy for me to choose, but my husband had a more difficult time choosing/narowing down his groomsmen. 

    My bridal party consisted of my sister, 1 high school friend (who I also went to college with), 2 college friends, and 2 post-college friends- I met them both as co-workers, but we no longer work together. 

    Post # 21
    2113 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    @MrsSmitty:  I’m having either 5 or six. I only wanted 4, but didn’t want to narrow it down. My best friend is going to be my maid of honor. We’ve known each other for so long, we don’t remember how or when we met. Like, we were kids.

    I then have 3 super close best friends but not as close as my Maid/Matron of Honor that will be bridesmaids. One I’ve known since birth, our moms are best friends, her parents are  my godparents. She’s never lived in town, though, so we grew a bit apart. We still get along and I tell her everything, I just don’t see her very often. One I met in middle school. She lived a couple blocks away and we rode the same bus and we’d hang out every day. She’s had it rough over the years and I try to be there for her. She’s always there for me. The third is another friend I met my freshman year of high school. She helped me and FI get together and we still keep in touch.

    Number 5 will either be another bridesmaid or a matron of honor, my sister. I love her and want her there. Her daughter will be the flower girl, so I may incorporate that, like have them walk together?

    Number 6 will either be a bridesmaid or the ringbearer bearer. Fiance wants our cat to be the ring bearer, but we all know how impractical that is, so she’d be the one carrying him and looking after him. Thus is FIs sister. Their relationship is a little strained, so I told him that he got to choose her role. I’d be more than happy to have her as a bridesmaid, but if things take a turn, I’m comfortable with giving her another role or none depending on how he feels.

    In the same vein, I know that I want my brother to be a groomsman and Fiance says that he’s fine with this. Other than that, he has so many friends that he said to just let him know how many he needed and he’d pick. He doesn’t really have a best friend, more a bunch of equally close good friends. All people he’d be ok with having by his side, but no one who sticks out as to Definitely him, Definitely not him, etc.

    Post # 22
    2852 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I have 7. I wanted 5, but I have 2 sisters (was not originally including them, as we aren’t very close and my middle sister can be a piece of work), but due to Future Mother-In-Law drama I felt compelled to include my sisters. Hopefully it will work out.


    Maid/Matron of Honor: my best friend since 7th grade

    2 BMs: close friends since 1st grade

    Bridesmaid or Best Man: close family friend that I’ve known since birth

    Bridesmaid or Best Man: close friend for the past few years, her husband is FI’s coworker and a groomsman–they are our best couple friends (lol)

    2 Bridesmaid or Best Man: my sisters

    Post # 23
    1394 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I have 5. My best friend is my Maid/Matron of Honor and then her sister and my 3 sisters are my bridesmaids.



    Fiance only has 2.


    Post # 24
    8482 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I have two. One of them I’ve known for 10 years, and the other I’ve known for around 8 years, so it was easy to choose them.

    Post # 25
    3274 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We’re having 6. Every wedding I’ve been to has had 5-8 BMs. I am considering adding 2 more because we’re really close and they keep literally begging me to be in the wedding. 

    My girls are 2 friends from high school, 1 lifelong friend, 1 friend from college and 2 are FI’s sisters. The other two I may add are from college. Honestly I could easily have 20 BMs if I wanted but I would go insane lol

    Fiance has 6 groomsmen: 3 friends from high school, his brother, my brother and a cousin. He wants to add his best friends from college but that’d be 5 more and idk if we have room. 

    Post # 26
    1589 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Just two. My sister and my best friend. I debated asking his two very close female cousins but opted against it. Didn’t want them to feel obligated financially.

    Post # 27
    2167 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @MrsSmitty:  Only two…my sister and my SIL (my brother’s wife). Family is more important than anything else and to be honest I don’t have any other girlfriends that are anywhere near as close to me as my family is.

    Post # 28
    841 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    @MrsSmitty:  I have 6:

    1. Maid/Matron of Honor – My sister.
    2. My BFF since I was 5.
    3. My friend since I was 9.
    4. My friend since I was 14.
    5. My BFF from university since I was 18.
    6. My Future Sister-In-Law.

    I planned on having 4, Fiance wanted 6 and it would’ve actually been kind of hard to cut one or two of them.

    Post # 29
    732 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @MrsSmitty:  Three for me, and I’m very happy about it! My Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister, one bridesmaid has been a best friend since we were 2 and the other is best friend from high school. One of the best perks to a smaller bridal party is you can afford to spend a little bit more per person for gifts, asking them to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, etc.!

    Post # 30
    8573 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    We are having 2 bms and 2 gms.

    1 is my brothers fiance, 1 is my fi’s sister [love them both to death].

    1 of the gms is my brother, haven’t decided on the other gm yet [fi can’t decide]

    Post # 31
    220 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I had 5. My MoH was my sister, I had my Future Sister-In-Law, 2 cousins and a friend from college. I had put a lot of thought into my choice before I was even engaged. DH had 5 guys as well, Bridesmaid or Best Man was his friend, my brother and 3 cousins. He was a Groomsmen in 2/3 of his cousins weddings and knew for YEARS they would be in his.

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